Why is impossible to find a girl these days. I'm a sweet guy, my friends say I;m funny and I'm rahter intelligent. I may not be the next guy to appear on the OC but I;m decent looking. How come I can barely even find a girl whos remotley interested and when I do, shes a rotton ***** or cheats on me?
2006-10-12 01:13:38 · 21 answers · asked by Michael M 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop looking!!! Thats when she will surface. Right now, you are bent on finding a good one. What you need to do is change your attitude, and start waiting for the great one. When i did that, the greatest one poped up. I was at my wits end, ready to be a single guy the rest of my days. Then in a matter of days, my life changed. Dont settle for mediocrity. If you know what you deserve, then be patient. Go about your life. Do what makes you happy, and the right one will find you.
Positive vibes always attract. Negative ones will keep her away.
Good luck.
R
2006-10-13 03:19:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop looking. I know this sounds really vague but it works. The more you try to find someone, the more desperate you get. You tend to miss red flags, like being a rotten ***** or a cheater. You have listed your good qualities, so surround yourself with people who reflect them. And don't overlook the ones who may not be what you think you want. In the words of Lauryn Hill " What you want might make you cry, but what you need might pass you be if you let it.
2006-10-12 08:23:52 · answer #2 · answered by caplady2003 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself ,girls these days are sure not as so when I was dating ,And you sound like a good guy .I dint know why but us that are good ,are the ones to get hurt ,but you will meet a girl that's just for you in time .Just a suggestion you say when you do met one they hurt you by cheating try when you meet one not to latch on so quickly you play hard to get and see what happens .I truly wish you the best of luck ..
2006-10-12 08:41:26 · answer #3 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a question of time, you know... I am sure that one day you will find a nice girl.
The main part of you problem is that you are not looking for just a girl, you don't want to date any "rotten *****", you are looking for a suitable one, the one who would also share your interest, right? Sometimes it takes time to meet her.
2006-10-12 08:27:13 · answer #4 · answered by dever_marie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can't find a decent girl because you aren't looking!
remember that YOU can LOVE anyone you choose! ANYONE! there doesn't have to be some golden tablet come down from Heaven that says you're supposed to date someone. Love is a choice... you CHOOSE to Love someone. you CHOOSE to be kind, forgiving, understanding, selfless..., for THEM. sure, God will definitely bless you in a GOOD relationship- "open all the doors" that is- but in the end... it's up to you and whoever.
you can't find someone because you want them to date you. stop saying "oh, i wanna find a girl that's nice, outgoing, and whatever else i want...", say "i'm gonna put the qualities that i have out in the open, that way people can see who i am." show people that you Love them... amybe they'll Love you back. "do unto others as you would have them do unto you", right? YOU Love, CHOOSE to Love. Love someone like you'd want them to Love you... when someone sees that you Love them, they will be attracted to Love.
don't show off. ever. showing off in front of a group of girls is the stupidest thing anyone could ever do. people think you're a snot, and people think that you think you're better than them. (and, if you were to mess up- all those girls would think you're stupid!)
pray about it. in God's right timing, you'll get your person. pray for that time to come, and be obvious to you.
again- Love with all your heart. you do NOT just want girls for sex. you want to marry one some day and spend the rest of your life with them. that's the whole purpose of dating. this standpoint will truly help your relationships, as well. show people that you can and will Love- let them decide if they are gonna Love you back. (sure, you can show Love specifically to one person.) if someone couldn't Love you for life- they're not worth the heartbreak over. date like you want to find someone to marry.
- Silence Dogood
2006-10-12 08:19:12 · answer #5 · answered by Silence Dogood 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You lack Machismo and strength of character. Also I believe you are lacking in several of the department we would want and may be overestimating your attractiveness physique etc. Also I would put money on the sex being uselsss due to size technique and exterprise!
2006-10-12 08:16:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe you are just having bad luck for a while or you just dont differentiate between a stable and a jolly kind, try and like a girl for her good personallity and you might find luck
2006-10-12 08:17:02 · answer #7 · answered by ntu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well all i can tell you is that its not easy tryin to find love. but is that really expected to have a whole guid to it. your not going to find the girl of your dreams from the sky. you need to just start going with people who you find attractive and go for it.
2006-10-12 08:17:06 · answer #8 · answered by Charnelle aka Nelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to wait.Eventually you will find the right girl or she may find you.
2006-10-12 08:22:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hay Michael
Just take it easy..
Rather than searching for a girlfriend, just go out there and have some fun.....
And trust me, sooner than you know, you'll just bump into one another.
Good luck
2006-10-12 08:17:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋