Hey!! I just recently (3 months ago) met this gorgeous girl and we started dating (2 months ago) and things were great. Inbetween the 2 months she told me that she had just broken up with a previous bf (which is a rule of mine: Never date a girl that has been single for less than a year) in the same month that I met her but I kept walking on dangerous ground. So a few days ago she hasn't been texting me like usual and she told me that the break up of her relationship just finally sunk in and now she is like a crying mess. She told me that she wants space but she doesn't wanna break up with me, but she only wants to see me once a month.......her b-day is on the 13th and mine is on the 17th and how will I get to enjoy those days with her if she doesn't want me around her..........everything was all cool, we kissed made out a little then the next day her sadness sets in, I don't get it..............what do you think?
2006-10-12 03:40:32 · 6 answers · asked by M.A.T. 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not to mention everytime I text her a text that is from the heart she says "Please don't talk about that." I sometimes feel as if she is cheating or maybe she is just experiencing heartbreak for the first time. It's killing me people.
2006-10-12 03:43:51 · update #1
Ok, first of a general rule about break-ups is that it takes half the time that you were in a relationship to get over it. So, if you were in a 1 year relationship, you're ready to date others and move on in 6 months. So to date someone that's been single a year doesn't make sense, because if they were in a one-year relationship, the'll be over it in 6 months, why wait a year?
I think she's using you as the rebound guy because she's afraid to be alone. That's why she doesn't want to break up with you, but she doesn't want to talk to you. She needs that title in order to feel secure about herself. Talk to her and say that you'll wait for her to be herself again, and heal from the first relationship, but that you can't be her boyfriend. Tell her that you may casually date, but that you won't jump into anything serious until she's ready. She wants the support of one of her girlfriends from her boyfriend, and that never works.
2006-10-12 03:48:35 · answer #1 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is still grieving over the break-up between her and the ex. All she does need is space at this moment, seems like to me she is not over the fact that she isn't with her ex anymore and she is hurting. That is the reason why she doesn't want you around, if you care for her you got to give her some space. I know you hate to feeling that she may run back to him. It really seems like she just rushed into another relationship when she is still heart-broken over the past one. Sometime woman seek other men to fulfill their grieveness feeling of being loved again but their emotional feeling takes over and they just want to be alone. I hope you and her work things out but just give her what she is asking for and that is SPACE. If she likes/loves you she will be there for you.
2006-10-12 10:52:54 · answer #2 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's drama dude. She only wants to see you once a month?? Um, no. What's wrong with you? Don't put up with that! How do you know she'll be faithful to you??? Let her be. Let her figure out what's going on with herself before jumping in the mix. Spend your bday with people you honestly care about and who want to be around you! Go out with friends and have a good time!
2006-10-12 10:44:54 · answer #3 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that what is gone is gone. no use crying for it. you are her present & the future. organise a suprise for her on her birthday. perhaps in between these 4 days before your birthday she might change her mind & your birthday too could be pleasurable.
one advice: whatever be the suprise, just take along a bouquet of fresh red roses. sing her a birthday song & then a love poem. if this does'nt work don't call her for a few days until she calls you
2006-10-12 10:46:47 · answer #4 · answered by karan s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she tried to move on too soon. it has nothing to do with you. it is a problem with her emotions and her emotional well being. she may need a friend right now, more then anything. and if you want to stick around as a friend, than this may be for you. if you want her sexually, then maybe you should it go. sorry.
2006-10-12 10:46:30 · answer #5 · answered by Freckled aquarius 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest u give her time to figure out what she wants and to get over her grief,that is, keep ur rule. Be patient with her and urself.
2006-10-12 10:50:36 · answer #6 · answered by June 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋