wondering why she doesnt care for me she dont speak to me what have i done to her should i talk to her or,,,,, she really got mad at me 2years ago when i had my daughters bday party, she didnt come so i called and ask if she was coming over she said no i wasnt invited she is always invited and she knows that shes came to all her other parties i thinl she was being imature. what would u do?
2006-10-12 02:36:17 · 18 answers · asked by tonya j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It looks like her own problem. She should be nice for you to have your trust.
2006-10-12 02:39:40 · answer #1 · answered by Lady G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess if I were you I'd call her and tell her she's being foolish.You don't know what the problem is other than that maybe she was such a fixture in yourt life that you took for granted that she'd be there.
You should remind her that not every step mother in the world has such a great relationship with stepkids that she had an open invitation to their homes.You felt her such a part of your family that you took for granted that she'd just be there when you expected her to be WITHOUT an invitation.
For some reason she gave you the impression that she wanted to be there to share all the milestones in your life only to all of a sudden start demanding an invitation.Does she want a limo at her door too to bring her?
Now if another family member has made some comment to start all of this she should have informed you immediately so things could be set straight.If not then whatevers going on in her head is her own doing and she can either hurt you all by staying away or she can stop this foolishness and stop by anytime WITHOUT an invitation just like before cos you miss her and love her.
Then let her make her own decision.
2006-10-12 02:55:41 · answer #2 · answered by misbehavin165 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a stepmom to five. It is hard work. I can understand where she is coming from. Unfortunately even today after 15 years if the stepkids do not make a point of phoning me to invite me to one of their functions, there is no way I would just take it for granted and pitch up. We have been labelled "Wicked Stepmothers", so as much as I love them, I abide very strickly to the "rules". Phone her and explain, and try find out how she feels. Good luck
2006-10-12 02:44:50 · answer #3 · answered by Vonnie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in her shoes for a minute...when you have family gatherings is your mother there? Do you think that maybe your stepmom feels really uncomfortable but doesn't know how to express that to you?
I would get together with her and have a talk, explain that you really feel like she is giving you the cold shoulder, that she just doesn't like you, and for the sake of your entire family, you would like to resolve things with her so that you can all get along and be happy.
It'd be best if you did this before the holidays...it might make things much more comfortable for everyone involved.
2006-10-12 02:39:58 · answer #4 · answered by cnpundt 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok first and fore most , you live your life. and let your lil ones know they are fine and there is no issue with them period.
All you can do is invite people to parties and events.You can not force them to come.
Either your Step mom grows tired of being left out and comes to an event or she stays away and never sees her family period.That is her choice not yours.I would not argue with people like that nor would I waste time trying to persuade the mto come to the social event.
They either act their age or the yget left behind and out of family events such as the bday party.
It is always their choice to attend or not , you should never call someone to check if they are coming , just write on invitation RSVP if they do not respond to the invite then you already have your answer .
After all its your lil ones bday and you should be spending time with her o nthis specai lday of hers not calling someone who does not want to be there.Make better use of the time with your lil one and show her how much she means to you and forgot this sad excuse of a person who wants to avoid parties you have invited her too.
2006-10-12 02:44:18 · answer #5 · answered by Glenn T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is just something about step-mothers that inhibits them from being able to love their step-children, especially if they have their own children. I don't get it either and I have spent years wondering why in the hell I am such the bad person in my step-mothers eyes! I don't think it is us, but yet I dont know what it is like to be a step-mother. They disagree with things that you do, but arent able to tell you so becasue they are not your mother. Maybe they invevy your relationship with your father.....who knows why!!! Try and talk to her, be nice to her, dont go out of your way to kiss butt, but dotn give her any fuel to feed the fire! If you have takled to her and that still doesnt settle it, then the only thing you can do is to know in yor hear that you have tried! Step-relations are NEVER easy....
2006-10-12 02:43:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes we all automatically think family doesn't need to get an invitation let her no she is a part and does not need one she sounds like she cares about you other wise her feelings wouldn't have been so hurt maybe she feels left out try more to involve her in your family functions and send her an invitation way in advance.she may have other insecurities you don't know about so don't take it to heart have a talk to her or send her flowers out of the blue you never know you may need her some day life is too short to hold grudges
2006-10-12 02:42:04 · answer #7 · answered by nicole l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen what ever you did to her those 2yrs ago you need to handle your business on that. On the other hand she is your step mom remember that all you have to do is just RESPECT her in all aspect know matter what if she doesn't want to attend fuctions that are going on with the family thats her lost but don't let it upset you and your child
2006-10-12 02:41:59 · answer #8 · answered by nunaberry98 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about it obviously she felt insulted because you did not make a point by calling her and inviting her. She sounds very immature and i would talk to my father about it . Tell him if his wife is going to act like this then you dont want her around you or your child.
2006-10-12 02:41:05 · answer #9 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give her any attention(looks like she thirsty for some) if she call or visit you ...act normal and be your self because you have busy life a head you.No time for Drama.
2006-10-12 02:48:20 · answer #10 · answered by tiptoa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like my step mom i made sure my father was right there and i asked her what was her deal and he asked he the same thing we still dont care for each other but we work thought it cuz we both love my father and he wants to be in his grandkids life
2006-10-12 02:45:13 · answer #11 · answered by sweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋