i do everything to please my girlfriend, spend a lot on her yet she wants more gifts. 2 weeks ago i got to know that she is currently having affair with at least a dozen other guys like me. she is probably pregnant with my child that she claims. i don't wanna believe her but feel as if at least the child is mine, (i had sex with her without condoms on several occasions). what should i do, ditch her or accept her & the baby. i know it will be very difficult to spend my life with her coz such people don't ever give up their bad habits but coz she is pregnant because of me i feel i have some obligatin too towards her. i am confused. please help.
2006-10-12 03:37:06 · 22 answers · asked by karan s 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't be a daym fool! You still can be a good father without taking this abuse, so ditch her azz. You have the rights to a DNA test as well...
2006-10-12 03:40:00 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...first and foremost, you need to have a paternity test to make SURE that the baby is yours...if she is having unprotected sex with you, what makes you think she is not doing the same thing with the other 6 men she is using. Secondly, stop buying her things...bc if it is your baby, you have not yet BEGUN to sepnd money and you're going to need to save every extra red cent!
But, just know, that bc you have a baby with someone, does not mean that you have to BE with that person...yes you will and should always be a part of each other's life bc you have a child together, but don't sacrifice your happiness if she treats you this way...you can be a father without being a husband.
In the long run, you'll be happy you spared your child the arguments and the fights, and you'll still be sane!
2006-10-12 10:41:38 · answer #2 · answered by laydehoo05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she's had affairs with a dozen other guys, then you really need to demand a DNA test before you start paying child support! the last thing you should do is pay for the child of some guy who got her pregnant while she was cheating on you!
you shouldn't feel too obligated toward her.. from what you said it sounds like she only cares about herself..
2006-10-12 10:39:18 · answer #3 · answered by Byakuya 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're an idiot. SHE IS CHEATING ON YOU! The baby probably is not yours. If she is having sex with you without condoms, then she's probably having sex with dozens of other unprotected as well. You need to find out if the baby is yours and go get checked for diseases. Sounds like you're with a W H O R E!!! What's wrong with you? Do you think of yourself that lowly???? Come on dude. Get a life.
2006-10-12 10:39:41 · answer #4 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sure picked a prize, didn't you? Don't be so sure this is your child. Do not sign the birth cert. and demand a DNA test. If she had sex with others, it very likely is not your child. She sounds like a tramp and a gold digger. Stay away from her and use better judgement from now on. You should also get tested for STD's. Why would you be so stupid as to have unprotected sex?
2006-10-12 10:40:17 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This may sound harsh, but grow some balls... Stand up for your self. You are worth the repect and love she is capable of. Do not presume she will continue the things she did in the past. You have to believe people can change or they never will. Take all the factors into consideration and then simply make a choice and stick with it. Be straight with her.
Good luck, belive in your self, and create an empowering context for the things you want to do!!
2006-10-12 10:44:08 · answer #6 · answered by Mindwalker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should leave her, but look after the child if it's yours, you should get a DNA test when it's born, then if it's not yours you can make up your own mind weather you want anything to do with them both, man you deserve a hell of alot better than to be treated like that!
2006-10-12 10:40:16 · answer #7 · answered by xx_lush_xx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are sure she is sleeping around and you might not be the father...you let her go. Then when baby is born get a paternity test...if yours...by all means take care of the baby, get your visitation and help raise your child. If not yours...sorry that's what happens to sluts...sorry...choose better next time dude!!
2006-10-12 10:40:08 · answer #8 · answered by Cadman1965 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First - get HIV testing
Next. No more unprotected sex
Next- work on your low self esteem. A lotta guys wouldn't touch your girlfriend with a 10-foot pole, but you chose to. Find out why you think so little of yourself that you would involve yourself with an obvious tramp.
Finally - get a paternity test.
2006-10-12 10:40:46 · answer #9 · answered by adamsjrcn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
darling get a DNA test done to chk whether the baby is urs or ...... if its true then go ahead otherwise u know what u have to do , use ur mind, it seems that u luv her very much but try to see the clear picture before commiting the biggest mistake of ur life. all the best
2006-10-12 10:41:06 · answer #10 · answered by dax 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋