My mum is at me again being abusese , ive got no way to move no where to go, please help?

Question

I only have my car and thinking where to go but where should I go

Im 21 she always shouts at me , using wrong words , puts wrong blame, where should I go Ive goy no where to go, Ive put my my down in the housing list but they said it would take 6 years and I cant live here in this pain ful situation I want to run run right now

Ive always been good and I am a good person she just gets so so angry I m scared now

nikki they said unless my mum writes a letter only then they do something

Answer 1

0808 2000 247
Domestic Violence Helpline
You do not have to take it.
Leaving is the hard part, DO IT NOW

Answer 2

Oh babes, i know how you feel it is a terrible situation to live in, there is a way out, i promise, you need to go to your local council and declare yourself homeless, this is what i did, they will ask you why and you have to explain that you have been kicked out of home and that you have noone that you can turn too. i know that it does not sound very nice but, they put you into a B&B for the max of a month, then have to provide you with a flat. seriously there is a lot of waiting and sitting tight but it works. have you also thought about speaking to someone about your mums ways go to your gp and explain everything, he can not tell anyone and it will make you feel so much better knowing that someone understands you, if you want to talk then e-mail me i have been there and in a way still am but things will get better and you may even find that your realtionship with your mum will improve when you move out and she sees that you can do it on your own and that really deep down she will know that she was the one that pushed you to do this. good luck

Answer 3

Hi, I know exactly how you feel. I am now 47 and remember it very well, the hurt and pain you feel when your mother hurts you and says nasty things about you to friends and family. I left home at 16 years old because it was hurting me so much I felt many days that I wish I was dead, but I had a job, not a good one, but good enough to manage to leave home and rent a room, was not nice, shared my room with rates, but I had to do it. Over the years things never imporoved with my mother, her hate for me was to strong, because i was adopted, she hated me for that. I married, had children and swore I would never be like she was. You had to make the move and leave, your 21 and you should be able to cope on your one, it makes you become an adult quicker, if I could do it, then you can to. Just one more thing though, even after everything that had happend to me when I was younger, I still loved my mother so very much, right up to the day she died, my love was strong, and you must never think that your mother does not love you deep in her heart because she does. Make the break.

Answer 4

Don't run please daughter, home is home despite the harassment. Bear with them as you tell your mum that you are not happy with her doings. Let her have a talk with you. It isn't you alone who has this kind of a problem but many of your age have it. Give it some time and listen to what she says with a tender heart. It is advisable that you cool down, take her words for she is talking sense but your age is the problem. This you will come to understand after some time.

wish you a nice and lovely stay with your dear mum.

Answer 5

I really feel for you. You must stand up to her before its too late.
I finally did when i was 28yrs old....and i had lived on my own for 4 years prior to that.
My mum used to go through my mail, phone my friends, lie to my boyfriends, call me names and even punched me until i punched her back and floored her (not the best thing to do)
The situation got so bad i left my job got agency work driving and moved into B&B at the other end of the country to get away.
I now have my own house on the isle of wight and am happily married with a child and one on the way.
It took me 28yrs to stand up to my mother and now i have nothing to do with her. Please do not leave it this long, but also try not to permanently fall out like me because you only have 1 mother. I dont regret what i did, but you might.

Answer 6

There are always places to go. Obviously you have internet access. Look up abuse shelters, hotlines, and advisors. There are lots of options available to you. Being an adult, but still living with your parents, you still have numerous options. Type domestic abuse in your search engine bar, indicate what city (in some cases the county is required) you live in, and you'll get all sorts of links with telephone numbers.

Answer 7

There should be a group that can help you within your local area. In Gloucestershire this is Connexions. Go along to your Citizens Advice Bureau and ask them if they know of any young peoples groups.

Answer 8

Try to be good with ur mum n also try to creat good environment in family. coz if u once leave ur mum house u will again start missing her. so take good decision so that u will not need to loose anything.
Good luck.

Answer 9

No matter what you say or do parents wont listen. Join the army. Free food and housing. Get the hell away. I know the feeling. Or come work for me.

Answer 10

Well, your situation is not clear, through you question. However you can always contact the Social organization and explain them your situation. They will guide you. If it is necessary you can also go to police.

Answer 11

it must b very painful yes, but truly, stay back...
ur mom may b going through a rough patch, and wil get out of it..
give her a chance..
i know wen d screaming gets too much, u jus wanna leave...
i m not takin her side or anything...
m jus tellin u to b better person dan she presently is...
u dun give her back wat she is giving u--instead u give her a chance....
right now, it al sounds too good, but believe me--u b tougher girl...
dats d way to go...
not run away from situations but to handle dem...
dun abandon her--help her find her....
she did too wen u were a baby all lost...
jus think she is lost too...
she is UR mother...
take care..