2006-10-11 23:46:00 · 12 answers · asked by katie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
im english he is asian muslim and wants to move to his country, live with his mum etc and 4 me 2 convert 2 his religion, i am not religious want to stay here, since marriage he has laid down rules 4 me 2 live by, no drinking no wearing of clothes he disapproves of etc did i make a huge mistake???
2006-10-12 00:32:30 · update #1
love conquers all!
2006-10-11 23:48:00 · answer #1 · answered by candyfloss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you stay together then you and you are already unhappy then you will never be happy, everyone deserves happiness out there at some point whatever the cost. Do the right thing and walk away, you will have a more secure future, a better sense of well being and your baby will grow up happy and not clouded by an air of tenseness and arguments and upsets, its hard, I've had to do it (minus kid) but I never looked back and I will never regret it. Its part of life so embrace it, experience it and just get on with life.
Good Luck X
2006-10-12 11:09:12 · answer #2 · answered by caroline b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you didn't talk these things out before you got married and had a baby. It sounds like he is very controlling and not taking your feelings into account. I'd be afraid to move with him and his family because then you will be expected to live by their rules. This is a life changing decision that only you can make for yourself. Talk to a lawyer and see what your options are or go see a counselor to get some sound advise for yourself. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-10-12 07:45:04 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down and talk it out and let the other person know how you feel. If the feel the same way then you should split, but you should stay friends. Don't stay together because of the baby because then all it is going to do is hurt the baby. Be there for each other and be helpful to one another. You might find out that you are better friends than husband and wife
2006-10-12 07:22:23 · answer #4 · answered by piperandfrog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fine for a couple to have different views, but no way is it acceptable for him to dictate rules to you. Once he's started being controlling, his behaviour could easily go downhill and there's no way you should even consider going to another country to live with him (and his mother) unless you are sure you want to be with him. I'm not saying you should automatically leave him or anything (!), but i think you need to have a serious rethink about where the relationship is going and the best solution for all involved. Hope things get better.
2006-10-12 08:09:55 · answer #5 · answered by Nikita21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this descirbes my relationship, and weve been together 25 years and 2 kids...opposites attract. she has all teh qualities i lack, and i am what she isnt sort of thing. we dont like the same music, we read different books, watch different telly (apart from spooks etc)
shes great, and i love her to bits, in 25 years weve always had things to discuss, and debate, and as shes a veggie, and im not, shes a social activist, and im a political monster to the right of atilla the hun... but were both different people today, than we were 25 years ago.
personally i like my women to have an opinion, and to be able to articulate their arguments...is she agreed with everything i said, wow, that'd be so boring... variety is the spice of life...
2006-10-12 06:55:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a relationship things always seem to change with time so the incompatability may only be short term and things will change for the better.
When I was younger I had my doughts about our relationship we still have different of opinions but are best friends and are very much in love stick in there.
P&T
2006-10-12 06:56:17 · answer #7 · answered by paulterrie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my fiance for 3 years and we have lived together for best part of that and we don't have children 'yet'. we love each very, very much and we are totally different people and like different things but we get on because we learn off each other and as long as you have love you don't need anything else :-) Life and Love is all one big experience you learn from it. Be Happy xx
2006-10-12 07:06:49 · answer #8 · answered by KT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever seen the movie "Not without my Daughter"? Maybe you should. If you try to leave him you could be facing the same type of situation. I would talk to some attorneys to find out what your options would be. Good luck.
2006-10-12 09:26:14 · answer #9 · answered by Mollywobbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes...
huge mistake , not in marrying but in understanding urself...
marrying is not just a social scene or romantic night-- dere is a waking up wen both of u realize that u arent compatible....
love disillusions, so u wait and figure out---
marry a person u can b only friends with also...
for now, do wat u want to in ur life...
men can b persuasive and can disillusion u again, do ur thinking and stand on it firm...
u r a woman--d world for someone who wil truly appreciate u....
little compromises are fine, but in d end ur life does not have to follow his path..
choose ur own path...
god bless u
2006-10-12 08:28:05 · answer #10 · answered by Yash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY.
But why did you marry each other in the first place???? The bed is now made, it's time to sleep in it. It's your moral duty as a parent. You say you love your husband.... tell me what is more important than love????
2006-10-12 06:53:43 · answer #11 · answered by Jesus S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋