Hi, how do i start over?

Question

After seven years of been with someone can i actually love again?/

Answer 1

i think it is always hard when a relationship ends you fell alone no matter how many people are there for you and you always feel that you can never love again! I had a relationship years ago and it took me about a year to get over the guy i lost he cheated on me but still it broke my heart he finished it and ran off with her. Then i found my current partner on a night out that i wasn't even going to go on as i couldn't be arsed and he said he was sitting at home and just decided to go out Fate works in mysterious ways we met and have been together for nearly two years. Believe in yourself and don't go looking for it, it will come to you when the timing is right. X

Answer 2

Yes, of course you can! Several of my friends split with their partners after seven years, and have now found someone new. There were moments when they regretted their decision to end the relationship - everyone worries about ending up alone - but it's important to remember why you broke up. It's better to be single for a while than stay with someone who makes you unhappy.
Take some time to get to know yourself again, reconnect with your friends, learn from your last relationship and when you feel ready, start dating. There's no need to rush into a new relationship, it's actually fun being single!

Answer 3

I am pretty sure you can love again. I would think you would have reacted in one of two ways:

1) you are fed up with long term relationships, in which case you will probably want to go to a few pubs and clubs, which will probably be a good thing so you can get it out of your system and be prepared for commitment again.

2) You broke the relationship off, probably because he was an arsehole and you are looking for another deep relationship so you can find someone you can really trust and rely on, in which case either find a new hobby and find someone else that likes the same thing and go from there. Hope this helps.

Answer 4

Having been there twice, I can say without a shadow of a doubt that starting over after a long term relationship is not about finding someone else, but is a journey of self discovery.
I walked out of a 7 yr relationship with pretty much mine and my daughters clothes and personals and nothing else. I met someone almost immediately and stayed with him for 4 yrs because I was to scared to be alone. Eventually I left him too, again with pretty much nothing.
I have been single for 3 and a half years now. At first, i went out there looking for love, I never found Mr Right, just Mr Right now and that really domolished any self respect I had left.
I had to learn to be on my own, to cope financially and emotionally on my own with a 11 year old daughter who wanted everything.
It wasn't easy but I did it.
I am now a confident 30 year old who is prepared to wait for someone special to come along. In the meantime, I have my daughter, my family and my friends as a support mechanism when I feel lonely, which I do on occassion.
Starting over is the beginning of a new and exciting, though sometimes difficult, period of your life.
Experience it as a learning curve, for in every mistake or obstacle is a greater benefit in how you learn to cope with and make the best you can out of it.
Don't give in and try to see the positive side of things.

Good luck.

Answer 5

i finished with my ex partner last year and we was together 7 years and even though it was me that finished it i was still heart broke, i starting seeing someone a few months later and i thought i cant do this i dont feel right and finished it and i woundered weather i ever could get over him and carry on. It killed me i can still see him now walking down the street or in the pub and still i will feel something for him and i think i always will he was my first love and you will always have something for your first love because that was your first ever experience of it. I think its just leaning to brake the habbit of not seeing him all the time, but whatever you do dont jump stright into another relationship give yourself time to get over him otherwise you end up thinking about your ex when you are with that person and it probably hurts even more. thats what i did and i can say i am over him and i feel i will love again

Answer 6

YES!!! Absolutely! If not, all of us would probably be with the first 'sweetheart' that we met in school. I think that your 'current' life situations has a lot to do with who you will feel that you love and gain a closeness to. I guess what I mean is the person that will fill the 'gap' for you at that particular time in your life. And, hopefully when you do find the person, they will continue to fulfill it. If not, then you need someone else that feels for you and 'with' you. Hope I made some sense with this... good luck!

Answer 7

Sure you can. Seven years is not that long in the span of a lifetime. Just be open to the idea and pray.

Answer 8

First, take inventory of what went wrong. Be honest about your role as well as theirs and the outside factors.
Second, take time to find yourself, and learn to love yourself first.
Third, (this will sound crasy) do look for a new relationship. When you are supposed to find someone you will. There is that one person waiting to find you and you must make sure you have done the work to be ready for that.

Good Luck!

Answer 9

Don't rush into anything, take time to adjust to the way things are now. Rediscover who you were before you we half of a couple. I relied heavily on my friends and family and accepted every invitation I got. I had so much fun discovering my freedom. THe hardest bit is not to leap headlong into the first relationship you have post break up and not comparing new to old. Take little steps and be rational. Most importantly relax, be yourself and take life as it comes.

Answer 10

I started over after 10 years. It is possible.