every night at 10pm i tell me daughter to come home so i can feed her a birth control pill... ive had problems in the past with girls lying about birth control, so im not going to let my daughter become one of those hussies.
last night she came home at midnight and refused to let me feed her the pill!
im worried that she might have gotten pregnant while she was out for those extra 2 hours, and now she doesnt want me to kill the baby with the pill.
2006-10-12 02:21:20 · 23 answers · asked by catfish_alomar_jr 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
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2006-10-12 02:41:21 · update #1
You "feed her the pill"? That's the problem right there. She's probably not pregnant, just tired of you controlling her. Maybe if you step back and get to know her before you assume anything you'll see what's really going on. I understand your concern for your child, but lay off a little.
2006-10-12 03:03:12 · answer #1 · answered by Ally S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's just getting pissy that you're trying to force birth control pills down her throat. If you're worried about her have gotten pregnant LAST night, take her to the doctor and get the morning after pill.. it works within 72 hours of having unprotected sex.
And give the poor girl a break.. or keep some better reigns on her.. don't let her out of the house until midnight. Sounds to me like you're just encouraging her to have sex.
2006-10-12 09:55:15 · answer #2 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We can't answer that question. Only a pregnancy test & doctor can answer that. Just because you daughter doesn't get pregnant doesn't mean she still can't be a hussie.
hussy
Main Entry: hus·sy
Pronunciation: 'h&-sE, -zE
Function: noun
Inflected Form(s): plural hussies
Etymology: alteration of Middle English huswif housewife, from hus house + wif wife, woman
1 : a lewd or brazen woman
2 : a saucy or mischievous girl
So you see pregnancy doesn't make a female a hussy. You know controlling a person will only make them want to do what you don't want them to. Maybe if you gave your daughter some trust & had faith that you raised her right, then you wouldn't be worrying about this. My parents didn't try to control me & I was actually more responsible because of that. They believed that I wasn't a super freaky nasty rotten do what I want kinda girl. Hey go figure they were right. Hell give her the pills & let her do it herself. She's not an animal for crying out loud.
2006-10-12 09:38:28 · answer #3 · answered by twinkle toes 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What kind of father logs onto Yahoo Answers and asks a bunch of strangers if his daughter is pregnant? If your own daughter won't tell you if she's pregnant or not, what makes you think any of us can? First of all, you need to tell her to have her a s s home earlier than midnight, wasn't it a school night? Instead of trying to kill babies, you should try enforcing some rules and have your daughter respect you. She lives in YOUR house right?
To the commenter above, that's the problem with parents today. Being "OK" with having their teenage daughters get pregnant and not minding raising their child for them and doing most of the work. Where the hell are the priorities?
2006-10-12 09:36:56 · answer #4 · answered by trafficjams 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cinse you asked, it sounds tome like ther may be some trust issues at home, I seriously recomend family therapy,and most of all,rememberkids are people too,begin to speakto her in an adult manner constantley chastising will only push her farther away,She may notbe pegnant,but pushing this issut will push her to rebeland ruin the rest of her life,thinking it will begettingback at you,if she will not agree to go, seek theraputic help,to help you deal with the situation better. Treating her as an adult will help her become more resposiblefor her actions,try totalk to her like a friend would,she feels as though you do nottrust her tomake desitions,you may try and let her baby sit an infant,so she can really see where it will lead,if she still wants a baby,it's time foer her to get a job.What ever you do do not push her away,you may be all She has. Read this...........
2006-10-12 09:49:11 · answer #5 · answered by Dino 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what you are doing to your daughter is very damaging. she is never going to trust you because you don't trust her to be safe, and you don't give her any responsiblilty. not only that but you are sending her all kinds of mixed signals. if i knew you were going to give me a pill every night at 10 pm that will prevent pregnancy, i would be out there having sex every night of the week. and i am sorry but that is what makes your daughter a hussie, not getting pregnant, but having lots of sex, which she is probibly doing all the time with out protection. the pill does not protect you againt STD's. what if you daughter catches something? is she going to feel comfortable coming to you to ask for your help? some STD's can perminantly damage your reproductive organs. while it might be inconvenent for you daughter to have children now, she probibly wants to have them later. that is if you havn't totally warped her sense of reality and she thinks kids are bad, and make you look like a hussie. Obviously you had her, does that make you a hussie?
About your worries on the last line. What do you know about the reproductive system? it can take up to 24 hrs for the sperm to reach the egg. Taking the pill does not kill your unborn fetus. Taking the pill makes your body think that you are pregnent for 28 days untill its time to have your period, when you take the suger pill. Did you know that birth control is only 98% effective.
I know what i have said sounds harsh, but honey you need a wake up call to save the relationship between you and your daughter. i would seriously suggest the two of you seek some counsuling to work thru your trust issues. good luck
2006-10-12 09:48:34 · answer #6 · answered by Tabitha 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It is impossible to tell if she is pregnant (from where I am), but I can guarantee that they way you are handling it will only further break down any trust between you and your daughter. If she got pregnant now, what does she have to lose? You need to rethink your strategy for keeping your daughter safe. Unfortunately you cannot control what she does, you only control what messages you give her. And the messages you are giving her by not trusting her are destructive both for your relationship as well as for her self-esteem. I suggest you speak to a family counselor for some guidance.
2006-10-12 09:55:51 · answer #7 · answered by shakespear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be talking to your daughter about what is right and wrong not feeding her a pill and telling her to be a good girl, be a Father in her life and talk with her and teach her the right things and she may not even need the pill. With you FEEDING it to her she is thinking that you think of her as the hussy you described .
2006-10-12 09:57:04 · answer #8 · answered by 9929 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you seriously need to work on some trust issues and I can tell you first hand that even if birth contorl is used properly it can and will fail occassionally. My daughter WAS on birth control and it did fail and she's keeping her baby even if I end up being the one to do most of the raising of the child. My granddaughter will be born in less than a month. A fetus is a human being at the moment of conception and abortion is murder. FYI birth control cannot kill or end a pregnancy. A morning after pill could and please don't call your daughter names and destroy her self-esteem.
2006-10-12 09:35:47 · answer #9 · answered by Diana C 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think you have some trust issues with your daughter, these insecurities could ruin your relationship with her. Just because other people have mase mistakes doesn't mean your daughter will. I'd be furious if my mum did this to me, my sister got pregnant when she was 18 but that didn't stop her goin to college afterwards and getting an A and a B at A2 levels, and just because my sister got pregnant my mum doesn't think i will make the same mistake. Whats your daughter done to make you not trust her. Don't stereo type her in to other girls treat her as an individual, if you treat her with respect and trust her if she does have problems she knows she can come to you and you'll be there for her.
2006-10-12 09:32:09 · answer #10 · answered by Sky 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋