boyfriend and I , about why we havent started paying them back (my inlaws) for the house they helped us built so we could save money on rent and pay off our other bills - I dont think my boyfriend and i need to explain to hes sister our finances , and if hes parents arent even telling us anything , why is she being nosey? she says , she is just looking out for her parents -
so should l i mention this to my soon to be in laws ?
2006-10-12 04:43:30 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Let your husband be the one to bring it up to his parents, BUT You can tell the sister in law to butt out and mind her own business!
2006-10-12 06:14:14 · answer #1 · answered by Sunspot Baby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she may be a bit jealous that her parents helped her brother. Here are 3 ideas.
1. If you are abiding my the agreement you have with the parents then I would nicely and respectfully tell her that everything is being handled the way you all agreed to handle it and she need not worry. If she is still nosey after that then perhaps a family meeting with you and your boyfriend, the inlaws and her would be in order....get everything out in the open calmly and respectfully.
2. Maybe the situation has changed with the parents and they may need the money and the parents haven't told you. Then the sister may be trying to send you a message.
3. If you have an agreement to start paying back the parents and you are not meeting that agreement then I would say the sister may very well be looking out for her parents. From her standpoint her parents are being taken advantage of and there is nothing wrong with children looking out for the welfare of their parents.
In any case, talking calmly or a family meeting should resolve the issue. Yelling and accusations will just make tensions worse.
2006-10-12 11:55:04 · answer #2 · answered by kaw19602 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the soon to be sister-in-law has caused you anxiety over this matter. It would be better to sit down with your in-laws & talk to them about setting up a payment schedule to begin on a certain date. This will clear the air with everyone of when payments will be expected. And, yes, your sister-in-law is being nosey. It is a matter between you/husband & mother/father in law, that's it. She's really bothered you so clear it, & she can't bother you with it anymore.
2006-10-12 11:51:30 · answer #3 · answered by curiousgeorge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband should sit down and talk to them about this. In the future, make sure you let your in-laws know upfront that you don't want anyone else knowing your business. But trust me on this, you're getting a glimpse of things to come. I'm living it everyday with my in-laws and it's obvious there's no end in sight. Maybe you'll be lucky though and get it straightened out before you get married. Good luck.
2006-10-12 11:54:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your fiance deal with his family and tell the sister to ask her brother about this and leave you out of it. It is his family so it is his problem. And make a payment plan and start paying them back asap. It doesn't make for good family feelings to owe money.
2006-10-12 11:51:57 · answer #5 · answered by madamesophia1969 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't...you always have to stay on the in laws good side and parents are usually very protective of their daughters
2006-10-12 11:46:58 · answer #6 · answered by kareno209 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have your husband bring it up to them, I don't know what your agreement is on paying them back, but you should try to keep the agreement, whatever it may be.
2006-10-12 18:44:18 · answer #7 · answered by rae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course no.
blood is thicker than water - its their daughter afterall. you can ask your boyfriend to tell her off if she is off-limits. unless, its her parents who ask her to be the "bad guy" and chasing you both for the $$. if so, then do try to repay them as soon as you can.
2006-10-12 11:47:29 · answer #8 · answered by ash 7 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why haven't you started paying them back?
2006-10-12 11:47:51 · answer #9 · answered by Froggie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what if they are the ones telling her to ask you? just leav it be and ignore her or altrenatively pay them back
2006-10-12 11:46:57 · answer #10 · answered by titties 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋