the only way i found out was because i answerd his phone and it was her we been together for three years and we have a 8mos baby gilr together he is helping me raise my 7 year old and he never did anything like this befor he been really good to me i had a very bad past with men and he is an angel comper to the other one i dont want to make excuses but i also have a 13 year old who didnt live with me untial a month ago and thats when this happen as soon as i got my son back he said he was overwelm with every thing and that thats why he did it it was a girl who works in the same building as him everyone wentout for drinks and they end up kissing one time and that was it i love him but i dont know what to do he has said sorry over and over again he explains every scond of his day to me he calls me from work hourly but i need help i know what my friends say and some say stay give it a chance and some say run out but i want to here from some one whos been in my place thank you
2006-10-12 06:49:16 · 16 answers · asked by the shy one 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would leave, and I think that no matter what, you are worth more than that. no need to worry beyond that. if you were already married then my advice would be different, but since your not, walk away now and dont take a chance it will happen again to you.
2006-10-12 07:27:36 · answer #1 · answered by cricketwinner@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a good thing you learned what kind of man your fiance really is before marrying him. Now let him know while you appreciate the good things he's done for you in the past it is now time to say a fond farewell. You'll discover you already have what it takes to care for yourself and your kids without his assistance. Yes, it will be tough at first but God will give you the strength to endure until you see the light at the end of the tunnel. Have a little faith in your own ability to make things right for yourself and you'll be amazed at the incredible life you are going to have without this guy.
2006-10-12 14:18:07 · answer #2 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A fiancee is someone who is planning to marry you. That means cheating is out. Since trust is the most important ingredient in a marriage, you aren't starting out well. If he is sorry he cheated and you feel you can forgive him and trust him again, give it a try. But set a wedding date with him. Three years is a long enough engagement. If he refuses to set a date or he cheats again, then I'd leave.
2006-10-12 06:55:11 · answer #3 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first, he is no angel, an angel would not cheat on his fiance. Second, you should NEVER marry someone you cannot trust. You should re-evaluate your relationship, so you really want to be with a man you cannot trust, those issues have a way of sneaking up on you constantly and forever. Good Luck with whatever you choose to do, just make sure it is best for you, not the most convenient thing there is.
2006-10-12 06:53:10 · answer #4 · answered by sweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One...if you need to know "what your friend's say" ask them and not here. That is unless THESE ARE your friends. In which case that would explain a lot.
Two..I have a bad habit of reading like a speed demon because there is a significant lack of punctuation. I'm having a most difficult time trying to see just what you're driving at here.
2006-10-12 06:55:51 · answer #5 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to have a long talk and figure what do you expect from your relationship, family, the responsibility of the children, etc. You are the only one who can decide if you stay with your fiancee or not.
2006-10-12 06:54:26 · answer #6 · answered by buddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have your children involved in this relationship, so is he open to going to counseling with you to resolve this "overwhelming" that he is feeling. Mine cheated on me, and promised never again, my children are/were involved in the relationship, also. He's cheated again. Look long and hard, and follow your heart. If you do, and make sure your children are taken care of then you will make the wise decision. We cannot always tell our hearts who to love, but do not mess with our children.
2006-10-12 07:41:15 · answer #7 · answered by Brenda W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well girl u need to tell him that if he cant be fathfull to u and only to then it is not going to work he can stell see the baby and help u with her cuz it talkes to to make a baby
2006-10-12 06:53:09 · answer #8 · answered by angelgirl_hottie20032003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, ya can't trust each other and your not going to years down the road.
2006-10-12 06:51:41 · answer #9 · answered by Ben 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was overwhelmed so that's why he cheated. Surely you aren't thinking of buying that excuse?
2006-10-12 06:53:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋