if you had a spouse and childern at the time, how did they react to the changes in you?
2006-10-12 06:24:45 · 7 answers · asked by lookn2cjc 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
When I first decided to go back to church, as I did go as a child when given the opprtunity, but never went as a teen or young adult.
My husband refused to go with me on that first day and many more after that. My oldest son volunteered and kept going with me, in fact he went more than I did. He became active in the childrens youth group and people from the church would pick him up and bring him home.
Eventually, my husband went to a few of the special programs when they involved the kids. He started reading his bible and became angry that what he was taught as a child in the Catholic church was different from the bible itself.
As time went on, he actually started going to church more than I did. As he grew and became the spiritual leader of our house, it became easier for all of us to attend and become active in our growth and path with God.
This same church that did so much with helping us learn and grow in Gods word never fully helped me feel an active needed part of it. My husband was becoming more and more involved with the running of the church, my oldest son was active in the youth group now as an adult assistant, but I still felt like an outsider (kind of , but not totally). Women were viewed as being used in certain positions only (kitchen and nursery) and if they had to be used in other positions it was only because a man hadnt stepped up to the plate and filled his roll in the position needed (right from the pastors mouth).
I felt stuck in a church that was wonderful, but led me to feel that I couldnt do what I was being called to do.
God stepped in (boy did he) and moved us 300 miles from home.
That was three years ago now, and we are in a church that is just as biblically doctrinal, but sees the new covenent of womens role as God sees it. My husband is content, the children are content, and finally I am content.
I believe wholeheartedly that the husband should be the spirtual leader in the household, but that also means making sure that his family is being allowed to grow in Gods word, not just the men.
Our new church does not separate the men from the women in bible study or sunday school. They believe in one flesh of married couples. Men tend to want to be separated from the women, but I still dont know why exactly. If they could only all step back and see that God never said or intended for one flesh to be separated, they would perhaps change things in otherwise wonderful churches.
So, I can say now that my husband reacted wonderfully to the changes in me, but yet it took many years for the entire picture to be seen and appreciated. As Gods word states, patience is a virtue.
2006-10-12 06:48:55 · answer #1 · answered by cindy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It made my husband a little uneasy at first. He was worried that I would start "pushing" him to believe and commit to what I was doing. I just quit focusing on what I wanted for my husband and the children and started focusing on the changes I needed to make in my life and God took care of the rest. The key is to just live what you believe and seeing is believing. If you are really are putting the Lord first in your life you will be more loving, graceful, understanding, and forgiving. Just like he did for us. That will show them how great God is and how he loves them too! How old are your children? Does the church you go to have great children classes? Also, buy some Christian music. There is some great pop and rock christian artists and this can show your family that they are not giving up anything, they are gaining so much more. Just keep praying for your family and they will come to know him. Love is the key. Remember to love them just the way they are just like Jesus did for us. God Bless!
2006-10-12 06:42:37 · answer #2 · answered by kymmy_kins 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The changes was different for the taking but they understood how important it was once they were educated on the issues. One point that I gave to them was, that through the history of mankind, if they did not have some kind of religion in there lives that nation will be totally destroyed. Every person need God in there life no matter how you look at it.
2006-10-12 06:43:20 · answer #3 · answered by honvahai 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since you are now a Christian (assumption), they will react in a positive way, because you will be a more loving, and accepting person. They will see the changes in you as you grow in your faith, and will come to see that maybe that is what they want for themselves.
~peace
2006-10-12 06:32:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY wife was very glad that I came to Christ, but very annoyed at the rate that my spiritual knowledge progressed. It was like God opened my head and poured the bible in verse by verse. My kids were too young to really notice any change.
2006-10-12 06:28:31 · answer #5 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I went the other way-raised a Christian and could not accept that G-d is Jesus, etc.,. G-d is One. I converted to Judaism. No real problems with my children, but---my parents! They hassled me for 35 years-till they died.
2006-10-12 06:34:35 · answer #6 · answered by Shossi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a former Atheist and I never had children yet but if I did, I would explain to them and my wife that God is really there. I know it!
-A Christian
2006-10-12 06:29:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋