my daughter also says that i am not aloud to say that she is pretty?

Question

She says that i am not aloud to say that she is pretty because she is not pretty. And if i must say somthing then i can say she looks cool. Now when family or friends come over she will ask them if they like there face because she dose not like hers. We all reasure her that she is pretty because she is .but she dont think so she is only 6 ?

Answer 1

she will grow out of this

Answer 2

I would recommend that you monitor her exposure to magazines, TV, etc. She may be gaining an unhealthy and unattainable idea of beauty. I know a lot of people said 'she'll grow out of it', that might well be true but please error on the side of caution. Children are inundated with marketing and images and younger and younger they are developing negative self-images. I will tell you that when I was little, I hated being called 'cute', actually I'm still not fond of it. Respect her wishes by not calling her by that name. Instead tell her she looks cool since that's what she likes. If this gets worse as she gets older, please consider having her talk to a professional counselor. Good luck to you both!

Answer 3

You might want to ask her why she doesnt think she is pretty...Maybe she is being harassed by sibling or a school mate and maybe ask her what would help her feel pretty. It's just so sad that she is only 6 and having these feelings. But the only way you can help is by asking her what kind of help she needs.

Answer 4

U need 2 reassure her she's pretty. It isnt good for a 6 year old 2 have low self esteem, maybe somebody told her she wasnt pretty keep assuring her she is and find out what might have caused the low self esteem

Answer 5

I could be wrong but is there something going on in school or anywhere that she is around other kids. It has the signs of bulling or something like it. Usually it's from a child that is jealous and says it to make them feel better and the other person bad. hopefully I'm completely wrong however it only takes one person to say it when they are that young for it to be taken so seriously.

hope it helps

Answer 6

I hope it's just that she is squirming under the glare of too-much-attention from aunts and uncles. That IS a 6 year old thing.

Self-esteem and body image issues, as others say here, ARE NOT "6 year old things."

I hesitate to suggest counseling for her, but things seem off to a poor start.

Answer 7

Id be worried that a six year old has conceptions like this about herself - you're the parent - where do you get off letting HER tell you what you have to say - nip this one in the bud - not only are you encouraging her to be a sassy pup by ordering you around - you're enabling lack of confidence in older years.

Answer 8

Sounds like she is going through her tom boy stage at the moment and not as girlie as she was, I hated my mom saying I was pretty and used to get really cross with her, honestly she will grow out of it, its just a phase shes going through and before you know it she will be all girlie again and demanding everyone says she is pretty.

Answer 9

Tell her that you think she is pretty, but call her cool if that's what she wants. It'll just be a phase I'm sure! If she is pretty, she'll realise it soon enough when she's a few years older!

Try not to fret, all you can do is give her encourangement.....girls are a real handful......wait til she's a teen!!

Answer 10

She's 6 honey. She'll step out of the mould. Just keep reasuring her she is!

Answer 11

It sound like you have an insecure little girl.ask yourself when did she start saying this and try to determine how she started to feel like this.She may be getting teased by someone or she may just want to look like a pop star.Whatever the source doubting your body image can cause serious problems,especially for little girls.Keep telling her shes pretty!