I am in a crazy situation and I need your insights because my brain is not thinking too clearly.
I met this girl in Orlando who is a 'callgirl'. We kind of 'connected' and went on dates while I spent about 6000 in July06 on her.
I came back to my college and we kept in touch on the phone.
I went back to visit her for my bday recently 3 weeks back.
Last weekend, she asked me to western union her 500 which I did by asking my bro for it and told her to pay it back as it is my brothers money. She said ok and then did not call or pickup my calls for 4 days straight.
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crazy situation alert:
after repeatedly trying to call her with no response after 4 days, I concluded she pretty much is done with me. I leave her some messages telling her what I think and stopped calling.
1) she calls me today and left a message: claims she was in the hospital. now shes mad at me coz i called her a *****. She admitted that she was with me only for the money ..contd. below...
2006-10-12 07:18:57 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she admits she used me for my moneu and I was supposed to be her "sugardaddy nothin more"
I still love her but dont know what to do...I think I wanna be in touch with her.
QUESTION: 1) what are some good ways to diffuse the situation ?
2) Now that we both confronted that she was using me for my money, how can I let her be my gf like everyone else without her just being after my money? In other words, what are some good ways to blossom a healthy relationship?
Please give any other advice and suggestions.
Thanks.
2006-10-12 07:23:04 · update #1
I don't understand the problem, if you hate women, why are you still after one? You like men now!
2006-10-12 07:21:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well it is her job to be in it for the money so I hope your not surprised. It's a total loss, never call her or write her again...and please don't wire her or any other girl any more money unless its your sister. If this was a normal girl I'd say you jumped the gun calling her a @#*!@ after just 4 days of not getting ahold of her...and in that case would have screwed things up for yourself....don't say things you cant retract..... once you demean someone or call them really bad names that will stick with them.....and what if there had been some emergency and you went and said terrible things on her answering mach. but as I said...IF it had been a normal girl and normal relationship. You didn't ruin a good thing this time luckily. Slow down on the spending when dating and see if the girl is still interested...if its love, she wont want or need expensive dates as long as she is with you. If you wanna spend $ for sex, do it with a call girl, its cheaper than trying to impress
2006-10-12 07:29:15 · answer #2 · answered by akamadscientist 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run, Run quickly and do not look back. She is a "professional" and you do not want to get any more involved than you are. Consider the $6500 the cost of a ticket for a life lesson.
If you do not, she will continue to attempt to milk you for all additional money that she can, probably with more and more wild stories.
2006-10-12 07:25:07 · answer #3 · answered by Cid 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi... your questions was about a "girlfriend problem"... I think you are confused... callgirl and girlfriend are NOT the same thing... she used you for money... learn from the mistake and move on... you will have to pay your brother the money back. Oh yeah and cut the strings with that girl.
2006-10-12 07:24:03 · answer #4 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like the Movie Punch Drunk Love. Anyway, if you have known this girl this long and still you two are not in a serious relationship, than you probely never will. I think you need to tell her ypu are moveing on and she had a chance with you. If she cares about you, than she will come around. Trust me.
2006-10-12 07:24:10 · answer #5 · answered by stephen 1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, She is abusive, controlling and insecure. she won't take you for all you money, she has no theory how, if she did, she'd of left that area secret. Why a committed guy could have enormously woman on a internet site is somewhat bit a pink flag, yet she's nonetheless overstepping obstacles by using getting into on your account and yet , deleting and blockading very own contacts of yours. Ouch. Her abusive dating left some scars that she desires to get appeared at., that's not effortless to you that she will't believe you. in case you extremely love her ( God love you), then confront her in a peaceful and loving way, according to probability on an identical time as giving her a back rubdown?, and in basic terms tell her you're conerned for her and which you're commencing as much as experience disillusioned which includes your dating. evaluate going to counseling together with her ( you comprehend she is gonna make you bypass) and think of with regard to the stairs she will ought to take to repair her concepts. that's going to take months. Lay off the nights out with friends for somewhat, in case you extremely love her, you will paintings on issues extremely of having indignant and retreating. She is being disrespectfull and hurtful, and it desires to resign. Normaly, i could say intense tail your butt out of there, whether that's not that effortless once you're married and marriage is sacred. you ought to objective, by way of fact in case you ultimately walk away, you ought to experience such as you tried your suited.
2016-10-16 03:03:05 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude i know that your heart and your head aren't always on the same page but, this has trouble written all over it. if i were you I'd get lost. but i know what it's like being with someone who's no good for you and that's my heart talking... so i understand you. the only thing i can say is that you can be with her, but leave your money in your wallet where it belongs until you feel that that is no longer an issue.
2006-10-12 07:37:53 · answer #7 · answered by Julz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god i can't believe you put yourself out there like that it seems like your a real descent guy but you didn't know this woman or girl like that first of all you should not spend that much money on a girl unless she's your girlfriend and the big no no was that she was a call girl they don't want anything but your money and tell you the truth the only thing she was thinking of was that she hit the jack pot please you gave her all the satisfaction she really didn't not deserve your too cool for that get someone who likes you for you and not what you can give them good luck sorry about he money next time please think next time.
2006-10-12 07:30:52 · answer #8 · answered by honey bun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you expect, she is a call girl. She probably was in the hospital but your first instinct is to think she is playing you. So she shouldn't be mad at you, I hope you got the money back.
2006-10-12 07:26:08 · answer #9 · answered by Stac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to be the one who tells you this, but I am sure that this girl is milking you for your money. And "I was in the hospital" is a textbook excuse for disapearing for a few weeks while she had your money. I'm not telling you to end the relationship if you don't want to. But whatever you do, PLEASE stop giving her your money!!!
2006-10-12 07:26:10 · answer #10 · answered by DivaBel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, if it is really important to get the money back then get a law suit, or at least threaten to. and get the support of any friends who know you gave her the money.
2006-10-12 07:22:36 · answer #11 · answered by bad gurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋