I´ve been dating a guy for a month now and he calls everyother day and everythings is going well but yesterday we were talking and he started saying thing like "when we get married bla bla bla, or if we get married bla, bla bla", why does he do that ? When guys do it do they really mean it or is it just guys talking. And please lets leave sex out of this.
2006-10-12 05:22:10 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think it's just the lust talking. give him another 2 to 3 months and if he's still talking marriage then the percentage goes up that he really means it. as of right now you guys are still in the "honeymoon phase" and the relationship is still new and exciting. give it time then ask the question again.
2006-10-12 05:28:22 · answer #1 · answered by WreckinShop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi luv!
Well if you want us leaving sex out of our answers when trying to answer questions like this, you're not making the matter easy!
I have to say that if 1 month after the relationship begins he's already mentionning mariage, and it's NOT sex related (as it usually is), then maybe he's
1) Just playing; talking of mariage to see how you'd react to it. Some guys talk of that to see if you yourself would like to get married, so they can work on their own answer if the question pops up.
2) Seious about commitment; some guys try to proove they are srerious about the relationship by commenting on things like mariage and stuff like that. I think it's a poor cop-out excuse but at least, he tries, you know?
3) Maybe he's a Jesus-freak (sorry, a member of an organised religion) and they view any relationship to be a proposal to mariage. Again, the concept of sex comes into play, but that's another story...
Anyway luv, I gotta exit this for now, I wish I had more time to write! I hope this has helped you out a bit in any case!
2006-10-12 12:51:51 · answer #2 · answered by ButtahChick (ButterChick) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant leave sex out of anything when a guy and a girl is involved. You just cant. There could be two reasons why he's saying that. Have you slept with him yet ? Have you said things like I wont have sex until I get married ? If so he could be saying that just to break you down to get you into bed. If not then maybe he really likes you and is thinking about the future.
2006-10-12 12:25:49 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he wants to ge tin your pants. I;m sorry I can't leave sex out of this because that is what it is all about. IT doesn't matter if you wait or if you do it right away. If the man likes you for YOU he'll stay with you. But beware of people that says extremely emotional things like that so quickly. I had a boyfriend that told me he loved me the first month within meeting each other, we had already had sex, but I wasn't even close to feeling like i loved him, I was starting to like him a lot and care for him. In the end, he didn't love me and I fell for him because he created a false idea of love in my head. Just be careful and don't take it so seriously and ask him why he is talking about those things. Be up front. Stop wondering.
2006-10-12 21:40:56 · answer #4 · answered by coochie1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is a good sign that he really likes you and thinks you could be the one. He is probably smart enough to know that you are not a lock to get married. But guys think about the future and what their marriage will be like yada yada..and thinks it is adleast a possiblity.
I bet he is more afraid of saying something like....Me and my future wife, because he probably is over thinking and thinks you might imply that he doesn't see you as a possible wife. So he doesn't know how to talk about it.
I wouldn't freak out about it.
2006-10-12 12:30:25 · answer #5 · answered by tightlies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Majority of women want to get married. It's a fact. Women love marriage, the thought of it, the planning of it, the experience of it. Men like to impress women. We have limited things that we like to talk about (like sports, beer, women, porn, etc.) and we can't keep your attention by talking about that stuff. So we drop the "marriage" word every now and again to keep you interested. Appreciate what he's doing for you.
2006-10-12 12:27:33 · answer #6 · answered by pt_croozin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when guys plan most of them really mean it. could also be that he might want you to coerce into physical relationship by talking emotional with you. if he has confessed to you about his love for you, then it's ok. but still 1 month is a short time & guys think a lot o things before taking the plunge. so be careful
2006-10-12 12:27:00 · answer #7 · answered by karan s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,,, they are usually just trying to figure out how much you like them,, if you dont want to talk of marriage,, you need to tell him so,, and only a month,, hmmm seems a little early even to me... to speak of the M word...
He also may be just kidding with you .... that, I would do .. in jest..
good luck
2006-10-12 12:27:39 · answer #8 · answered by eejonesaux 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"And please lets leave sex out of this."
well, I can't give you my answer without mentioning it. guys will say a lot of things to get some. if you haven't had sex yet this *may* just be his way of trying to bring you round to it. either way, if he's talking to you about marriage after a month of dating I don't trust his judgement at all, it sounds kind of creepy or at best immature
2006-10-12 12:27:33 · answer #9 · answered by daedalus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From persoanl experiance.....not usually. Not saying that no guy means what he says, but I've had many guys say these things, only to end the relationship a few months later.
2006-10-12 12:25:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋