2006-10-12 02:14:03 · 6 answers · asked by stefan 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Being confrontational and assertive virtually never worked with my teenage son. You have to continually let them know that you are available to talk if they feel the need. Also, you need to spend personal time with your teen building a confidence and bonding relationship. I am able to help my son the most when we are alone, out shooting, hiking, walking the dog or other activities that he enjoys (and let's his guard down).
2006-10-12 04:47:32 · answer #1 · answered by patweb01 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I prefer to listen to what my kids have to say and then try and guide them in the right direction. I have a 22 yr old girl and an 18 yr old boy. Mommy knows nothing in the 22 yrs old eyes so I listen and voice my opinion but I let them make their own decisions even though I know it is the wrong one because we have to learn from our mistakes. I know it is very hard to watch your child get hurt or do something that they will regret later but it is something we should do to show them we trust them. This has worked for me because neither of my children have ever been in any serious trouble. Plus they come to me and talk about whatever it is they are deciding to do including sex, drugs and drinking. My daughter started having sex at age 18 my son age 17, neither do drugs but my son tried pot once and both drinking occasionally during family get together no big deal at least I know where they are and what they are doing. I never gave my kids a curfew and they never stay out past midnight so I think talk to them and listen to them on their time not yours.
Foster care is fro kids that are neglected or abused, it is not for kids who refuse to spend time with their parents. I am a foster parent I enjoy it very much all kids need is love and attention and a warm safe home.
2006-10-12 09:29:18 · answer #2 · answered by c0mplicated_s0ul 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok first of all i recent that statement about foster care...i was a foster child. yes i was adopted. Second honey most of the time if you act as if you have the same problem your teen does they will try to help you and end the end you'llprobably help each other. talking doesn't do any good without common ground.
2006-10-12 09:35:13 · answer #3 · answered by mcshankel04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long drives can be beneficial.... Something about the teen not having to make eye contact, makes it easier to talk openly. For that matter, it is also a good way for adults of opposite gender to work things out sometimes. Be open minded and as non-judgemental as possible.
2006-10-12 09:34:27 · answer #4 · answered by mama_bears_den 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I had a teenager they would not think I am a moron. I would make them spend time with me. If they refused, I would give them to foster care.
2006-10-12 09:23:24 · answer #5 · answered by isis 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
any where just be open to them and be there but jusy be cool and they will come around
2006-10-12 09:23:14 · answer #6 · answered by hamslice01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋