at what age do you think it is appropriate to allow your children to date? Should it also be based on how mature the child is?
2006-10-12 02:25:56 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
16 and yes maturity would play a big part...
2006-10-12 02:32:48 · answer #1 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say at age 14. This should be allowed at a level of having the kids under the microscope while you reinforce safe-sex practices. Even if the kids are Christians, reinforce safe sex practices nonetheless. And yes, the maturity of the individual comes into play as well. If the kids know you're asleep at the wheel, they will take unfair advantage of the lack of supervision. But yes, give them the football and see which way they run with it...if they screw-up, wait a little longer before letting them go out and try again. Be careful not to shut their dating down altogether as you will create a monster that sneaks out of the house and does what they want anyway. Why is the forbidden fruit always so appealing? Keep both eyes open and your finger on the pulse of what's happening, and you should be A-OK. Peace
2006-10-12 09:37:38 · answer #2 · answered by rasputin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm..maturity of the child is important. I also think the type of date is important--if it's a group date, a double date, or just the couple on the date.
My kids are far from dating age (3 & 5) but when the time comes I'll judge from how responsible and trustworthy the are. I am leery of the single date....there is safety in numbers. It would ease my mind if it were mainly group dates....just from my own teen dating experiences I did a LOT of stupid things. I put myself in MANY dangerous situations...and my parents thought I was mature....GO FIGURE!
Good luck though!
2006-10-12 09:33:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have three children (23, 18, 16). We never allowed dating throughout high school, though our kids often went out in mixed groups to various activities (homecoming, etc.) Once they go to college, they (obviously) can make their own decisions on the matter. All of our kids read "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" by Joshua Harris -- an excellent book that exposes the pitfalls to modern dating. No regrets.
2006-10-12 09:32:05 · answer #4 · answered by pilgrimchd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is an individual decision. Children mature differently and only you as the parent can know when it is right for your child to start dating.
2006-10-12 09:30:46 · answer #5 · answered by shakespear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a mother yet but my sister has a 12 and a14 year old both girls she lets her 14 year old date be cause she is mature enough so it depends on the child's maturity.
2006-10-12 09:31:22 · answer #6 · answered by Bella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think at 16 and yes it all depends on how mature they are but if their mature at 13 or 14 it still is a no and if they lack respncibilties at 16 or 17 it's still a no
2006-10-12 10:12:33 · answer #7 · answered by provenmazz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I allowed my daughter to date when she was 16. The rules were I had to meet him in person, when they went out he was to knock at the door and none of this sitting in his car honking the horn for her. He was to have her home at a certain time and if not, I would not hesitate to go find them. My house, my daughter, my rules.
Her dating was never a problem, she knew I meant exactly what I said.
2006-10-12 09:35:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say it depends on each individual child, but under 15 is kind of young in my opinion.
2006-10-12 09:34:45 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the kid's personality. you can organize small parties at home
2006-10-12 09:32:52 · answer #10 · answered by xxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋