I'm visiting my ex girlfriend from like 2 year ago (we dated almost 2 years,didn thave sex). We broke up, but lately we have been talking, and gotten close to each other. We almost act like we are married, and at the moment we aren't even dating.. She dated after me,and had sex with the guy. I didnt date and so im stil a virgin. Now she still has strong feeling for me and so do I. She told she made up her mind after being with other guys that im right for her. I only dated her and have not had a chance to meet anyone else. We almost had sex lastnight,but i pulled away, knowing that once we do she would want to get back together.I still want to experince love with some one else one day.But then it would break my ex's heart. Please help me. What do i do?Be like a guy and just do it,and not think about it too much, or save my self for a different, new person. Beacause she said if we get back together and then break up again then,that it it wasnt meant to be with us.
Today is her b-day, 20
2006-10-12 04:22:01 · 23 answers · asked by Ruski 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It doesn't sound like you are just a "guy" to me. You sound more like a mature MAN. And a Man doesn't just do and go.
Here's the deal, if you care about this girl and you could honestly see a future with her (ie marriage) then talk about getting back together. Since you broke up and she has dated other guys, you need to take it slowly at first so that you can rebuild your relationship. If you rush into the physical stuff, that's all the relationship, will be....just sex.
If you can't see her as being the mother of your ten kids ;) then you need to let her go. It wouldn't be fair to string her along. You have a big choice to make, so be honest and listen to how your heart feels. It's better to hurt her a little now then a lot later.
If she is "the one" for you, then feel lucky. You haven't had to go through the heart break of dating all the wrong people before you found the right one.
Side note: My husband was a virgin when we got married, and that is something that I respected more then anything. It is amazing to me that you have held on to that, especially with the way the world is today.
2006-10-12 04:41:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe her only reason to be with you is to compare you with the other guys. If she doesn't like it she'll say it wasn't meant to be. She'll have the satisfaction of being your first. Maybe she just wants to see what it feels like to be with a guy that's a virgin. There could be many reasons why she wants you in the sack. I don't think you should go for it because you're not even dating yet. Make her wait and if she does then you'll know she didn't come back just for the sex. Good Luck1
2006-10-12 04:29:17 · answer #2 · answered by Geneddly 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't do it if you have ANY doubts! Its not something you can replace. Give that "Gift" to someone who will truly appreciate it because in this day and time it is so hard to find someone you is still a virgin. You will feel alot better about losing it when you do infact find that oh so very special someone that you can't even sleep because they are on your mind constantly. I wish my huband would of been pure when we got married. Sorry, I'm not saying to wait until marriage per say but at least when you find that person who you think is very special.
2006-10-12 04:30:00 · answer #3 · answered by LKJ 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you love something let it go. If it comes back to you. It is yours forever. (not saying she is an ITEM). True you might want to experience love with someone else. However you only live once. How do you know that is going to happen? Usually we aren't able to find but one true love. Not saying that you won't be able to love again. You just might not love the next person as strong.
Do you not think she is completely the right one for you?
Do you want to have sex or do you want me make love to her?
If you want to save yourself until after you get married. That is what you need to do.
2006-10-12 04:35:23 · answer #4 · answered by Dwayne 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A bit of advice: To this day i regret the first time i had sex. I wish i would have waited and not done it.
You still have the best gift of all---your purity. Keep it until you feel you need to give it up. You will know when it is time. Just follow your heart. You can never go wrong if you follow your heart.
Good Luck
2006-10-12 04:30:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't do it. It sounds like u guys are friends now and maybe you should leave it at that. If you have sex with her and it doesn't work out, the friendship is ruined. Sex only complicates things because your emotions get all wrapped up to a much greater extent. You should be honest with her because if you have sex with her she is going to assume that you guys are getting back together. If you want to experience someone else, that don't even go that route with her because it is quick-sand. Good Luck!
2006-10-12 04:27:16 · answer #6 · answered by clearlovepink 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First of all decide if you want to be with her or not beore you give her some goodies. If you feel strongly about seeing other peopel and not settling down with her wait for the right person. Sex is beautiful but even more beautiful when you do it with the right person. Don't just give in to her becuase yall haven't done it yet, maybe she isn't deserving...after all she didn't wait on you did she! Think about it...
2006-10-12 04:26:11 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Thang 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You say you want to "experience love with someone else one day" so why would you give her false hope? Be kind and leave her alone. Or else she'll be posting something up here complaining about the ex who used her and what she can do to get back at him. Think with the right head buddy!
2006-10-12 04:27:29 · answer #8 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
be a man! have sex with her, than ignore her she'll get the message. The most important thing u can do when ur young is gain experience. Love and lust are 2 diff things, it takes time and alot of trial and error to know exactly what u are looking for. Do not settle down until u are atleast 30.
2006-10-12 04:31:15 · answer #9 · answered by broctune 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
u have the answer to the question. listen to ur heart.. if ur heart tell u not to have sex with her, dont have sex with her and vice versa. as for me, i want to wait until im 22 before i loose my virginity. i dont really care who she is- so far she is hot. some people do say wiat until u get married while they lost the virginity to their boy friend. since ur single, u can keep her as ur girl friend, if u find someone better... they tell her u guys can be best friends( like stanley and sarah)..... u dont have to worry about aftermath of a relationship before u start one.... do u know why ? it is because someone will still break the other person's heart. she broke ur heart before ...right ?
in a nut shell, if u dont wanna have sex with her, hook me up cos i know she is hot and she can hardly wait for suck my black meat.....lol
2006-10-12 04:46:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋