Should you just put up with them, even though they talk about you and gossip behind your back, just so your kids can know their family? Or do you protect them by keeping them away from them?
2006-10-12 06:48:13 · 11 answers · asked by Michelle 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The problem is my husbands family. His mother is the worst. We have dropped out of family gatherings and such. It has been afew years since we have even talked to her. My daughter who is 6 hasn't seen her since she was about 2 and my son has never seen her. There is alot of tension in the family and we are always being riticules for not being a part of family events etc...
2006-10-12 06:59:57 · update #1
I ignore the bad apples in my family too, especially my husbands side of the family. I ignore them, so I don't say something to them that I shouldn't. And i want to say something to them everytime iam around them. I try to keep my child away from most of them, cause most of them are liars, and pill poppers or used to be. And i don't want my daughter around that.
2006-10-12 06:50:45 · answer #1 · answered by *AMY* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a very hard question, If you think you can put up with them so your children can know them then you probably should but on the other hand are they going to say something about you that your kids might hear. I cant really answer because I dont know what I would do, just follow your heart and it will lead you in the right direction.
2006-10-12 13:52:50 · answer #2 · answered by bradosmom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's really hard but the best thing to do is to stop acknowledging that this stuff bothers you. Do not protect grown people from themselves. This is what is known as enabling. My two children have no contact with my alcoholic sisters. They are the only blood relatives that we all have in common, but I refuse to condone the self-destructive life style they live. I love my sisters but, we cannot be a close family until they admit their alcoholism and seek treatment. Good luck.
2006-10-12 14:20:55 · answer #3 · answered by Lynda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like these are people your kids need to know! I can't imagine subjecting children to "bad apples" if the adults don't even like being around them. PROTECT KIDS- you never know what harm these bad ones are going to do to your kids or what kind of trash they'll say. They could tell your kids "Don't tell your mom this, but......" and you'd never know.
2006-10-12 13:54:53 · answer #4 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF POSSIBLE BE TOLERANT OF OTHERS.
FOR YOUR CHILDREN RELATIVES ARE FAMILY.
AVOID CONFRONTATIONS-IF THINGS GET WORST, YOU MAY HAVE TO DROP OUT OF FAMILY CIRCLES WHEN SUCH "BAD APPLES" ARE AROUND.
DON'T BE STEPPED ON AND PUSHED AROUND.
SOMETIMES A WORD AIMED DIRECTLY AT PEOPLE AT THE RIGHT TIME SHUTS THEM UP.
SURELY OTHERS FAMILY MEMBERS SEE THIS TYPE OF BEHAVIOR AND FIND IT UNACCEPTABLE.
2006-10-12 13:55:31 · answer #5 · answered by cork 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I put up with them. It sucks. Half of my family seems level...the other half is messed up. I keep in touch w/post cards and phone calls now and again, with the exception of my mother. My mother is mentally ill ....I have cut all ties with her...to protect my sanity and my child from being subjected to any form of abuse she is capable of.
2006-10-12 13:53:00 · answer #6 · answered by Win 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if they were not family members would you feel the same. You say you want your children to know THESE people. how odd.You know them better than we do, and you will have to choose. But if it were me I would not introduce any one to my children unless they were worth knowing. unless you want to use them as very bad examples, but in that case you should advise the relatives of your view and motive for the introduction
2006-10-12 13:55:00 · answer #7 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO...just cause you guys are related doesn't mean you have to tolerate BS...if it makes you feel any better call from time to time to make sure everything is ok...and keep it short
2006-10-12 13:50:00 · answer #8 · answered by Cassie 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
it doesnt make u a bad person.u just have to pretend that u can tolerate each other.yepp yepp!
2006-10-12 13:53:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's wrong!! I ignore my sister all the time but not because she gossips. it's because she is a drug addict!
2006-10-12 14:00:51 · answer #10 · answered by bdbarbie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋