ANOTHER UPDATE-----> Recently I met a guy in class and we really clicked. Long story short, we slept together. We decided to remain friends (ie: go out to places together) and open to the possibility of a relationship in the future. Everything was fine until Monday, he starts telling me how much he misses me and tries to kiss me. I reminded him of our agreement and stated that we should adhere to it.
This morning, as I was returning to apt. from work, I saw him walking with some girl. Suddenly he stops walking in my direction and found something super interesting to read at 7 a.m. in one of the campus buildings. The girl that he was walking with looked confused because he literally ran from her into that building. (I know that she's been staying with him on campus since last weekend because that's when we suddenly couldn't go to his apt.) I just kept walking and acted like I didn't see anything.
Later I get an e-mail from him telling me that he thinks that he saw me this morning with another guy. (I was walking alone.) And then he left me a voice message expressing a sudden interest in my welfare. I told him not to bother calling/e-mailing me again. This is painful because I thought he was a decent guy and we could be good friends. I didn't deserve this kind of treatment. Can someone please explain to me why it's so hard for men to be honest?
2006-10-12 03:58:01 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, he wanted a relationship and then he wanted to be friends. At first, I didn't think that friendship was possible after you've had sex. But then I thought about it and decided to try. Then I see him with some chick this morning and he runs to hide? It just looks bad.
2006-10-12 04:59:17 · update #1
Please ton't think we are all like that lying bastard, excuse the language. Some of us are very honest, kind and caring and people like him are giving all guys a bad name, give me his address and I will make sure he doesn't do it again.
2006-10-12 04:02:47 · answer #1 · answered by porta_custos 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dEAR neveRbeENkissED:
The question should be why can't that jerk you slept with be honest with you. Not all guys are the same just because you find a few bad apples does not mean the whole orchard is rotten. My advice to you is first make friends with a guy and really get to know him before you become intimate. The truth of the matter the guy was probably hoping to have as a friend with "privileges". Not a good thing. So be careful who you talk to and don't let physical attraction dictate your decisions. I'm sure if your patient you will find a good guy that is worth your time. Good luck!
2006-10-12 04:05:38 · answer #2 · answered by WarWolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you be honest? Neither of you were honest with the other. You tell you just want to be FRIENDS!! Why is it so bad if he is with another girl? You are friends! That is what you asked for! Or do you have feelings and you lied about wanting to be friends? He left you because you acted like you wanted commitment but asked for a friendship. You brought this on yourself. I am just being honest!
If you wanted to be with this guy, you should have told him that you didn't want sex but you did want a relationship. At least that would have been honest! You cannot tease him by saying you don't want it then being disappointed when he finds it in someone else! If the guy wants a relationship, he found it. You are out, and now you are pouting by saying you don't want to talk to him anymore and don't want to be his friend. Get a grip and deal with yourself. You blew your chance!
2006-10-12 04:08:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you don't deserve to be lied to. No one does. And men have a tendancy to forget that they're dealing with another human being and don't show respect. I can't explain why that is.
On the other hand, didn't you tell him you two were not exclusive? So him being with another girl isn't really an issue unless you were interested in him in a relationship sense.
He shouldn't have lied and tried to change the story around to you being with another guy. That's just immature. But guys do that sometimes too.
2006-10-12 04:02:13 · answer #4 · answered by Ally S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen men are going to be men some good and some bad you have to be the judge of that us being women would try to make them who we want them to be. and we don't look for nothing different if we haven't been love or haven't had a good man we go with the flow before we even know them a person will always prove them self to you and we just have to beware of who we chose.Everybody tell lies so don't let that bother you move on and keep it professional and speak to him no need to be mad he's not your type..Good Luck....
2006-10-12 04:08:11 · answer #5 · answered by sexychocolate 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have never stopped being honest and almost all of the girls in my past have seen that as an opportunity to jump all over. I am still honest to this day and will not break from my stance. Not all men lie, just the ones that you are targeting.
2006-10-12 04:02:37 · answer #6 · answered by James S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This goes back to your other questions and I have to say to you. Why can't you be honest with yourself? Quit trying to be friends with guys that are like that. It's almost like you do it on purpose just so you can say it's all their fault and you don't have to take any of the blame. Hell next time don't sleep with them until you establish a long term relationship.
2006-10-12 04:06:28 · answer #7 · answered by omvg1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't say he's totally to blame you should have decided to be friends before you had the one night stand. I would just leave it alone it doesn't sound like a friendship is going to work between you two.
2006-10-12 04:00:57 · answer #8 · answered by horrorfan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not just guys, but we do have a tendancy to restrict the truth especially when it comes to women. Its better we feel to have a lot a lady or female friends to impress the lads!
Plus its easier to get a back up chick if needed. Sorry but thats the truth!
2006-10-12 04:00:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A guys goal on this earth is to screw every woman he crosses. Thats the truth. It wasn't personal he jus wanted some sex.
2006-10-12 04:02:42 · answer #10 · answered by svmanning05 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋