Whos name should be on wedding invitations?

Question

So I am planning on spending 12,000 on my wedding

My parents are paying for 4000 (mom & Stepdad)
My dad is paying 1000
My fiances parents are paing for about 2000 rehersal dinner and alchol
And we are paying for the rest so about 5000

Whose names should be on the wedding invitation?

Thanks for the help.

Answer 1

If it doesn't look to tacky include your step fathers name. I would rather have an inclusive wedding invitation.

Answer 2

It depends on what you want. If you don't want to hurt any feelings, then you can include everyone since everyone is contributing to the wedding. The rehersal dinner doesn't count though. But if they are providing the alcohol for the wedding, that is a HUGE expense. So, Your mom, your biological dad, and the grooms parents, Mr. and Mrs. whom ever, request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter "whom ever" to "whom ever". However, I wouldn't list your step dad. I'm sure he would understand this if you have a good relationship with him. After all, it's your biological parents that are giving you away. It's not really up to him. Otherwise you can be very traditional and put your biological parents names only on the invites. Good luck whatever you decide!

Answer 3

It sounds like all the parents are part of the hosting "team." They can legitimately all appear.

It is not an itemization of expenses. It is an invitation.

The etiquette is: bride's family goes first, and mothers go first, REGARDLESS OF WHO PAID WHAT AMOUNT. So for your situation:

Mr. and Mrs. Thomas Bridesmomandstepdad
Mr. Jacob Bridesfather
Mr. and Mrs. David Groomsparents
request the pleasure of your company
at the wedding of
Julie Marie Brideslastname
and
Frederick John Groomslastname
etc

Answer 4

Here is what I did and the problem I had. My parents are divorced, my mom put some money in and my dad put some in (not as much as my mom) and the inlaws bought about 3 bottles of alcohol. I (we) paid for the rest. We had our wedding on one weekend and the reception on the next. I only put my parents names on the wedding invitation and put both on the reception invitation and my inlaws got very upset because I didn't put their names on the wedding invitations, but they didn't even want to help with what little they did. I guess if they are all helping out you could put all of the names.
I hope this helps a little.

Answer 5

First, and this is the most important...the "hosts" on the wedding invitation do NOT reflect who spent the most amount of money. The names on the invitation reflect who you want to honor.

When people see an invitation, they don't assume that the person whose name is at the top was the person who funded most of the wedding. That said, when people see an invitation that says the couple are hosting, they tend to think that the families didn't help them at all.

In my experience, this is the best way to word the invitation without insulting anybody:

Mr. and Mrs. Bride's Mother and Stepdad
and Mr. and Mrs. Bride's Father and Stepmother
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
BRIDE
to
GROOM,
son of Mr. and Mrs. Groom's parents

Answer 6

Congradulations to you!! So, you are planning your wedding, first since your parents, (step parents included) and the grooms parents are chipping in as well, Traditionally the parents are to be included on the invite. It would be different if you and your goom-to-be were paying for the entire wedding (rehearsal dinner) yourselves. I recently married thispast July. Planned our entire wedding under $7,000.00 less than 80 people, and very intimate, and romantic! IF you need help go to Martha Stewart.com - there are a lot of Brides to be, asking all sorts of questions!
Extremely helpfull site! Awesome Ideas!!

Answer 7

My mom and stepdad are paying for ALL of my wedding (destination wedding and reception back home) and my mom told me she would NEVER expect the invitation to have just their names on it, as it is disrespectful to my fiance's parents. No matter who is paying for what, you need to include all of your parents. The simplest way to do this is to say

Together with their parents
Bride & Groom
request the honour of your presence....

or even Togther with their families

Answer 8

Since that really seems like a lot of names to go on an invitation, why don't you use something like this (it's what I used):

Because you have shared in our lives by your friendship and love, we Jane Smith and John Doe together with our parents invite you to share the beginning of our new life together when we exchange marriage vows....(Insert Date, and location) Reception to be held at (time and location)

Answer 9

It will be too many names to put all those on an invitation. How about " The Families of John Doe and Jane Doe" request the honor of your presence?

Who is paying what does not matter.

Answer 10

I just made invitations for a wedding where the groom and 2 sets of parents and this is what we did.

Billy Ray Jackson
&
Karen Joy Demers

Along With Their Parents
Request The Honor of Your Presence
As
they Are United in Holy Matrimony
on the Thirtieth day of September in the year 2006
At the ashkum Colluseum in
Askum illinois


That is just an example or you coulds also do it like this

Bob and Kathy Beck and Robin and JosephKirangwa
Along with
Thomas and Rita Tuntland
request the honor of your presence as
their Children
Kelly Elizabeth Beck
&
Jason Thomas Tuntland
unite in marraige
on the twenty-fourth day of June
in the year two thousond six
at College Church of the Nazarene
in Bourbonnais,, illinois

Answer 11

Our family helped pay for our wedding also, but my husband and I chose to have our own names on the invites. I also was not given away, I chose to walk into the marriage of my own free will.

It's really up to you and your fiance, everyone's situation is different.