I have been with my boyfriend for almost two months and really like him. He is super nice and treats me very well, everything is great except for the sex. I am a very sexual person and sex has always been important to me, I have broken up with guys before because of bad sex. Basically the sex SUCKS!! He does "other things" that are good but it is just not enough. What would you do if you were in my position? Stay with him, or leave him?? PLEASE only serious answers. If you have any thoughts that would help me, I would like to hear them. Also I would like to hear from any guys with non-sarcastic opinions. Thanks in Advance!!
2006-10-12 07:07:17 · 27 answers · asked by jasam4ever08 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
All I can say is: he pleases you with his "other things" but not with the main event but you really like him, perhaps taking charge yourself and showing him how to have great sex?
You need to consider your future as well, marriage might be far away but you need to be with someone you can see yourself with, a future together and if he is really nice and perhaps has the propect of being that people then you should do what you can to help him out.
Relationships are work, not joyrides. You can find a hunk who is great in bed but treats you like crap and has no future or you can help a great guy that might have a future out.
Your choice
2006-10-12 07:12:02 · answer #1 · answered by Karce 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you can talk to him, do that. Explain what it is you want, not being demanding or giving him directions, just discuss what you like, what you would like to try, that kind of thing. It may be difficult at first, but being able to talk openly about sex will enhance your sex life and your relationship. My ex-husband was lousy in bed and just wouldn't discuss anything. My boyfriend, that I have been seeing for almost 6 months, is so open to trying different things and just whatever I want. I had never been with someone that you could talk to like this before. It is amazing and worth the effort. Good Luck!!
2006-10-12 07:11:35 · answer #2 · answered by Christina 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, thanks for asking my question. Well, kind of. I'm pretty much in the same boat. Been together for 2 months. Really like him. But my problem is not enough sex and the occassional "bad" times. But, my biggest obstacle is how to talk to him about these things. But for the "bad" sex, just try to tell him what you like and what you don't like during or while he's doing things. Try moving his hands and whispering "I like that". If this desn't improve, yeah, leave him. Sex can make or break a relationship.
2006-10-12 07:37:48 · answer #3 · answered by Yahoo! Answers Chic 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he's a great guy and the only thing that is lacking is sex, I would suggest that you teach him how to make love to you. Men know the basics obviously, but what works for one woman might not work for the next. He is not a mind reader, you have to tell a man what it is that you want. Communication is the key to great sex sweetie. Good luck and enjoy.:)
2006-10-12 07:14:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay- first , how old are you - thats important. Because if you two are young then you have a lot of sexual growing up to do in every aspect.
second- what is bad sex??
do you have to do all the work? is his d*c* small? does he not work it well? Or does he c*m too fast?
If i were you, give it time - and maybe if you initiate more and show him a few tricks, he'll catch on.
2006-10-12 07:12:55 · answer #5 · answered by ♥kailababy♥ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to him tell him in a nice way what you feel is lacking in your sex life and explain or even better yet show him what it is that you want a healthy relationship should withstand this and things should get better there is nothing more sexual then open communication
2006-10-12 07:14:56 · answer #6 · answered by poconewyorkwanda 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Finding a good guy is hard to do. If you plan on dumping him because of sex you are selfish. Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. Oh By The Way there are not many men out there who are good in the bed. I got the only one left.
2006-10-12 07:09:49 · answer #7 · answered by Clints_wench 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Sounds like you are in a whole lot of trouble. Calm down, just talk to him. Think do you really like him really,really? If you do don't dump him because of sex! Talk 2 him and tell him what Ur problems are hormones aren't everything.
2006-10-12 07:22:36 · answer #8 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give it time it will get better. Or watch a porno together. Say do that and that and this. Then you can get it to where you like it. If you really like him you'll work on it. If you don't have the time and are only considering yourself then move on. If it is something like he's not hung well then your out of luck.
2006-10-12 07:12:09 · answer #9 · answered by Daniel R 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to talk to him about it, let him know that sex is very important to you. If you are having sex with him then you should be comfortable to tell him what you like and what you don’t like. If he doesn’t know, then he can’t get better RIGHT? After you talk to him about it if he just doesn’t like any of the same things you do, then you really shouldn’t be together, since sex is so important to you.
2006-10-12 07:10:50 · answer #10 · answered by jdbbussiness 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋