I'm having some trouble with a realtionship and honestly would just like to know what other people think.....i was in a five year relationship with my highschool sweetheart and i loved him to death....things changed and the last year and half we were together he bought a bar and i never saw him we hardly spent anytime together..and he was talking to other girls behide my back and lied to me about it. dont get me wrong i know that was wrong but i do love him dearly...then i met this wonderful guy and he is such a dream come true...my ex found out about him and ever since he found out about him my ex has been real crazy! im now living with this new guy....and im finding myself missing my highschool sweetheart i dont know why? do u think im still in love with him or this is just the process of getting over someone?
2006-10-12 05:43:22 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-10-12 05:54:57 · answer #1 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still in Love with him and that my friend is normal. It is very hard to get over your high school sweat heart, and the first Love of your life!! Are in In love with this new guy?? It does not sound like it. You can live with someone, you can try and fill a void with another man. But if you honestly sit down too think is it worth it?? Do you think you are missing him because your new gentlemen is not him and he is not what your soul is searching for?? Until you find the right fit with the right man you are always going to question what you are doing and you will always be missing someone. You need to make yourself happy and however you do that is what is going to allow you to lose your missing blues of your sweetheart. I wish you the best of luck, because it is very hard. Sit down and think really hard before you get too invested into this new gentlemen if you truly are not happy with him and you can not see yourself going any further with him because he is not another man that you want in your life!! Good Luck!!
2006-10-12 05:52:07 · answer #2 · answered by Niecy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you will always have a place in your heart for your high school sweetheart. But I would move on especially if the new guy is a dream come true. It sounds like there were trust issues with your old flame and those are hard to get past.
2006-10-12 05:47:47 · answer #3 · answered by saved_by_grace 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never forget your first love or any love. You always will remember the memories together, but you realize that was then this is now. You have a wonderful guy and are happy together. Your ex is just jealous because you have someone new and he doesn't really have anybody, just random girls who don't mean a thing to him.
I remember I was always jealous of the girls that got with my ex or who my current bf used to date. It's like we don't want them, but you don't want anybody else to have them either. I know it's weird, but sometimes that's true.
2006-10-12 05:49:54 · answer #4 · answered by Akane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately this could be either one. My guess would be that it is just the emotional effects of moving on with your life. Sometimes you will think back to the old days with your ex, especially when you are mentally comparing them to your days spent with your new man. Yes you may still have feelings for your old love. But I do not think you are still in love with him. If that was the case, you would be with him instead.
2006-10-12 06:03:47 · answer #5 · answered by ladyophelia7777 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you should have left the first relationship and spent some time getting over it before starting a new one. That's why they call them "rebound" relationships, and the odds are stacked against rebounds being successful. I'd suggest you move out and get your own place. Give yourself time to be by yourself for awhile until you can figure out what it is you really want.
2006-10-12 05:47:00 · answer #6 · answered by auskan2002 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to think of it this way, the same person that you're missing did you wrong so ask yourself one question do you really want to go thru that again?? If you're happy with the new guy stick with him especially if he treats you right. I just broke up with my ex beacause he was a jerk and before he came along I didn't appreciate the nice guys but belive me now I do.
2006-10-12 05:48:33 · answer #7 · answered by sugadr1978 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you said you loved him to death I thought this story was going to be a very sad one. After being with him and loveing him that strongly for 5 years then you are not going to get over him quickly. It will take time to heal your broken heart. Good luck with your new man, I hope it works out for you.
2006-10-12 05:47:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me that you are just in the process of getting over him. When your with someone for that long (5+ years) you are so used to them that when they are gone, you are invariable going to miss them. Sounds like your happy and have landed your dream guy, so stick with him and leave the crazy ex to himself.
2006-10-12 05:47:07 · answer #9 · answered by Mundr 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am guessing that your high school sweetheart is your first love. You never forget your first love. You just need time to get over him.
2006-10-12 05:45:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know, do you still love him? One thing is for sure, you need to stop going from one live-in lover to the next. Get your own place, grow up, and figure out who YOU really are!
2006-10-12 05:47:35 · answer #11 · answered by slow-n-sexy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋