The lady I am dating is 24 and has two children. One is 5 and the other is 3, but she is afraid to have sex with me because she says she is still a virgin. I know..I laughed at first too because lots of women joke that they are a virgin as their kids cling to their legs, but their statement is usually followed by a laugh because they were joking. In her case she isn't joking. She says she has never had sex (I haven't gotten intimate enough to confirm anything) and became pregnant by receiving donor sperm. When she told me this I of course assumed her hymen was broken from childbirth so she may me mentally a virgin because she hasn't experienced sex, but she would not be a physical virgin. But it turns out that she had a cesarean child brith with both babies. If any of you don't know what that is it's when the doctor makes an incision into the abdomen and removes the baby from the womans uterus. She never has sex..still has her hymen..she is afraid of sex? Any helpful ideas?
2006-10-12 06:48:08 · 25 answers · asked by crazylifer 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
LOL..yeah..those who said I made it up are true. I just like to test the thought process of people who post on here. Nice to see many of you have open minds and accepted the possibility. I'd also like to point out everyone who said it isn't possible. All of us who know it is possible can now have a quiet little laugh at their expense :) *hahhaha* There..I had mine. I'd expecially like to laugh at the kid who said "how do you get pregnant without having sex?" I guess that person didn't read my whole story. Attention deficet disorder is a real bugger isn't it?
2006-10-12 07:03:42 · update #1
Sounds to me like she is telling you stories. Technically all of the above could be true, but come on! Best way to find out, get her in bed somehow and pop that cherry. Then you'll know for sure. As for how to get her in bed, just take it slow and let her get comfortable. It'll happen sooner or later.
2006-10-12 06:52:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Wow, that is some story. I guess I honestly don't believe it. When you are pregnant, your doctor does regular vaginal exams on you. This requires breaking the hymen. So, physically, she's not a virgin, there's no way. However, I guess she could be telling the truth about never having had sex, but at 24 with 2 kids, I honestly don't understand why she would artifically inseminate that young (twice, even!). I think you need to have a serious chat with her.
2006-10-12 06:52:54 · answer #2 · answered by MrsN 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why doesn't she want to have sex? Is she waiting for marriage?? Why didn't she wait for marriage to have children, so that her kids could have a father to raise them??? She could be a virgin. But, I think your girlfriend may have some psychological issues. You should probably consult a doctor...
She could also be lying about being a virgin, she may just not want to have sex again and risk having another baby again... She should be honost about it though.. She should be able to trust that you would respect her decision not to have sex again for a while..
Regardless of the situation...
In option A, she has some psychological issues.
In option B, she is a liar who doesn't trust being honost with you... Possibly due to some psychological issues.
I'm not trying to imply you should leave her. But you two have some serious issues you both need to deal with, and this relationship may be extremly difficult, but if you TRULY love her, then it may be worth it... And you both may need help from a proffesional...
2006-10-12 07:01:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thats quite the story. And thats exactly what it sounds like, a story. I think she's feeding you a lot of bull because she doesn't want to have sex with you. Why would a 24 year old have 2 kids by sperm donation? That makes no sense. And when something doesn't make sense then it isn't true. Think about it.
2006-10-12 06:51:01 · answer #4 · answered by *Cara* 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
ok just because she had a cesarean does not mean she still has her hymen. little girls can fall off there bikes and break their hymen. in the since she may be a physical virgin as to never having sex with a man but im sure she has with her self come on ever girl has that erge. like most girls will tell you no one knows how to please you better than yourself
2006-10-12 06:57:30 · answer #5 · answered by christie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What??? With or without a hymen if she hasn't had a game of hide the sausage she's still a virgin. A piece of skin doesn't decide it. You can break your hymen by doing physical activity for example so does that mean a sport can take your virginity???? Doh!
2006-10-12 06:52:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
whoa! Ummm OKAY. Very odd and intersting! Sounds kinda fake and a lie to me but for the benefit of the doubt. Be gentle and the 1st time is usually not so good of an experience
2006-10-12 06:51:18 · answer #7 · answered by Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ Mom2two Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you and you are falling for a story like that.. .She is 24 and i am sure she got pregnant by having sex. She is really pulling your leg hard and you are naive to fall for such a thing like that. I believe she does not want to have sex with you for some reason...Don't believe the story though...it is you she does not want to have sex with...
2006-10-12 06:55:42 · answer #8 · answered by DO IT! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well.....as i don't have a medical degree....
but something sounds suspicious.
here is a few ideas. It is quite possibble she was raped at one point in her life and i really wouldn't consider that as sex or losing their virgnity. so it is possible she did chose to have children without a man due to her fear of sex.
or....maybe she used to be a man and she adopted her kids.
whatever it is....don't pressure her. she'll either come around on her own..or she still needs to deal with her issues before she commits to a realtionship in a sexual sense.
2006-10-12 06:59:08 · answer #9 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you for real?
two kids does not make one a virgin. If she conceived via sperm donor her hymen is gone!! They need to insert a tube to make the donation.
2006-10-12 06:58:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋