Ok, so me and this girl dating for a total of almost 3 months. everything seemed to be great and i was really starting to like her. SHE THEN OUT OF THE BLUE FLAKED and quit contacting/returning my phone calls. i tried 3-4 times then was like FORGET IT....
so out of the blue (now 5-6 months later) i get a call from her. i had obviously erased her # so didnt know who she was she told me and i was like xxxx who? (i literally didnt know) she told me she would have probably have said the same thing. we went on to have a 20 or so minute convo which went well. she has since moved a few cities over and she told me next time i was there to call her and we would do something and that she wanted to come the the halloween party im throwing ........
anyway long story short, i told her i had to go, nice talking to her and hung up COMPLETLY CONFUSED OVER WHAT JUST HAPPENED. Any insight on what that was about and how if at all i should handle it or do about it.
thanks
2006-10-12 05:48:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Her flaking might have had nothing at all to do with you. (She's moved to a different city? This would indicate something else was going on.)
Sometimes people have weird things happen in their otherwise normal lives. It might be the case with her. Since you're unsure, why don't you try to reconnect, but not in an intimate one-on-one setting. Give her another chance at the Halloween party. If she offers to explain what was up earlier, she might be worth giving another chance. If she continues to flake, drop it like its hot.
2006-10-12 05:53:37 · answer #1 · answered by Black Parade Billie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see that you mentioned why she stopped talking to yo, unless it was because she moved. She could have called you back then and told you she was moving. Had you two gotten serious, were you hurt when she ended it? If you were emotionally invested, than you may want to be careful not to let her hurt you again. If you are interested in having her for a friend and you don't have feelings for her the you have nothing to loose. Only you a can be the judge of that.
2006-10-12 05:57:50 · answer #2 · answered by kimmie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she stopped talking to you because she met someone else and now that relationship ended so she wants to give you a try again. I had that happen to me once. I dated the guy maybe 2-3 times, didn't hear from him again until a year later. I asked him when he called if he was crazy and hung up the phone. I think he was already dating someone when he met me and then they decided to get serious. He wanted to keep me on the back burner.
2006-10-12 05:53:00 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I did the same thing to a guy. He was confused just like you. We are currently dating again and things are great. The first time things were not right and I didn't want to hurt his feelings by telling him I didn't want to see him again so I choose to ignore it. It was not nice. I realize it now. I would give her another chance, you never know what might happen or what was going on at the time she stopped taking your calls.
Good luck
2006-10-12 05:53:38 · answer #4 · answered by kris_swc 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no i wouldn't bother with someone like that,she did it once and 100% sure she'll do it again,just save yourself the grief and move on,chances are she got bored and went through her black book that I'm sure ,gets used quit frequently lol .tell her since you last flaked i now am seeing someone but nice chatting.she'll just phone the next guy she flaked on. lol lol
best of luck
2006-10-12 06:00:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u never know what happened unti u find out. take it easy, and find out when she come to the party. and see where that goes. u still have lotsa options, so maybe just let her try to be nice to yu for a change. maybe she had to run from the mafia or something....
2006-10-12 05:54:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she found someone she liked better than you and they are gone now, so she is settling for second best. I would just let her go, especially if she didn't give you a reason why she ran off, when she ran off. That is just rude and wrong and you don't need someone like that in your life to start with. Good luck!
2006-10-12 05:53:00 · answer #7 · answered by la_southern_femme 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She regrets leaving and is rethinking the whole thing, and this is the step where she is trying to find out if you are still interested.
She is trying to reconnect.
She wants you to want her.......Sorry that song is on and I couldn't help myself.
Ball is in your court
Good luck!!!!
2006-10-12 05:53:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I donno that's a tricky one. Girls are weird man. LOL She may just want to come to your party to meet other guys. (if she knew about this for a while) If not than maybe she had some unfinished business to take care of while you were seeing each other. Could be lots of reasons. I donno if you really like the girl and are not doing anything better, why not give her another chance.
2006-10-12 05:55:03 · answer #9 · answered by BOOTS! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont get to serious with her, I would just keep in touch with her just in case you need a little lovin late at night.
2006-10-12 05:52:46 · answer #10 · answered by Vernee B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋