I am a KEPT HUSBAND?

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I live in central ohio, if you understand this statement, then you can answer this for me. emotionally or mentally abuse, unwanted, unloved and all alone. suicide is on my mind, but not to worry. I am tired, I am tired of being analyzed. I would like to find a club or group in my area. I am phucking up in all areas of my life -losing weight, sleeping and just do not give a damn anymore of how I look. yes, I am depressed but I feel so insignificant. thanks for caring. I am sincere in my statements. thanks for listening.

yes, I am on medication too but still this is how i feel

I have read all of your kind words--I do work fulltime, I will write each one that left me emails and said so. I will click on links that were sent and I will go back to my doctor. I thank all of you for responding---jh

Answer 1

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Answer 2

You've basically given up haven't you? You need to make a stand. There are so many things you could do if you can be bothered to do them! Don't let people walk all over you and don't be a mouse! If things are that bad then get out of Ohio and move to another state or country! If suicide seems like a viable option then moving away should be a piece of cake........and a lot less catastrophic! You only have one life so do something with it rather than moping about. Life is short enough as it is, so try to make the most of it. Do something for charity, go to help in Africa, try to start your own business, find a few penpals on the net. Do anything but don't stagnate. Why not even start by figuring out why you're unloved/depressed/mentally abused and then make the change. It's up to you!

Answer 3

I am sorry you're going through those feelings. Talk to your wife about them. Maybe the two of you can get away and spend some time together. If you are depressed, there's plenty of anti-depressant meds. I've heard that they work. You are NOT insignificant! Do you have any family around you? If you feel you can't talk to your wife, find a friend or family member or anyone you feel close to and just talk. Or go to a counselor. That's what they're there for. Go get a new haircut and some new clothes. Make yourself feel good about yourself. Volunteer somewhere to help others or at an animal shelter or something. And most of all, don't give up the wonderful gift of LIFE! Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 4

You are definitely in a state of clinical depression, based on what you have written. There are wonderful medications that can help you. This is a chemical imbalance, like diabetes. The serotonin in your brain is what is phucked up, not you!! Please see a doctor asap. There is help!!!

PLEASE write me at [e-mail] to let me know that you have done this and that you are OK. I care.

Then start slowly doing ONE thing differently until you are comfortable with that, then make another change, then another. Since you mention weight loss and also mention a group, you might try Overeaters Anonymous. They are a 12 step group but not necessarily a weight loss group. They will accept you for who you are and where you are right now.

The first thing you need to get done is to take care of the physical manifestation of depression. Go to a doctor right now! Turn off the computer and just do it. Don't think about it. Just do it. If you don't have a doctor then go to the ER. There is no need to keep living like this when you don't have to.

Answer 5

Hey, dont think about it friend your deserve to live as much as the rest of us here. Your not insignificant, your a very important person in your life! (and no doubt others lives too!) Focus on positive thoughts, doing things positive (for you and others) and your life will feel alot more positive with good things happening. Dont give up mate, if your at rock bottom already then the only way to go from there is up! It will take time, patience and a whole heap of optimism, but you'll get there. You'll then see how great life can be! good luck friend x

Answer 6

Is the problem with you, or with your wife? Why are you depressed and miserable? Is it because she makes you that way, or do you do it to yourself? Does your wife try to understand you, cheer you up, etc? Are you abusive to her or is she abusive to you, you did not specify.

Just because you're on medication, does not mean that you're on the RIGHT mediciation. We're not doctors and we can't diagnose, nor treat you. You need to see a licensed therapist who can help you with these thoughts and feelings, and who can prescribe you something that works for you. On average, it can take up to SIX years for your doctor to get you on the right medicine/dosage so give it time and try different things out.

I assure you, while it's not much comfort, you're not alone in feeling this way. Many people in the world are depressed, and some have it worse than others, but you just have to choose to pick up the pieces, continue on with your life, and make the best of those times. It can't stay bad forever, and while death may seem the perfect solution to you, I ask you, how would your wife, family, kids, etc, feel?

Suicide is for selfish people, they end it all and leave others to clean up their messes, and hurt over them. Don't be selfish, instead learn to deal with your problems effectively, you'll be glad you did.

Answer 7

Perhaps you should find a source of income of your own so you can get rid of the first "shackle" that seems to be depressing you. Sometimes independence is the most important thing, even if it means living at a "lower standard". The biggest cause of mental & emotional abuse is someone wanting to keep you down & control you so they won't lose you. You are going to have to find a way to get out of this situation. I know that is easier said than done, but you can do it if you set your mind to it. When I am feeling down or trapped where my life is this quote always makes me feel better---"None of us knows what the next change is going to be, what unexpected opportunity is just around the corner, waiting a few months or a few years to change all the tenor of our lives."--Kathleen Norris

Answer 8

You don't love yourself,WHY? If your being abused in ANY way then I'm sorry for you but only YOU can change that.You are NOT trash,YOU are here for a reason you just need to figure out what it is.Maybe it's NOT to be a kept husband being abused by the one who's supposed to love you.LOVE YOURSELF!!!God does and I do.YOU have to pick yourself up .Find the beauty in your life.It's there hidding behind your depression,just waiting to come out and show YOU what YOU have been missing.Volunteer to help others.There is NO greater feeling than being able to help someone who needs it,maybe then you'll realize that YOU deserve help too.Nothing will put your life in persective like a hospital full of sick kids or home full of lonely seniors.YOUR LIFE MATTERS.Do something with it.You'll feel better,I promise.

Answer 9

Take on a hobby. A good one for you might be the Ohio State Buckeyes football team. Start working out. This will help you feel better immediately. Talk to your friends and family about what's bothering you and see what they suggest. Start caring for others more the way you'd like to be loved, it's amazing how fast you'll see results. Good luck, hang in there. Life IS worth living!

Answer 10

It sounds to me like you need to get out and get a JOB. Don't spend time reminiscing about the bad ****. If everyone put all their effort into that we would all want to the same thing you do. Be strong and be a man. there is more to life then depression. Find something that interests you and keeps your mind at ease. If you had a hand in helping build you and your wife's life then you will feel wanted, needed and significant. Good luck, and remember to breathe.

Answer 11

Please seek medical attention for your depression - there are medications that can help to alleviate the emotions you are experiencing. A counselor can also be of assistance in helping you to overcome and deal with any issues that are troubling you. Sometimes we may feel all alone but help and comfort is only a question away. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness but a desire to overcome something that is blocking our capabilities to experience joy and happiness within our lives. And though it may be just a cliche to some - God never gives us more than we can bear. Take care of yourself.