i want to be with my husband at the house not his dad. should i say something? if he suggests we all stay together i dont want to . what should i say?
2006-10-12 03:25:19 · 14 answers · asked by elenitsa!!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he lives with his dad. his dad has another house but it is not as nice as this one. so he comes and visits whenever he wants to. and sleeps there. brings people to have party at the weekend, brings women (his wife has died)
2006-10-12 03:28:43 · update #1
Just tell him what you have said here on Answers.Best to get it out in the open now before the marriage.A compromise could be make the house into two separate places so everyone can have their privacy.Is it the dad's or boyfriends house?If it's dad's you S.O.L.
2006-10-12 03:29:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off, is the house his or dads?
If the house is dads not much you can do or say, don't move in if it makes you that uncomfortable. If the house is his and he wants dad to stay then why would you put yourself in a position where he would have to chose? His Dad is his flesh and blood, makes me think what comes first the chicken or the egg.
I would have to move in first and let things play out, if living with his dad there is unbearable then mention it to him. But you may find that it isn't that bothersome and be ok with it.
2006-10-12 10:32:56 · answer #2 · answered by Jamie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well u guys can always buy a new house, and i dont think it'd be nice to leave his dad alone like that, u guys can live together for few months and find a new house and kinda brought it up with ur bf
2006-10-12 10:27:43 · answer #3 · answered by AppleSoda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whose house is it? If it's his Dad's house, you need to ask if your husband will move out and live with you somewhere else. If it's the boyfriend's house and his Dad is living there with him, tell him you don't want to start off marriage as a three-some. See what he has in mind and negotiate.
2006-10-12 10:28:36 · answer #4 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely not. Either your bf will move out, or his dad will. Just be honest with him about how you feel, and consider whether or not you want to be in a situation like that. Either way, the father will have his own room, and you and hubby will have your own room too.
2006-10-12 10:30:05 · answer #5 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his family policy is that the parents stay with the kid, then they are a package deal. If you don't want that, you're going to put him in an awkward situation, having to choose between his dad and you.
Tread carefully.
2006-10-12 10:28:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll have to definately talk to him about your comfort zone with this. And he'll have to put you first before his dad if he wants to have a good relationship/marriage with you. And if he loves you then he'd do it automatically any way. Sounds cruel but the dad is going to have to go!
2006-10-12 10:34:26 · answer #7 · answered by His Dudeness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does his father live with him? If it is due to an illness or whatever, I would guess he will still live with you when you get married. I believe you need to have a frank talk with your fiancee. I doubt he will want to put his father out...this could be a sticky situation, but one you must address prior to marriage.
2006-10-12 10:31:23 · answer #8 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now now now....who is he first of all...
ur BF or Hus-Band...talk to him and ask him to get married if he wants to have some sexual fun coz at his age he shud take care of his grand children...by the way are u married to him...if not plz leave father son alone...dont create a fuss in his life....u seem too frustrated consult a psychaitrist..
2006-10-12 12:08:51 · answer #9 · answered by Rishabh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were in oyur B?F 's palce and i knew you had this question in mind...
i would slap u on your face...
he's his dad for God's sake... its yopu who has to move out of that house... not him
2006-10-12 11:10:44 · answer #10 · answered by richard k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋