So I started seeing my exboyfriend again, but now im confused , because at first he was being such a sweetheart for the first couple of months and I thought that he really did want to work it out again, but now he's kinda just being like whatever , i mean he acts like he still cares and stuff but he is not being as attentive as before..i mean i just dont want to go through this B.S. again, and i dont want to give him an ultimatum either..... is this a sign , or is this just normal for guys to do this when they are used to being with a certain girl.? Why do guys do this? Its like in the beginning they will do anything to have you and then once they do its never the same....and no, I dont act needy with him either because i know thats a huge turn off, I'm a decent person and I know I can get someone else , but i just want to know if I am tripping just a bit, and if i should just back off? I dont know i guess guys advice would help! and girls too if you are in a similar situation
2006-10-12 05:48:22 · 7 answers · asked by **** 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sorry to say but i think this is normal for guys... once they know they are in.. they stop trying to impress you on how feminine they are.. by showing you care and what not... but if it gets worse like not talking to you for a day or so or whatever then its a sign that you guys aren't destine to work out... it is a proven fact that if a guy and girl break up more than once.. like go out and break up and try again.. each time will make them hate each other more.. so if it starts to get bad again.. get out and never look back!!!
2006-10-12 05:54:22 · answer #1 · answered by Tara M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ex was an ex for a reason. Now you remember why he was an ex, and why he probably should have stayed an ex.
What exactly do you want? Him to change and be a nicer boyfriend on his own without you nagging him? Not gonna happen.
Why be with someone who makes you feel confused, frustrated, unappreciated/unloved, unsure of yourself and basically kind of like crap? If you're sleeping with him now, he has no reason to be any different than how he used to be because to him, you're not really worth it to him. His "whatever" attitude proves it.
Move on.
2006-10-12 12:56:14 · answer #2 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darlin.... there is a reason why you guys broke up the first time. Obviously that didn't get fixed. If you keep looking in the same place for the answers to your life you'll keep getting the same answers. If you don't like them... look somewhere else.
2006-10-12 12:53:20 · answer #3 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were a girl, I would kick any man's ar*se out of it who treated me as casually as he appears to be treating you. Find someone who will be more giving and treat you like a lady. He is probably trying to break your heart in revenge for the previous break-up.
2006-10-12 12:54:24 · answer #4 · answered by thomasrobinsonantonio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first offf..this may just be a busy time for him right now. so just wait a bit. if this continues you do need to talk to him about it or its never going to change. he may not notice it so much as you do.
2006-10-12 12:53:39 · answer #5 · answered by TheMaverick.The Artist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was just looking for sex and now he's getting it, things will cool. If he truly loves you, he'd still be attentive and try to please you. So the ball is in your court as to what to do next.
2006-10-12 12:51:19 · answer #6 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would back off if I were you.
2006-10-12 12:50:52 · answer #7 · answered by Travbot the Observer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋