i was introduced to a man friend through a girlfriend and he was a minister which i like that about him, because i feel that he would be able to help me grow morer spiritually just as i could help him i'am a widower and he is a widow but the morer i get to know him i have found that he has never worked and is al wayasking me to marry him i feel that i still do not know him that well but i also feel he is looking for someone to take care of him i also found out he does not make morer then me and that all that he has came from his wife and her children is takeing that includeing the home he is liveing in i have had a hard time getting my finances in order since my husband died i cannot afford to take care of someone else he also look sickly and i have been through that too with my husband and do feel i should have to be a care taker again for awhile i just want to enjoy what life i have left do you think i'am right to stick to my plan and leave this man alone?
2006-10-12 07:39:42 · 7 answers · asked by mishoney 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You are a very smart woman. You need no other opinions.
2006-10-12 07:44:59 · answer #1 · answered by Roxton P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I read alot of judgment in your words, what do you like about him? marriage is in sickness and health for richer or poorer, you should never base your feelings about someone about how they can contribute finacially or how they look...
on the other hand, you need to take into account how long has your husband been gone? Have you always had a man in your life? Consider living on your own so that you can discover who you are and who you are to become the way God wants you to be. Relying on a man first and then God second is never a good thing and you need to assess that if you marry or don't marry it is for the right reasons, based on God's standards, and not your own or the way society percieves it.
It would be a good idea to leave this man alone, for the fact that any minister should be leading you not alone, but with more people say as a group setting so that no one will fall under the sin of lust. It would be so much more beneficial for you to find a woman minister to study and learn from, so that you do not give satan a foot hold in your vulnerablities or any man's. When you are ready and IF God has it for you to marry, He will put the right man in your path, not sooner, and certainly not later.
God's timing is perfect, and He is Good all the time.
God Bless, sista!
Love, shannon
2006-10-12 14:50:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not know the whole story,but just from what you said here I would at least put the brakes on ,,just to give yourself time to really check out his intentions...If your gut feeling says to leave him alone,then I would go by that.Sometimes we ignore our gut feelings and usually they are 99% true.
2006-10-12 14:44:40 · answer #3 · answered by jeanette98070 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget it. Don't get involved with him whatsoever. He wants a free ride and you need to get yourself together before you can get invoved with someone again. Do not let him move in with you, ever!!! Enjoy your life, get together with firends and that's where it ends. You need now your own time.
2006-10-12 14:45:45 · answer #4 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take your time. A woman does not need a man to complete her. When a woman is complete unto herself, she has more value.
A man is a bonus, not a necessity.
2006-10-12 14:45:49 · answer #5 · answered by Epona Willow 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Drop him like a hot potato,He is a user.A real wolf in sheep's clothing.
2006-10-12 15:03:52 · answer #6 · answered by gwhiz1052 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that is fine. It does not mean that you cannot be friends with him.
2006-10-12 14:44:48 · answer #7 · answered by Sldgman 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋