Hi, i am 42 and i have always been single all my life, i have never been married nor have i had a girlfriend before. I have always been a good person with a nice heart, charming, good looking (when i was young that is), nice built, rich and successful with money, talented at sports, very social and outgoing, yet i never met any one in my life. Mother always told me that i'd find someone someday, but that day never came. Now she's gone, how could she have lied to me like that. I tried everything and still i found nothing. No one wanted me. If I had a peanut for everytime i've been turned down/rejected i honesly would be a millionaire. I respected people all the time, yet no one wanted me. I have never enjoyed the richness other people had, teenage love, making love, being a father, holding someone and having them say that they love you. I tried so hard, yet i failed. My life has gone past, where did i go wrong? How come i never found anyone to share my heart and my love with?
2006-10-12 01:22:54 · 7 answers · asked by vanilla_thrilla01 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"your life has gone past" - at 42??? I don't think so! You can still find someone to share your life & your heart with. I was definitely feeling like you - my marriage had ended & I thought, I'm a single mom, 42 years old, no one is going to want me. Well, long story short - I met a great guy & fell deeply in love. The relationship lasted a little over two years, but it DID come my way. Who's to say yours won't? You didn't "go wrong" - believe me. We all want someone to share our live with, someone to give our heart to. A partner in life, a friend, a lover, a special connection. I hope you will find it - please don't give up on that. I won't say she's out there waiting - you may have to do some looking. I'm 44 now & wondering will I ever find "the one" with whom I can spend the rest of my life; I don't know & sometimes I feel like ti's not worth the effort at all. But I do know that you can do it, it CAN be done.
good luck!!!!!
2006-10-12 01:39:25 · answer #1 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 33 been married since I was 17 and had 2 kids before I was 20. I have no job my husband works hard but we live a bit better than paycheque to paycheque. People may ask me if my life is full? I don't know. I love what I have but sometimes I want more. You don't need a wife/girlfriend or children to make your life complete. It's what SOME people need. At 42 if you meet a woman she will likely have children already. Ask yourself what it is you do want. If it's a wife then go out to singles places or meet with some friends that have single friends, if it's children you want, than if what you say is true @ 42 with financial security and if you are a good person you could adopt. Find out what it is you want and go for it. Don't sit around and wait because it won't come looking for you. Good Luck.
2006-10-12 01:32:39 · answer #2 · answered by Brenda M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you were not meant to get married - it is what God has planned for you! Or maybe you are meant to get married but because you have not had God in your life you have not had the guidance toward this plan for your life.
Either way - pray now for something in your life so that you do not feel empty. Maybe it is not meant to be - maybe it is. Either way we need to be happy with all the things we do have. Start writing down 5 things every day that you are thankful for. It will definately lift your spirits.
I pray that you find happiness - whether it is in marriage or not!!
2006-10-12 01:42:13 · answer #3 · answered by Nic 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Same thing here. 36 and single almost all my life. Many times I wonder what I am doing wrong, but I have a full life otherwise (friends, family, job, etc.).
2006-10-12 01:54:22 · answer #4 · answered by bestwomanberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if what you said about being rich and successful is true then your problem is you are not showing off well enough my friend cause females "no matter what they say" are attracted to power and money is the ultimate power
2006-10-12 01:34:26 · answer #5 · answered by no begining no end 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It seems to me by your other questions that you are always thinking on the down side of being single.Go out and get yourself some.It is never too late!
2006-10-12 01:36:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
OMG . is this true or what. i feel in my heart for you.
2006-10-12 01:26:18 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋