my boyfried and I both turn each other on . We both love sex but he cant get enough he wants to all the time .How can i slow it down without hurting his feelings?
2006-10-12 01:41:25 · 22 answers · asked by sue b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Suggest other activities such as a movie
2006-10-12 01:43:51 · answer #1 · answered by aliciarox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tricky. You know, a lot of people don't think about sexual compatibility NEARLY as much as they do Personality Compatibility. Even though sex is JUST as important in forming a bond within the relationship as is communication, similar interests, friendship, etc. If he loves sex and you're not as much into it that's a problem. Because there are very few alternatives that he can go to that won't involve infidelity. He's in a monogamous relationship with you and only you. So his only source for sexual contact is you and only you. And you don't want to give as much as he needs. So one of two things need to happen. Either A.) You have more sex or find ways of a non-penetrating nature to gratify him and maintain that exclusivity OR B.) Let him go. Break up with him or let him see someone else for what you can't cover. It's selfish to expect your partner to wait while you decide what you want to give in a relationship. If it comes down to that, then you need to move on and find someone who has the same sexual appetite as you. Good luck.
2006-10-12 01:59:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I liked what ebony princess said.
I also noticed from your other questions that you had probably only been together a short time, Perhaps days rather than months. It is possible to be incompatible regarding sexual frequency, but it is probably too soon to tell. It is usual for people to be far more sexually active at the very beginning of a relationship. It takes a few weeks before you find an ongoing satisfying frequency. But do talk to him. Give him time to digest the information but if he isn't receptive to your personal needs it is better to find that out now & move on.
2006-10-12 02:22:52 · answer #3 · answered by muffdiver4u1951 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you consider too much??? Once a day, 2, 3 times??? You don't say. You could always just say, honey I need to get some sleep, could we slow it down for a few days. Good Luck.
2006-10-12 01:50:34 · answer #4 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great to have such a sex full relationship.
Just tell him how you feel. Find maybe even other ways to keep him busy while your not making love....
For example...oral sex or even a slow striptease for him while he jacks off by using his own two hands...
Try it...
Good luck
2006-10-12 01:47:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never have too much sex. I for one perform as a person and professional with frequent sex. I recommend it to everyone. You should just make a deal with your boyfriend as to what would get you off.
2006-10-12 02:16:56 · answer #6 · answered by Bob M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time y'all do it tell him ''we got to slow down because I don't want nothing to happen like having a baby''
2006-10-12 01:46:59 · answer #7 · answered by kevin l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel, im in the same situation and its so tiring, i just cant cope anymore... the thing is hes so "used" to having it whenever he wants, so he told me he cant just change and slow down.. its very difficult... But in your situation i think you just need to talk to him and explain to him the more you go without, the more you want and need!
2006-10-12 01:58:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you really care about yalls relationship and you don't want it to be just about sex you want it to seem like you have other things to do than go at it every time yall are together
2006-10-12 01:45:52 · answer #9 · answered by ebony princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear go on giving him sex and go on taking it. Keep ypourself enjoying sex with eachother. Try to give him when ever he wants it with you. With time every thing will be ok
2006-10-12 01:46:26 · answer #10 · answered by soofi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋