i broke up with my boyfried of 2 yrs 6 months ago and since then his best friend and i have become pretty close. im still not over him but my new best guy friend has said that he wants to date me and really likes me. hes also kinda into this other girl but would ditch that if i would date him. what should i do??
2006-10-12 02:59:14 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my new best guy friend knows everything and me and is best friend's relationship....including the abuse.
2006-10-12 03:02:08 · update #1
NO I DONT WANT TO BE WITH MY EX...HE ABUSED ME!!
2006-10-12 03:10:51 · update #2
just to clarity, my ex and i dated for 2 years...we broke up six months ago...i've been single for 6 months not2.5 years!
2006-10-12 03:12:45 · update #3
You & your ex are through - even though you still are not over him yet. I say give this guy the go-ahead & see where it takes you. You just never know - maybe he was the one you were meant to be with all along! He does need to ditch the other woman, tho, if he's going to be with you - you need to make sure he really does & that there's no attachment there. Put it all on the line for love here; it's a bold & wonderful move & could be just exactly what you need to put your past love behind you!! If you don't try, you will never know, what would be worse is doing nothing at all!!! Have fun - go out - relax - just enjoy letting this new guy fall in love with you!!!
2006-10-12 03:04:01 · answer #1 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you still are not over your ex , I don't think that it is fair to your possible new friend or to yourself to get involved in a relationship at this time. give yourself some time to get over the past and be willing to accept someone else into your life completely without having your past come up. you said that your new friend really likes you but you didn't say if you like him the same way maybe your feelings for your ex is not allowing you to be free to possibly love someone else. And for this friend to ditch someone that he is dating to date you is really kinda shady. maybe neither of you should get involved because it could become that of just convenience instead of actual feelings. so just give yourself a few more months then start the new year off right.
2006-10-12 03:11:22 · answer #2 · answered by chocolatefancier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So pretty much what he is telling you is that... he is going to keep his fling for this girl if you dont date him? Which means that he feels the same for another girl as he does you? Which mean 1) he could cheat 2) he is not ready for this kinda relationship. and 3) He sounds like a little punk!
I would friend someone that is not a friend with your ex. Because that will just cause problems
2006-10-12 03:06:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time for you to start dating again...2yrs and 6 mos? Too long to get stuck in the past. Why don't you give this new guy a chance...but don't go out with him until he's free...Make sure that you won't jump into another relationship so you can get over your ex...love on the rebound will make things worse for you.
If you're not ready to be involved seriously then just go out on dates and don't worry a great girl like you will meet mr. right one day.
2006-10-12 03:07:16 · answer #4 · answered by zac8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is almost never a good idea to date the ex of a friend so he may be getting himself into trouble. I would avoid the whole thing if I were you. You aren't over your ex and since he is friends with the new guy you will have to see him and will be harder for you plus if he gets mad that you two are together it could turn out bad.
2006-10-12 03:07:07 · answer #5 · answered by kna0831 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship is over with your ex 2yrs + 6months ago then it's time to find another guy! Personally I'd rather be single that date your guy friend who would ditch the girl he likes to be with u! - i kinda find it hard to believe a guy would even say that cause it's like forcing u to be with him!!!
2006-10-12 03:04:35 · answer #6 · answered by saiyuki c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rather don't! if you still have feelings for your ex, and you get together with his friend, not only will it ruin your chances of ever getting back together, imagine the heart ache you will have when you go out together and you see your ex holding and loving some other girl!!!
Rather start afresh with someone new.
it could be that the two of you are just attracted because you are also friends through your ex.
but at the end of the day it's your choice.
if it feels good, do it!!! :-)
2006-10-12 03:07:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends if your old boyfriend is wiling to take you back. However, if this best guy friend is willing to ditch another girl to date you, what makes you think that he wont ditch you for the next girl that breaks up with one of his friends? I would never date my best friend's girl, that guy has no morals, but if you cant do without the sucker, girl go for it.
2006-10-12 03:07:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion you shouldn't date your x's friend. Coz it diminishes yo integrity, first of all your x might think that yu used to cheat on him with his best friend. Secondly, since you said that he knows everything about you and your x, he might take advantage of you and in the end he might say, afterall if you failed his friend the problem is with you. Please don't accept him. There are so many guys out there who are good and caring. Why tie yourself with a friend of you x-boyfriend. Think about it. Wendy K
2006-10-12 03:14:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need time to heal before you go down that path again. Keep in mind this new "best friend" probably knows alot about the relationship between you and your ex. Find out what his intentions are first before giving in.
2006-10-12 03:01:16 · answer #10 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋