me and my fiancee haven't been intimate in about two going on three weeks. I have talked to him telling him how much I miss him and so on. He seems to think that it's funny, but I don't. we have gone from every day to now none existent. I told him I think he's playing a mind game. I also said that I want intimacy from him and today will be the last day that I approach him on that subject. I was going to get it from somebody if not him. was I out of line? I'm getting frustrated
2006-10-12 03:47:02 · 17 answers · asked by stella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The lack of sex is a symptom, not the real issue. You need to find out what the real issue is immediately. Does he have another lady on the side? Has he picked up an STD he doesn't want to spread to you? Has he fallen out of love with you? Yes, you were out of line to say that. Apologize. Tell him you won't cheat on him, but you have needs and if he isn't interested any more then maybe you'll have to break the engagement and start dating again. When are you supposed to be getting married? Don't marry him if this isn't resolved. There is a problem and it's not about the sex. Find out what it is.
2006-10-12 03:53:34 · answer #1 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You weren't out of line, but if this is what is going on and it's making you consider getting intimacy from someone else, you shouldn't be engaged to this guy. If this is what is happening NOW, what's it going to be like when you've been married for 15 years??
Get out of it. Time to reassess your relationship.
2006-10-12 10:51:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i surely do not think you were out of line because you have told him for the past couple weeks that you want intimacy. he is not giving and thinkign that it is all a big joke. so when he wants intimacy next time just laugh in his face and wait a couple of days.
2006-10-12 10:54:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it was a little out of line. Have you asked him why you haven't been having sex? He may be stressed out from work or the wedding. You need to find out the under lying problem before you give up.
2006-10-12 10:50:04 · answer #4 · answered by Wookie on Water 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You absolutely were NOT out of line. Sex in a monogamous relationship is very important, and it is very adult of you to want to discuss this with him. Personally, my wife and my sex life has virtually disintegrated after we got married. I think it is because men get "tired" of the same old thing (and men are essentially apes with jobs). Try a marriage counselor or a sex therapist. Good luck !
2006-10-12 10:51:27 · answer #5 · answered by Texas M.B.A. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that's your fiancee! Would you really do it? I would hope you said no, and if you did then your statement is an empty threat that might just turn around and make the matter worse!
2006-10-12 10:52:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no..usually when there is a problem in the relationship that's the first thing to go. If it gradually waned I would say no but since it came to a screeching halt I say forget about begging him, sounds like a power trip.
2006-10-12 10:49:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fiancee is reserved for people who are about to get married. He is just a boyfriend who may have grown tired of you and is holding onto you while he is shopping elsewhere.
It's possible that he is sick of you and your demands. Nothing kills sexual desire like a nasty woman.
2006-10-12 10:49:25 · answer #8 · answered by adamsjrcn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was probally not a good thing to say tempting his trust in you. I would suggest letting him know how it is hurting you, using threats like that will cause him to lose trust in you. Trust is a foundation for marriage, if you want this man to be your husband you need to let him know it's breaking your heart and how it makes you feel.
2006-10-12 10:53:56 · answer #9 · answered by Juleette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason you're not getting it from him is probably bc he's getting it elsewhere. Now go out and do the same.
2006-10-12 11:33:24 · answer #10 · answered by Yen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋