My daughter is in 1st grade and doesn't really play with other kids. Kids like her but she ignores most of them. She told me it's because last year kids used to fight over her. They did, in Kindergarten, girls, and sometimes boys, would fight over my daughter, sometimes pulling her back and forth between them. The other day two girls did this and they were pushing each other and fighting over which one of them is my daugther's friend. My daughter got tears in her eyes and just sat down on the ground. I'm not sure why kids are doing this. Any ideas on what I can advise my daugther to do when she gets in that situtaion? She often spends recess alone or will go hang out with the adult playground monitor. That's fine with me if that's what she wants, but I have a feeling she'd love to be playing with the other kids, and I know she wants a best friend, but any time she starts getting close to a kid, there's that same conflict. Thanks in advance for any advice on this subject.
2006-10-11 23:47:12 · 6 answers · asked by nimo22 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I don't see my daughter doing anything to encourage children fighting over her, she'll just be going about her own business, and someone will want to play with her, then someone else will come along, and then they fight over her.
2006-10-11 23:48:19 · update #1
She's told me that she will be happily playing with a kid but then will just leave if someone else comes along and fights over her, and the day I witnessed it that's what happened, she was trying to say Hi to this little girl and give her a hug, when the other girl ran up and then the two girls started tussling over my daughter.
2006-10-12 00:01:18 · update #2
I had the same problem when i was little too, girls my age wanted to play and of couse they weren't all friends so it was on me to decide, which isn't very fair for a kid, so I ended up hanging around with older kids tho becuase most of the kids my age were,either mad at me or loved me eventually i noticed this and suggeseted we all play together it worked pretty great, (im from a smaller town though, it brought all of the kid in my class alot closer together,it was like a big fun family ). I didn't want to choose becuse things like that come round but your daughter is going to have to pick one side eventually or she could be the joining force that brings everyone together, I'd say trust you instincts and choose your friends wisely , hope this helps
2006-10-12 00:07:21 · answer #1 · answered by Jess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask the teacher to help her and see if she can get the kids to play with other kids and not worry about having a best friends
2006-10-12 11:18:38 · answer #2 · answered by weeksfamilyof4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Myabe some one is bullying her i dont think its umcompterble so i think u should switcch schools its really hard to not be a laughing stock or getting bullied
2006-10-13 02:49:13 · answer #3 · answered by cloud 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get the teacher on to it. She is the one at school with your daughter and can be on hand to help
2006-10-13 04:32:30 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave your daughter alone when she will be ready to play with kids she will do slowly
2006-10-12 06:55:54 · answer #5 · answered by dancingwiththestars 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had that problem it could be that she is shy but she might have ADD or other types of autism talk to her doctor
2006-10-12 14:29:55 · answer #6 · answered by *Pooka* 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋