I have fallen out with my brother because i dont like his choice of partner. She is rough, abusive and nasty. She terrorizes us with nasty phone calls. She has caused nothing but trouble for him and our family. My brother is very loyal to her and sticks up for her just to keep the peace. Just because she doesnt like me, he wont have anything to do with me.
I am gutted. I love my brother so much but feel betrayed. I really miss him . How do you get over something like this?
2006-10-11 23:41:53 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sadly all you can do is let it take its course and wait. Eventually your brother will see this girl for what she is and when he does he will want the love and support of his family. If you really love him you need to let him make his own mistakes in life and just be there for him when it all goes wrong - he'll love you all the more for that rather than having a sister who is constantly nagging at him about his partner. We've all been there - daing someone our family dont like and we are the last ones to see it. He'll come back to you soon enough.
2006-10-11 23:48:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how your feeling, my brother and his wife split up almost 8 years ago, within a year he had met a right little trollop, a nasty aggressive excuse for a women plus the world best gold digger going, she worked at the same place as my hubby and tried to get him into trouble at work, she caused so much trouble between us, hassled us with nasty vindictive phone calls and just split him from his family and friends until she has him right under her thumb and in her control, we haven't spoken for 5 years now and it really hurts, I see him often in the supermarket but he is too afraid to speak as she is always with him and gives us her usual smirk when he isn't looking, I have had to accept that its his choice and his life and there is nothing I can do to change it, maybe one day he will wake up and smell the roses but until that day happens I just can't see him been in my life again, women like your brother and my brothers partners are worse than evil but they will get their comeuppance and we will still be here ready to pick up the pieces as usual, hope things work out for you.
2006-10-12 05:04:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate to say it but some times you cant. as much as you dis-like that witch if you want your brother in your life than you will have to keep quite about her. no matter what you decide let your brother know that you will always be there for him. he will wake up some day. maybe you can help speed up the process by having one of your single female friends hang out when his g/f isn't around-get his mind on some thing better. he may just be afraid of being alone.
2006-10-11 23:51:38 · answer #3 · answered by ash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation and there is no resolving it, you just have to wait for brother to come to his senses.
You have to respect that he has made his decision and be there when he realises the truth.
Sorry not to be able to give you a solution, but if you learn to accept the situation, you wil be able to move on in other directions whilst mourning for the temporary loss of the relationship with your brother. I am sure you will have him back one day and he will feel very foolish.
2006-10-11 23:46:12 · answer #4 · answered by michelle a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem...and year slater they divorced, so it didn't matter what I thought anyway. Just be there for him, its his choice, and he now knows what you feel. But if you make it too big a deal, you run the risk of him choosing never to talk or turn to you ever again, in case you say 'I told you so...' - you may be right, but act with grace and maturity and keep your brothers friendship
2006-10-11 23:43:38 · answer #5 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am afraid you just have to grin and bear it. If you love your brother and want to keep any kind of relationship with him you have to respect his wishes on this one, however unfortuante his choice is. They do say love is blind don't they? If she is as awful as you say just bide your time, she is bound to go wrong sooner or later and hopefully he will see the error of his ways. If you turn the tables and be nothing but nice to her, your brother will then notice how nasty she is to you and your family. Good luck!
2006-10-11 23:50:16 · answer #6 · answered by charlotte e 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody really knows what goes on behind closed doors.
Your brother is entitled to make his own life choices. If you want to be part of his life you have to accept that and make the best of it.
Be loyal to your brother.
2006-10-14 23:15:18 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is don’t criticize her in front of your brother that’s the last thing he wants and needs put up with her for his sake be polite respectful and charming to her face, if he sides with you he probably gets “hen pecked” so try to accept her he will work it out for himself given time. People don’t like being told who they can and can’t see.
2006-10-11 23:47:43 · answer #8 · answered by carla s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
but as you stated in you question "his choice of partner" not yours so if you dont like her then thats your opinion but keep it to yourself. draw a line in whats happend in the past and get on with your relationship with your brother but stop dissin his partner cause your the one whos gona end up in tears
2006-10-11 23:45:46 · answer #9 · answered by sleepwalker69 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kill them with kindness if your brother sees the effort your making it will highlight his partners shortcomings.It will also get right up the partners rather insecure nose. Good luck.
2006-10-11 23:50:15 · answer #10 · answered by dykerjohn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋