my boyfriend seems to be still grieving over his ex and in the meantime he isn't giving me the intimacy that I need. I don't think I am being unreasonable because everyone has a grieving period for the loss of any relationship. I don't know if he wants me to end our relationship out of frustration (easy out for him to go back to the ex) or is he just going through a phase?
2006-10-12 07:12:32 · 9 answers · asked by stella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we have been together for a year and a half. I think he loves both me and the ex.
2006-10-12 07:17:46 · update #1
it could be for both reasons....the thing is he hasn't moved on and it doesnt seem as if he's trying too. i know that this must be hard for you and i know you want to be there for him but your only human, you can only take so much...what you need to do is have a serious talk with him....and ask him what it is that he wants....tell him because you feel that you are being pulled into something that you do not deserved to be pulled into...you need to also tell him that you feel as though you are being pushed away and that it isn't fair to you, so if you ever decide to ask him what it is that he wants...and it seems as if he's having a hard time telling you.... then i think you should consider leaving....because when we want something it is so easy for us to say it...when we're not so sure about something thats when we don't know what we want....and at this point he may not know what he wants..but you need to ask yourself...is it really fair to you for him to string you along...think about it!
2006-10-12 07:47:48 · answer #1 · answered by tanya m 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You already have the answer, you don't want to see it..grieving period finishes when you met, then all bells started to ring and love is in the air. If this is not happening then he is not in the same mood you are..Sorry it is time to leave..give him time, make him come to you but let him know how much you are worth, don't let him think you are his crying pillow, if he goes there is somebody already born that will knock at your door at any moment.
Love yourself first, then you will be able to love anybody
2006-10-12 14:22:34 · answer #2 · answered by camilito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it's time for a break. Don't stop talking to him, but don't incorporate any emotion and don't see him. It will force the issue a bit. He will have to decide if your companionship is worth more than his selfish grieving over what he had. Suggest that you hope he will choose a future with you over a past with her and you are there, but you can't be expected to wait for him forever.
2006-10-12 14:23:59 · answer #3 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not giving the relationship his all, and he's still attached to his ex. It sounds like he's on a rebound, I'm sorry but, you should break up with him, look after yourself instead of waiting, break it off. He's cheating on you emotionally.
2006-10-12 14:26:07 · answer #4 · answered by Yokihana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you should be involved with anyone if they cant give you 100%. if he is thinking/grieving his ex, then he is comparing her to you. you deserve better than that. i say move on and find someone who is into you and only you.
2006-10-12 14:16:34 · answer #5 · answered by livsmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, if he's not 100% over his ex how can he be 100% in to you? Leave him....
2006-10-12 14:22:25 · answer #6 · answered by bayougigolo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats to long to do that to you ya gotta end it
2006-10-12 14:29:47 · answer #7 · answered by Princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends how long it has been.
2006-10-12 14:15:17 · answer #8 · answered by dj nkro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im me gurl
2006-10-12 15:18:54 · answer #9 · answered by James R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋