hi...hi gals n guys...
im carrying on with a guy since last 2 yers...hes a good guy and i love him a lot...but ther wer many bad times we had due to certain things....due to small fights n arguments he left me many times n i went begging to him many times to accept me as he knows my weakness...he jus keeps sayin hes giving me chances bcoz he loves me...but he jus ends the relationships if the fight increases...hes immature,,the point is...that he gives me less attention..we hardly meet once a week or twice sometimes...hardy 2 hrs or so...acc to him girls shudnt work n do job...they shud just do household chores,rest n do other things like hobby or so..but hes strictly against working...he says either i hav to choose him or job...im too confused n upset...whenevr this topic is removed ther r fights...i cry for days..i dont even talk to anybody...im really depressed//pls help me...its nt abt money...its jus tht his family is traditional minded abt girs tht they shudnt work...pls help
2006-10-12 04:06:40 · 17 answers · asked by jessica 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take up boxing as your hobby.
2006-10-12 04:12:09 · answer #1 · answered by Froggie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's the most crazy thing i have heard if you are put in a situation that's helping you then that's ok. but if not and your stressing that's not good you have the power to do anything you want to as a woman i understand once again you can get up and leave and find work or stay and be treated like your a child. There's not much more it all lies on you, and don't think that he's the only good man out there the same way you found him another will come.I'm 24 and been working since i was 16 alot of women would love to be in your situation. I wouldn't i love to work and buy what the hell i want and still pay my bills that and that's a good feeling to me it's your choice... good luck..
2006-10-12 04:20:57 · answer #2 · answered by sexychocolate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I gather, you and him are only dating. And barely doing that with only seeing eachother once or maybe twice in a week. If I were you, I would tell him, marry me, and the job is gone. I will be fine with taking care of the house, children if we have any, and napping in the day, and having a garden or sowing and so forth. BUT, until then, I am working to support myself. I have too, I do not have the luxury of someone else paying my bills and finances. So until you are ready to marry me, and make an honest woman out of me, and love me as your partner and wife, the job stays. I will not comprimise myself, or be BROKE for a * so, so* boyfriend that comes around when HE wants to, and gives me *2 HOURS* if I am lucky. If he can't handle the truth, and he can't *step up to the plate* then you are WAY better off without him. He is being stupid, asking you not to work when HE isn't helping you PAY your bills. Be SMART and WISE up. PLEASE, he is immature........ WAY immature, and he is asking you to hit rock bottom and do without, and be in a hole, because he doesn't want his *so, so* gf working, when he can't and isn't and hasn't made a COMMITMENT to your relationship other then *once* or *twice* a week of getting together, and if YOUR lucky, you may get *2 HOURS*? You are in the right, and he is WAY wrong, and being entirely TOO selfish about something that HE isn't helping you with. YOU need to work, YOU need money, YOU need to pay your bills so you are not in the streets. HE needs a *REAL REALITY* check............... SERIOUSLY. It sounds like you are better without him. Then you are with him. Blessed be.
2006-10-12 05:22:27 · answer #3 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you keep running back to him , that's what he wants ,it sounds to me that he likes the feeling of power and every time you come running to him begging for an other chance your giving him what he wants (he thinks you cant be without him).Time to stand on your own 2 feet and get your own life ,if you want to work do it and tell him if he doesn't like it he knows where the door is ...now your the one with the power stand your ground if he leaves let him .He will come to you if he loves you but don't give in no phone calls let him do any running that is to be done
2006-10-12 04:16:29 · answer #4 · answered by paul2ali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with this sexist pig. You deserve to have a life of your own, and be independent and be able to support yourself. Dump him and don't look back. Yea, you love him now but once you're out you'll be so glad you did. You deserve to have a career, make money, and be your own person. Most guys actually prefer that, but your guy just wants control. He probably also thinks that if he demands sex, you have to put out. This relationship has potential to become abusive. Get out, and get busy at that new job!
2006-10-12 04:14:28 · answer #5 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him instead of him sugar mama-ing you. Easier said then done I know, but sometimes you just have to cut the chord, Dont think you can ever change his beliefs or his ideas. Its not going to happen. By your relationship becoming more serious (like you having a kid or something) it will just bring more troubles. Give him the cold shoulder for a little bit and see what he does, if he starts calling you and coming over more because he misses you. You have the upper hand, If he keeps ignoring you it wasnt meant to be.
2006-10-12 04:15:14 · answer #6 · answered by skip s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Re-direct your energy into finding your true love. This isn't the guy who you want to stay with. There is someone else that will treat you much better and respect you out there searching for the perfect mate "you". Go out and learn to enjoy your life with someone who actually wants to spend time with you.
We get in a rut and are afraid of change - this is normal. Push yourself to break free from the "norm" and start enjoying life again !
Best wishes in whatever you do.
2006-10-12 04:12:12 · answer #7 · answered by jarhed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl been there before and i know that talking to someone will help but talking to someone who knows your relationship better than me might help even more. Whatever you don't let the person you ask for help judge you because they are not in your situation and don't know how deeply or not so deeply you are in love with your man, however you need to do for yourself before you do for him and your happiness is just as important as his if not more. So if you are not happy by all means do not be afraid to leave and get happier. If you want to work then work and if doesnt like it then tough unless he is willing to provide for younthe whole nine yards then you have to work to survive into today's world. I know he is stuck in the past but honey its no the past it is 2006 and women do work. All you really need to know that happiness is key and if you are not happy then go get happy as for the job thing your money and happiness will be there forever if you let it but guys they come and go like the days of the week. I mean he doesnt need to know everything you do so if you do want to work just keep your money and work out of his conversation you dont have to hide it but just dont bring it up. Let me know if this helps you or if you want to talk some more. xtwiztidchicx@yahoo.com and i hope everythings turn out great for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-12 04:24:08 · answer #8 · answered by LiL mAmMa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is trying to control you, leave him. If you love him and agree with his morals then stay. Love is not supposed to make you depressed and upset all the time. Do what your heart tells you is right. You will feel a lot better once you stop lying to yourself.
2006-10-12 04:09:57 · answer #9 · answered by Linda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh hunee...if you don't work...is HE going to take care of you, pay your bills, pay for extra things that you want?
Do you REALLY like yer job? or HIM more?
It sounds as tho you don't see him much, so how would he take TOTAL care of you financially if he won't even see you for more than a couple of hours per week. PLZ be careful. Don't make your decisions on HIS needs. Make them for your own!
2006-10-12 04:13:09 · answer #10 · answered by Q... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never quit my job if I were your. This relationship has ended multiple times and if you were ever quit your job for this guy, how will you support yourself the next time it ends. You obviously don't agree with his views, let the relationship go.
2006-10-12 04:11:31 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋