my 10 yr old comes in and throws her clothes anywhere or stuffs them in her drawer, after nagging for her to hang them up-obviously not working i resorted to throwing a hissy fit at her!!! so feeling bad i thought i would ask any of you guys??
2006-10-12 00:59:32 · 30 answers · asked by angel 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
thanks you guys, i have tried the "leave on the floor and it will be binned" and she is grounded now for a week, she was also grounded last week for not doing or handing in her homework. i feel like im running a no-win race!! :(
2006-10-12 01:08:42 · update #1
in responce to clarefleck, i certanly do not expect her to act as an adult i am well aware she is still a child, however i am sure that we all need some responsibility in our growing years-i am sure you were expected to do something as a child for pocket money. i came from a big family so had to help my parents. She very often asks to help, therefore i gave her that one permanant job-after all she is 10-and learning to look after herself i feel is important in a girls youth!!
2006-10-12 02:04:50 · update #2
my daughter is 8, she knows that if she doesn't pick her stuff up she loses it. she knows this because i have done it to her. she's not perfect at it but she's a lot better. if your daughter expects to be able to do or have things then she needs to learn to earn them and you need to stop feeling guilty about doing your job as a parent
2006-10-12 01:18:58 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For god sake woman shes a child thats what children do your the parent, so you should hang her clothes up don't throw a hissy fit either because like i said shes a child and it's not fair on her grounding her, you should of been with her when she was doing her homework it sounds like you expect her to act like a adult
2006-10-12 08:14:24 · answer #2 · answered by clairefleck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't nag, don't throw a hissy fit, just calmly tell her that you'll remove her privileges - TV, computer, games console etc. - for as long as it takes to get her to realise that it's no big deal hanging up clothes because it doesn't take long. The quicker she does it, the more time she can have to watch TV or whatever.
You must stand by your decision to remove the TV etc. though - don't be fooled! Oh, and if you have Sky TV, remove the viewing card too.
2006-10-12 08:14:35 · answer #3 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't throw a hissy fit at her. Don't get mad at her or yell at her. Just tell her until it is done she can't go to her friends house or whatever girls that age do now. Just say you can do that as soon as you hang up your clothes. Ignore the hissy fit that she will throw. It will work and it will be good for both of you.
2006-10-12 08:05:19 · answer #4 · answered by Chewy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you could do what I did to my hubby when we first got married cos he never hung his clothes up either and it did my head in, I collected all his clothes from the floor, back of the chair, tops of drawers and anywhere he had dumped them, put them as well as everything else in his wardrobe in a suitcase up the attic and waited for his reaction, when he couldn't find anything I just said that's because there all in the wash, on the floor, draw or chair means dirty to me so you will have to go out in the niff till I have time to wash and iron, worked for me, he never leaves anything on the floor, chair or drawers these days.
2006-10-12 11:45:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy!
I did this with my daughter and it worked!!......
Make it perfectly clear that you will wash/iron her clothes and leave it on the end of her bed for her to put away and that if she wants to screw them up, toss them on the floor instead of putting them away then that is fine but not to expect you to re-wash/iron anything and she will have the humility of looking like a scruff pot when she goes out.
I also do this with dirty washing, if it isnt in the washing basket then it doesnt get laundered.
Same with the bed....i expected my daughter at 10yrs of age to change her own sheets, hoover and polish her own room.
I might seem harsh but now at 13yrs old, my daughter is more than capable of running the house on her own, she can cook, clean and do everything i can do even the ironing!!
hth x
2006-10-12 14:17:57 · answer #6 · answered by sweetfemaleattitudeuk2076 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what i did for my son was told him, that at the end of each day anything that was left on the floor was thrown away, i put anything in a big bag, put it in the bin whent they were asleep got stuff out and hid it, so he thought it was all gone. Also dont wash or iron her clothes, until she does what you ask her. She will soon come around when she runs out of clothes to wear
good luck
2006-10-12 08:05:25 · answer #7 · answered by scoobybird2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.My daughter got so bad when she was about twelve, that one day I grabbed all of her cloths everything that was laying where it shouldn't put them all in a bed cover and threw the lot onto the front lawn.
When the school bus drew up outside to drop her off of she was so embarrassed poor wee mite. I made the excuse that there were bees in her bedroom and in her cloths so I had to throw them out of the window. Oh dear, but hey it worked, no more untidiness
2006-10-12 08:06:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a very good question you have asked here and unfortunately I don't have the answer to your question. I have tried grounding my 12-year old daughter, taking her laptop off her, taking her tv off her, everything but still no luck. Incidentally you have not got such a bad problem because my 12-year old daughter has a twin brother and he's even worse!!!! No wonder i'm bald.
2006-10-12 08:37:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a good slapping- then tell her why youve given her a wallop- and tell her that she will get one every time she doesnt pick her clothes up and hang them up. Kids do not listen these days- actions speak louder than words. Parents these days are too bloody soft - that is why kids behave the way they do- no discipline or manners.
2006-10-14 17:36:17 · answer #10 · answered by Little Minx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋