I have an 11 year old daughter who ADHD and Oppositional Defiance Disorder. When she gets upset her anger escalates till she is in a full blown rage. When she is like this it is like she is a different person. All she wants to do is distroy things and physically hurt me. All I do is try to block her punches and kicks. I also have to restrain her so she doesn't hurt me. She will throw objects across the room without a thought of what or who could get broke or hurt. This rage usually lasts about 15 to 20 mins then she starts to come down from it. There are times when she is coming down from it she'll cry and say she doesn't know why she's doing this ... but yet she can't stop. When she is fully out of the rage she is loving , and sweet like nothing happened. The one major thing is she says she doesn't remember hurting me or what happened. I've been told it sounds like some kind of seizure... but she doesn't have convulsions. What could be wrong??
2006-10-12 06:40:19 · 12 answers · asked by blueyedangel71 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Take her to a doctor!!! She needs medical help. You cannot do this on your own!!
2006-10-12 06:43:10 · answer #1 · answered by Obi-wan Kenobi 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow. This does sound scary, but it's quite probable that there is nothing more wrong with her than the conditions that you have mentioned. I would recommend if you possibly can to make a 'safe room' that she can go to or be put into when she is in a rage. If she can go to a room to get 'time out' it might avoid the anger escalating in the first place, and if you put big floor cushions and soft things in there that she can hit or throw around she will be able to work off the anger on them without doing any damage. You should put a bolt on the outside of the door, but only use it if you absolutely have to and she is out of control. Let her come out of the room in her own time. If she has a safe place to go where she can be 'allowed' to let her anger out then it should help to relieve the problem. Good luck!
2006-10-12 13:48:12 · answer #2 · answered by stienbabe 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't sound like a seizure to me. Your daughter obviously has poor impulse control. Are you certain she has ADHD & ODD? You might want to have her screened for Asperger's syndrome which has symptoms of both. In the meantime, I hope you have her on medication to help with impulsivity and mood as well as having her see a therapist on a regular basis for behavior modification. Therapy will also help you with management.
Perhaps she already takes meds for ADHD & ODD. THEY'RE NOT WORKING. Either she needs a dosage adjustment or she doesn't have ADHD, but still may have ODD.
Are there any other issues you are not disclosing? Developmental disorder, for example.
FYI: True, seizures are not always accompanied by convulsions, such as in the case of absence seizures or focal seizures. But her behavior during these episodes is not seizure behavior.
2006-10-12 13:47:40 · answer #3 · answered by TweetyBird 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you already know the problems that are causing the behavior. The forgetting is probably a defense mechanism that she has developed rather than admit that she did what she did to you or others. It's probably a good sign in that she isn't malicious or hateful just being controlled by disorders that make her do these hateful things. However allowing her to continue to deny to herself that she is doing wrong will probably not help her to change the behaviopr which I'm sure is your ultimate goal. This is probably a case where tough love is necassary.
2006-10-12 13:48:27 · answer #4 · answered by leavemealone 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seizures are not always connected with convulsions. You should be working with her to negate ODD. Ask the Dr. what you can do for the outburst.
2006-10-12 13:48:10 · answer #5 · answered by Teacher 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should have her checked for Scitzophrenia. I've read books on that because my mother-in-law is bypolar. Read voices of reason, voices of insanity, The Quiet Room, or even The Bell Jar by Sylvia Plath that is about Plath's own mental illness.
2006-10-12 13:56:27 · answer #6 · answered by loveandpeace 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree that you cannot do this on your own, and you shouldn't even try. Your daughter has a serious medical problem. Therapy will teach her other ways of expressing her anger.
If all else fails, record on of her freak outs and send it to, "Nanny 911."
2006-10-12 13:48:01 · answer #7 · answered by apeystar 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You can have a seizure without convulsions. Your daughter needs a complete psychological and neurological workup before she seriously hurts or kills you
2006-10-12 13:45:52 · answer #8 · answered by jonnyraven 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
"Oppositional Defiance Disorder"?!? WTF!!!!! Now I've heard it all. Nothing against you personally, but what a crock of crap! Kids today act out because they have not been taught who is in charge at home, they are spoiled and coddled and not taught discipline. Then doctors name some "disease" and prescribe drugs for it. What a load of sh*t!!!! I also think the improper nutrition exacerbates this kind of behavior. Again, nothing against you and I wish you luck with your situation, but this society is getting crazier and crazier by the day!!!
2006-10-12 14:01:33 · answer #9 · answered by nido_tr3s 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The best thing to do is to contact your local MIND centre. They wil be able to put you in touch with local 'Children and Young People Services' who specialise in disorders such as ADHD, ODD and will often run courses on anger management etc....
Keep in mind that even if MIND do not run these courses they will be able to signpost you to local organisations that will be able to help.
I wish you and your daughter all the best
2006-10-12 13:46:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well I can't say for sure but it sounds like she could be bi polar. The extreme fluctuations of mood...and the drastic change.
2006-10-12 13:56:55 · answer #11 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋