spankins don't work and time out doesn't work
2006-10-12 04:33:39 · 6 answers · asked by Jammie J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Trying to reason with a 4 year old is a losing battle, however; spanking them to get them to listen is even worse. Yes, I do believe that spanking is necessary but not a necessity.
Try explaining to them (in words they understand) that what they are doing is wrong and why (example: you can't throw your toys at the tv because if you break it, you won't be able to watch spongebob anymore)... Timeouts in our house consist of standing in the corner with no toys for as many minutes as the childs age (my son is 5 so he get 5 minutes in the corner). Completely ignoring the screaming and temper tantrums while the child is standing in the corner. Once the time is up (set a timer) talk to the child about what they did and ask for an apology. This works with my son.
Good Luck!
2006-10-12 04:59:23 · answer #1 · answered by CodysMom1009 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bull shavinsky. You aren't hitting the kid right. You're failing to make it clear just who the hell is in charge. This just doesn't occur overnight. You've failed somewhere along the lines and now the kid does this because he's been led to believe all along he/she can get away with it.
Time to instill discipline properly. In addition...at four years old sitting in a room void of all books, toys, visual entertainment can have a drastic effect. Just keep an eye on them during this time. You have to ceck up on them because these are the kids that do something stupid like hang themselves off the back of the doorknob to show "Mommy and Daddy that they'll be sorry" for punishing them.
Keep that in mind. It's been known to happen and to anybody.
2006-10-12 12:03:44 · answer #2 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take a parenting class that reminds you that you are the parent. When you let a four year old control you you have problems.
You need to stick to your discipline longer. If time out doesn't work, put them down for a nap and ignore their ranting. They will cry themselves to sleep. If they get out of bed, give them a small spanking and put them back. DO NOT GIVE IN!!!
2006-10-12 11:41:41 · answer #3 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First thing DON"T HIT. DO NOT HIT!!!!!!!!!!!
Time out does work if done right. Time out: sit in this chair where I can see you. Don't talk, no tv, or toy. Just sit there. When you can act right you can get up, but if you act up again you will have x amount of time added to time out.
2006-10-12 11:52:01 · answer #4 · answered by valarie l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not spank him regardless of what others say.I would rather teach my child to respect me and listen because thats how its suppose to be then to spank them to make them listen.Nothing more funnier then a parent hitting their kid for doing the same thing the kid done yesterday and nothing more sadder then a kid fearing to act like a kid because they fear being hit.Putting fear in a child is not teaching them wrong from right.If he really wont listen to nothing you or other adults then check out the link Im attaching here.Read it good.If it sounds like your kid then talk to his doc about it.
2006-10-12 11:55:47 · answer #5 · answered by darlene100568 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spankings do work if they are done right.
make sure he knows what he did wrong, then give him a spanking.
you have to show him who's boss short of abusing him.
2006-10-12 11:36:23 · answer #6 · answered by jugglaman 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋