i want to be part of my childs life but she refuses i want to pay child support she won,t return my phone calls i want to see my child what options do i have
2006-10-12 02:43:03 · 23 answers · asked by wayne p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
get a lawyer, do the proper procedures and go through the courts. she cant deny you !! Please dont let her do that to you becuz when the kid turns 18 and starts looking for you there will be major issues. She will probably fill the kids head with all kind of BS like "Your daddy is dead, Your daddy left us" She will tell the kid what a monster you are and youre such a bad person dont let this happen to you. Be there for your child!! Good Luck God Bless
2006-10-12 02:47:35 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first off ask the courts to force herot take a DNA test , If the child is yours fine tel lteh courts you want to pay support and be in the childs life and have the courts deal with ehr . If the child is not yours then you can walk away from her and not worry about it .
Force the courts to deal with her and if she does not comply , the courts will deal with her and you will not be made a bad guy . Too many guys run away from this and if you are serious and want to step up do it the right way.Also you will avoid having to be called a dead beat no good guy in the future if she finds out later she cant deal with the raising and upbringing of the child and takes you to court.Remember to CYA all the time on matters like this .
2006-10-12 09:52:10 · answer #2 · answered by Glenn T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you start dipping into your pocket, get DNA tests done. So many people get tricked into paying maintenance only to find out that the child is not theirs. See a lawyer and explain, and also find out what your rights are to the DNA, as if it is your child your obviously would like to be part of the childs life. Do it the right and legal way. Any reason why you were not informed when she fell pregnant. Think about it.
2006-10-12 09:47:40 · answer #3 · answered by Vonnie S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you do not have a history of being violent or abusive to others then you have every right to see your child. Not even your ex girlfriend can stop you. Send her a letter or leave her a message and tell her that if she does not let you see your child then you will take her to court. This should scare her. If not then im arfraid going through the courts is the only way. No father should be deprived of his right of seeing his own child. good luck!
2006-10-12 09:49:21 · answer #4 · answered by Troubleshooter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to child support enforcement agency, file for DNA and child support against yourself in her behalf. They will do it for free. Then they will set a date for both of you if she is receiving any government help they will take that away from her if she don't comply. A copy of the test results will be mailed to you and her.Then a letter will be sent to you to appear for child support hearing, Between the two letters you should have an attorney in place to file for custody, this will force her to get an attorney also
WARNING!!!!!!!!!!!!
be very careful this is where the attorneys and the system will bend you over. Common practice is to suspend your child support hearing and change the filings to make it look like she was the one to file against you. Later down the road if you need to take custody of your child you won't get it because it looks like she chased you for child support. KEEP ALL DOCUMENTS YOU WILL NEED THEM LATER!!!!!!!!! Settle for shared parenting. Gives you more rights and more time than just visitation.
2006-10-12 11:50:14 · answer #5 · answered by big T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will need to go to family court,I reccommend you get a lawyer,but in the mean time why don't you just try sending her some roses and a simple card that states "Congradulations,if you ever need anything feel free to call me."
You can also send alittle something for the baby, you can have everything delivered. And congrats to you aswell for making the effort,you'll make a great daddy!
2006-10-12 10:04:37 · answer #6 · answered by vanislandwitch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends where you are. In south Africa for example, prior to 1997 fathers of children born out of wedlock had no inherent right to access of their child but were still liabe for maintenance but in 1997 the Fraser case changed the position to allow fathers access to their children. I think this is basically the position in most places around the world. Tell her to stop threatening you because if she didnt want you involved with the child she wouldn't have contacted you and would have just kept quiet
2006-10-12 10:02:17 · answer #7 · answered by sexy j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definetly get some legal advise. I would suggest that you request a paternity test. If she won't communicate with you just leave it to the legal experts. If she has an address to send gifts or money to I would suggest maybe trying to send something via the mail. If you choose to send money use money order or check. That way if she cashes the check or money order you have some documentation that you were making an attempt. Good luck to you!
2006-10-12 09:52:04 · answer #8 · answered by candyzaqt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well why did she tell you then? Just to mess with your head?
You should go see a lawyer and petition for your rights. Unless she has some very good reasons to convince the court you shouldn't see your child they will make a court order to compell her.
2006-10-12 09:46:53 · answer #9 · answered by baxterstuds 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all are you sure this baby is your's? I applaud you for wanting to be a good dad ..there are so few of you out there. But there are also a lot of women who will pawn a baby on you because they know the type of man you are. Watch your bridges before they burn..make sure this baby is yours. And if in Fact it is yours..you do have a right to legal grounds. Find a lawyer and tell him what's going on. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-10-12 09:49:06 · answer #10 · answered by ~* Pink Princess *~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋