Why do I always lead guys on, and make them feel like they have a chance, when they don't, and then once I know I have then all in-love, i crash their hopes and "dump" them?
Is it healthy. and how do I change. I don't want to spend my whole life like this. What do I do to fix myself?
2006-10-12 02:16:42 · 16 answers · asked by You're giving it all away! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
see a therapist
2006-10-12 02:18:13 · answer #1 · answered by Henry_Tee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason you probably do this is because you like the attention, you want guys chasing you around, and it is natural, most girls will do it. If no guys took any notice of them then that wouldnt be any fun for ya's would it now. So when you dont really like them, you still lead them on because you like the attention.. sorry if that sounds harsh I dont mean it to be.. sorry. As for changing, it's all in yourself and I'm certain you will grow out of it in time once you meet the right guys.
2006-10-12 09:19:52 · answer #2 · answered by Jye B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys get up the nerve to talk to the girl, then she leads them on, and that "love" they feel crashes down on them. Then the rumors about the girl start, the girl gets mad and then they all want to know the same thing... "why are they saying these things about me?" IF YOU ARE NOT INTRESTED IN THEM THEN TELL THEM!!!! To change your ways, don't lead them on, and find somone you would like to know better. Good luck.
2006-10-12 09:27:51 · answer #3 · answered by Jokerman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop looking for the guys you want to dump and look for the ones that you can't let go of. What you are doing is screaming that you don't want commitment. Unusual in most women. That means that you are afraid of commitment. Face whatever scares you about relationships. You'll be better off.
2006-10-12 09:19:50 · answer #4 · answered by Michael E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You like the thrill of the game....... unfortunately youre hurting others doing it, so I would think that should be enough to make you stop if you were any kind of a person. No it isnt healthy.
Maybe when someone actually treats you like this you might stop.
2006-10-12 09:23:03 · answer #5 · answered by tassie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you can say you have some women who just want to live there life stress free with loads of freedom not with someone who wants to give you the forever type of stuff and you my friend seem to be the type who can't stay to one guy and probably one task too long. You need to speak with someone who can get your mind settle and also get a steady partner who you yourself might just love.
2006-10-12 09:22:33 · answer #6 · answered by Randisha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a conselur sounds like you have some ego issues that need dealt with!
2006-10-12 09:18:18 · answer #7 · answered by blueblossom33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all need to love and to be loved.
Most of our issues could be solved fairly easily, if we have our loved one supporting us.
If you are hurt by a former ex, well you just need to get yourself up and start searching for someone who deserves your love.
Don't ever be shy .. that won't ever help you .. and you'll have lots to lose. Do what your heart tells you it's right.
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2006-10-12 09:18:27 · answer #8 · answered by c g 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you Can do if you really want to change, it just a matter hucking up with one and doing everything possible to keep it on.
2006-10-12 09:24:22 · answer #9 · answered by freeall_freeme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my best friend is exactly like this. she loves to make guys like her and when she does, she tells them she doesnt like them. i think you do it because you just want to feel special. you want someone to say they love you even if you know you dont love them back. if you want to stop, just stay away from the people you know you dont like.
2006-10-12 09:20:29 · answer #10 · answered by laura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋