We broke up 2 weeks ago but I still love him. He means the world to me and to my son. I know we both need time alone, but I miss him so much and cry non-stop everyday. We lived together for about 7 months. we agreed to still eachother sometimes, and are both trying to see other people. I really think he still loves me. We could not continue because we both have very complicated problems in our lives. And because we both have jealousy and trust issues. i always want to just go see him at his house, I know that is wrong. It feels like torture to me. I meet other guys all the time who would probably be better for me but I just can't be with anyone else right now. It is a power that is consuming my existance and i don't know what to do.
2006-10-12 05:55:07 · 9 answers · asked by SweeT 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Part of what you are feeling is oxytocin withdrawal (similar to what drug addicts go through). It's a hormone women have in larger quantities than men that bonds them to babies and in general sexual partners.
Basically at this point you need to focus on yourself and your child. You need to find a way to become healthy emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.
Like attracts like. You said both of you were insecure and jealous.
Whenever you feel the urge to see him, think of your son. Is this the type of behavior you want to model for him? Is this how you want his relationships to be like?
Most important of all, Is your ex the kind of man you want him to grow into?
If your answer is no, then you need to stay away from the ex and stop subjecting you child to instability and madness.
Go to counseling.
2006-10-12 06:07:39 · answer #1 · answered by Nija 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been in your situation and i did exactly what u were thinking
i called him and called him and cried and we got back together because of my insistence as well as to ease my pain and u know what it didn`t work out.The same issues that were present resurfaced and became the main focus of our relationship.What i am saying is this,if the reason u needed time apart has not been resolved and is still there it doesnt make any sense going back.write a letter to him tell him how u feel and how u plan 2 resolve your problems don`t be too desperate it clouds your judgement
2006-10-12 13:08:10 · answer #2 · answered by lafjamdung 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every time you get the urge to see him, go buy chocolate ice cream and hershey's bars. break up the hershey's into the ice cream, get a box of tissues and have some quite time. it might help to get a new boyfriend, bob, that you can use without guilt and put on a shelf until the next time you need him. bob=battery operated boyfriend.
i'm sorry. hope you got angry at me when you started reading this answer. least for a moment you felt something other than pain. i understand that your pain is not from missing him physically. i don't know how long it has been since you have been together but time has a way of taking away that pain. if it is meant to be, your destiny, nothing can stop you from being together. my wife and i were both married to others when we met. she was disfellowshiped from her church and i risk my career to be together. our spouses conspired to make the divorce last as long and as expensive as possible. we had very little when we started and of that all her clothes were stolen out of her car while we at a motel. despite social, business and family protest we held our heads up with dignity and got married.
since then we have had family members tell vicious lies trying to break us up. we have had 3 children still born. i developed heart problems and actually died twice. i had a mental breakdown and as a result we lost our business, our home, our investments our luxury cars and a life style that was the envy of most people we knew. we had to take our children out of private school and put them in public school where by daughter learned about cutting to ease her pain. we went from having a six figure income to poverty level because i am disabled. we supported my wife's mother and bought her her own home. now she lives with us. to some it up we have been through hell for the past 5 years. but we are still together and love each other very much. i tell you all this because i want you to know that love can overcome any obstacle. it is not easy. you have to work at it. if you want him and he makes you happy you should be able to get through anything, together. life happens, a good life is built by two people with similar goals. you want him - get to work.
2006-10-12 13:27:02 · answer #3 · answered by handyman5218 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you need to do is give your self time because time heals all wounds. Of course any guy you meet right now will not be the one for you cuz clearly ur not over your ex bf. Try to get involved in other things and meet other people just friends for now and then in time you'll be fine :) - i wish you luck....
2006-10-12 12:58:53 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Thang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U felt that u're really in love with him that both of u don't know how to resolve it. Why not talk to him if he feel the same way. If both of u feel the same seek professional help so that both of u can live with each other.
2006-10-12 13:00:40 · answer #5 · answered by Sob Sob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will take longer then 2 weeks to get over some body.. so give it some time and then try to meet other guys.. if you start now it will not work...
2006-10-12 12:59:45 · answer #6 · answered by Lil Juggalette 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the guy in "marriage and divorce ??" He found a big black dildo in his wife's dresser maybe he'll give it to you then both of your problems will be solved!!lol
2006-10-12 13:02:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you and he broke up for a reason, remember why??? if you two cant be in a healthy relationship it will only hurt your son
2006-10-12 12:57:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep yourself busy.
2006-10-12 12:57:20 · answer #9 · answered by Melia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋