Would it make you think less of a girl if she slept with you on a first date?? x
2006-10-12 04:46:51 · 56 answers · asked by jo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have a lot of experience in this area Jo and I can tell you that it completely depends on the man, most will respect you less but if you are not after a serious relationship who needs respect. But once in a while you meet someone who likes you for what you are even when they know all your sordid secrets and especially if you sleep with them on the first date! Trust me!
If you like sleeping with people you wouldn't really want to be with someone who thought that was wrong would you?
At the end of the day as long as you are getting what you want out of it who cares what they thinkl?
2006-10-12 04:55:55 · answer #1 · answered by kerrykinsmalosevich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really does depend, if it's someone who is a friend and you have known them a long time, probably not. If it is a new person that you have only just met, and you don't know a lot about, probably not, if you known them a little while and there was still a lot of getting to know each other to do, but you weren't near strangers, then probably not... so therefore I deduce that if you had sex with a hypothetical me on our first date, I would probably not think any less of you. But, I would not expect it, and I guess the only reason it could happen is if the attraction was so strong that it had to happen.
But it is all hypothetical as I am married and would;t go on a date with you or anyone other than my wife, and I did;t sleep with her on our first date, or the second for that matter.... sorry I digress.
Anyway, my advice would be...... Don't do it unless you really can't help yourself.... but saying that, generally, men, being as shallow as we are, think less of women who have sex on a first date, don't ask me why, most men would quite happily have sex on a first date, but don't want the girl to, double standards I know, but there it is.
If this answer makes any sense to you good, because I think I'm on a sugar high and having verbal diarea
2006-10-12 05:02:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sure it wouldnt make a guy think less of you if you had sex on the first date. But it makes everyone else think less of you and makes you think less of yourself for doing something like that. You shouldnt be having sex on a first date. Thats supposed to mean something with someone you love. Not someone you just meet. Okay, what if he had a std or something and didnt tell you about it? Or you got knocked up... Do you think a guy that dont even know you would stay with you? Of course guys are going to not think less of you... They only think with their DICKS!!!!! Besides, why would you buy the cow when you get the milk for free???????? Think about it.
2006-10-12 04:51:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends..if it's the first date and you really enjoy being with each other and would like to get to know more about each other then yes..why not? not just sex, it's possible...
There are no rules to an exception when it comes to sex...it all depends...the main thing is the man should respect the woman no matter what! if the sex was great ...that;s great right? but you both should not have the wrong intentions and hurt the other persons feelings.
and of course do it safely and responsibly!
2006-10-12 04:50:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I did it.... And I have been with him in a happy relationship for 3 years now. But I was extremely lucky. I'm sure I wouldn't do that again. You just don't know the guy, don't know what to expect and unfortunately 'first date sex' very rarely is done right (I know that from my girl-friends' experience!!). And yeah, I think in most situations guys think less of the girls if they sleep with them on the first date (and that I know from my boy-friends' experience!!). xxx
2006-10-12 04:56:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. If she would sleep with me on the first date, I would immediately think she's a whore. Sex is a big step in any realtionship and there's no reason to go that far on the first date. Its a good way of prematurely ruining a relationship. Especially considering that there's plenty of other things to do to pleasure each other without actually having sex.
2006-10-12 04:52:47 · answer #6 · answered by Joe P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, do it. No, it wouldn't make me think lowly of a girl.
If it feels right, go for it. If you're comfortable with sex on the first date and he's the stuffy sort who wants you to be a lady (hurrrrrl) you're not likely to be that compatable anyway, are you? Similarly, if you don't fancy it and he's shovelling the food down while putting his coat back on so he can rush you off for a quickie, it's unlikely he's looking for the relationship you are.
But if you both fancy it and then see where things go - you've a fighting chance of a future and at least you get your kicks on the way!
2006-10-12 04:54:19 · answer #7 · answered by lickintonight 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I am know married but I have had conversations about this with my husband and brother who is 28 and from what they have told me. If you just want to have fun with someone go ahead. But don't expect it to be anything serious. Guys are very insecure and they will always think that if you did it with them on the first date that you were like that with everyone else. Unfortunately in the society we live in it is o.k. for a guy but not a girl. It is not fare but it is true.
2006-10-12 04:52:35 · answer #8 · answered by Amy D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it goes both ways! Sex on the first date shouldn't be done unless that is all you want from the person. If you really like the person then it should wait. I wouldn't personally think of them less because then I'd have to think less of myself for I would have been involved too.
2006-10-12 04:51:21 · answer #9 · answered by His Dudeness 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a girl and I've been told that some guys really dont care- they're just happy to be getting some. THEN, they stop to think "ewww. how many other guys did she give it to on the fisrt date?"- that's when you look like a ****. Honestly, they like the chase, just make him hold out.. even if it's for a couple weeks or so. He'll be so anxious to have you, that he will probably enjoy it more. Easy girls dont last with guys... wait a while.
2006-10-12 04:51:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋