ok this is complicated.
talking to this girl via myspace, she invites me to a party she is throwing. i go, but when i get there she is GONE DRUNK and passes out 20 min after i get there (i was late due to work)
SO, i end up talking to one of her friends who gives me the impression she is in a relationship (bf/gf) with her brother. so im like damn it since i came to flirt w/ her.
so me and the "bf's" sister(who is friends with my crush) talk a good bit and find our selves the only 2 there or not passed out.
WELL one thing leads to another and we end up having sex on the couch...OMG shameful I KNOW
So i later find out my original crush is NO LONGER in a relationship and then SENDS ME HER NUMBERs etc and tells me to call her. I DO-WE TALK- and are flirting like mad now. but my question is.. is that DEFINETLY COMING OUT at somepoint and if so.. is it SURELY DOOMED or not neccesarily.
and before you tell me I KNOW MY BAD - IM NOT LIKE THAT, and have never been in a sit like this.
2006-10-12 06:06:43 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Too complicated. Just move on.
2006-10-12 06:08:17 · answer #1 · answered by Melia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a very tangled up situation.
Seeing as though you weren't serious about each other or anything at the time I'm sure that even if she did find out it wouldn't be that much of a big deal.
There's always the fact that she might be a bit hurt by this though, all I can suggest is to try and make it up to her and just be honest. Tell her it was a stupid mistake and you're not usually like that.
If that fails its best not to complicate things further and just put it down to a mistake or bad experience.
2006-10-12 06:12:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was an amicable break up or if she has some mutual friends with the now-ex bf, ten, yeah, I'd say you're pretty screwed. But I would also say come clean with her. Don't make excuses but don't back down, either. You didn't exactly cheat. Remember you had gone to see her at her party only to find out she had already passed out. Moreover, she was dating someone at the time. I don't think you did anything wrong, but it sure makes it seem like you were only sort of interested in her. Good luck.
2006-10-12 06:13:57 · answer #3 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound as though you're feeling a little guilty about all of this. You also sound like you're trying to be a decent person. Let me defend you a little:
First of all, it was rude of her to invite you, and not stay somewhat sober until you got there. It was also dumb of her to not tell you about her bf/ex bf, whatever he is, and leave you to find this out yourself- when you arrived. Her actions have not been upfront or very cool towards you my friend.
One last thing, you really need to consider that you are "the rebound guy" in all of this for her. It's possible that you are merely filling the gap of her recent breakup.
2006-10-12 06:19:34 · answer #4 · answered by Perfectly Said 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the sleeping dogs lie. If it comes up that you two had sex, then it is probably best that you didn't lie about it.
If you tell her that your judgement was clouded by alcohol and that it all started out innocent enough. Tell her, "I don't blame you for being upset, but I messed up. We were not dating at the time, but I thought I had no chance with you because your friend convinced me that you were already taken. I don't expect you to forgive me, but I'm going to ask you to. I'll let you think about it. when you thought it over and I hope you'll give me a 2nd chance. Call me."
You've been honest, sincere, and humble. Don't say something stupid like, "Hell, you got drunk and passed out. I wanted to have sex with you!!!"
2006-10-12 06:38:50 · answer #5 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really think a girl from myspace who invites strange men to her house and passes out drunk is really the type of girl you want to be dating. All these girls sound pretty skanky to me- drunk and passed out, screwing men they just met...yeah, it is pretty shameful. With that in mind, I doubt these lovely ladies will really care who you've done on the couch- they don't seem to care much about their own bad behavior so she'll probably think your fling on the couch is mild compared to what she does with men when she's drunk.
2006-10-12 06:15:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look we all make mistakes!!! You made one if i was the girl i would still talk to you and see what your all about if i liked ya. Don't fell so bad about it! your human... Just be honest and explain it... Im sure you'll have a happy ending!
2006-10-12 06:19:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be real if she wants you she wants you ! why look a gift horse in the mouth !!! There always hope if your strong enough to accept that its her you really want and no other go for it don't be wussy ! what's been has gone and doesn't have any bearing on who you are right now !!
2006-10-12 06:11:44 · answer #8 · answered by misterplonk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worr about it. u were not obliged in the first place, so you had sex with another girl. so what?
if u still like this girl, go for it, and see where that takes you. no point feeling guilty her, as there is no situation to feel guilty about.
2006-10-12 06:11:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its all gonna come out eventually so you might as well be the one to tell her. You can tell her you were toasted (you may not have been, but you can tell her that anyway) and you know you were wrong. She may forgive it, she may not. Thats a chance you have to take.
2006-10-12 06:11:26 · answer #10 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋