My husband and I were seperated and planning on divorcing. I met a guy and fell for him. Stuff happened and I got pregnant. Well, he met someone new and forgot about me. My husband wants to stop all of the fighting and wants to get back together. He said he would love the child like it is his own, and I know he would. I know the biological father doesn't want anything to do with me, and probably not the child. The only people I am concerned about are his parents (the bio's) and his new girlfriend trying to get something from all of this. I am not sure I want the child around them. None of them have a steady job, they all dropped out of high school, and never attempted to get their GED's and the guy and his dad have extremely bad/quick tempers. The guy's mom and dad practically raised their nephew, and he his is fairly intelligent. However, to hear him speak is like watching an "R" rated movie. He cusses, talks dirty & makes racist remarks. He is only 7. What do I do?
2006-10-12 02:34:00 · 9 answers · asked by Just Having Fun! 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Your best bet is to check with an attorney. If you don't have the money, you can check with the local Legal Aid office. In some states, all your husband has to do to be the father is to be your husband. Biology isn't an issue unless your boyfriend files a paternity suit.
In most states, however, it isn't possible for a biological father to sign his rights away. That is because of the financial implication for the State (welfare and such). Your best bet is to check with a lawyer regarding the statutes in your state.
2006-10-12 02:44:11 · answer #1 · answered by servinggodalone 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok so what are you asking? You start off asking one question then drift off into something totally different. What I would like to know is, how the hell do you and your husband decide to seperate, then you end up falling for an obvious a s s h o l e and get pregnant by him? You should have thought about the consequences before you had unprotected sex with a complete loser since his side of the family seems so bad. You say the biological father "probably" doesn't want anything to do with the child. Why haven't you asked him? If he wants to be apart of the child's life then he undoubtedly has that option regardless of what you say and want. This is some jerry springer s h i t.
2006-10-12 02:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by trafficjams 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are the mother of your child and you are entitled to keeping your own child, unless you do something wrong that would cause someone to take your child away. Chances are you will probably go to court, but I think that you should let your husband adopt the child. And just forget about the other guy if he doesn't want anything to do with you chances are he doesn't want anything to do with your baby. God bless.
2006-10-12 03:08:53 · answer #3 · answered by blessed_in07 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call childrens services, I do know that your husband will have to adopt the child, and it has to go through that office.
My cousin just went through this, but the baby was already born. Its a whole process, children services comes in, looks over your house, does back ground checks on your husband and so on.
I would imagine that the father could sign over his rights at this point... but i dont know. They could atleast point you in the right direction.
2006-10-12 02:39:01 · answer #4 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it isn't possible for the bio father to sign rights off before birth without DNA test proving he is the bio father. there are tremendous legal issues here. my husband is adopting my son now 4. took us this long to get his dad to agree to sign off rights. your also looking at legal issues depending on the state your in. separated or not being legally married still and prego by another man. your safest alternative would be just to have your hubby sign the birth certificate. irregardless your husband would be responsible for the child if your still married when you give birth. your situation is extremely complicated from a legal stand point. your best bet would be to consult a lawyer. cover your butt now before it becomes to late. good luck
2006-10-12 09:29:04 · answer #5 · answered by imnoangel_81 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i know that paternity will have to be established. i understand your concerns about the biological father. but he will need to be given the choice about being involved in the babys life in a court of law. unless he is found to be an unfit parent. i think it is wonderful that your husband wants this child.
good luck
2006-10-12 03:00:57 · answer #6 · answered by Maddie and Jacobs mom 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the baby's father is happy to sign over all parental rights to you then it can be done. However if he isn't then you will have a battle on your hands which will have to be worked out through the courts if it can't be done amicably. I would get professional advice if I were you.
2006-10-12 02:43:43 · answer #7 · answered by koolkatt 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
paternity must be established before he can relinquish his rights .....you don't exactly have to take a paternity test as long as he signs the birth certificate and does not contest paternity later......sorry but you'll just have to wait.
2006-10-12 02:39:46 · answer #8 · answered by funkyk 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wait who is only 7?
2006-10-12 02:39:10 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋