2006-10-11 23:22:28 · 11 answers · asked by JULIA E 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Insecurities on their part would be my guess, although I don't think we'll ever fully understand the male brain haha!
2006-10-11 23:25:21 · answer #1 · answered by doodlenatty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is that your interpretation of a situation or is it the truth ?
It could be done intentionally or you might be putting 2+2 and getting 5. i.e.: adding something that isn't present into the situation because you think that is whats happening.
I think people in general want to show that they're ok despite the fact they are no longer in the relationship, a lot of it is on the surface and get underneath the front and it's not quite like that. This can either be putting a brave front on or alternatively to the maximum extreme making the other very jealous by showing how sucessful they are.
Putting a brave front on is usually a defensive position. Intentionally trying to make someone jealous is an aggressive position. Neither are ideal, the best position is to stay neutral but neutrality can be interpreted by someone as either of the above.
People often think others act like themselves so someone who is aggresive may think another is trying to make them jealous where a more passive person will interpret a situation as someone putting a brave face on something. Neither views are reliably accurate.
Theres a quote:
"To others we are not ourselves but actors in a play auditioning for parts we do not even know that we are playing"
Forgotten the source I'm afraid.
Alternatively the person in question could be just going about their business. be aware sometimes when a relationship is over people are more free to be fully self expressed in the moment, its generally because their head is suddenly clearer.
People who hare more neutral have likly come to terms with a situation, taken responsibility rather than blamed others and are thus clearer and more able to act into the future.
To another issue, If he is making you (actually we all have control on how we choose to feel) then how should one act if we are jealous.
Given that we cannot control how others "interpret our motives" my question is why do we go through the process of
1. try to interpret their behaviour
2. modify our behaviour
3. try to interpret their behaviour
4. modify our behaviour
etc etc
Instead of deciding / choosing what we want and just giving ourselves the power to go and get it instead of giving away all power by responding too much to our interpretations of others thoughts and feelings.
Starting to get crazy isn't it.
Answer is, if u are 100% sure he is trying to make you jealous then he's just covering up that something is still wrong, or he hasn't come to terms with something yet could be blaming you and not taking responsibility.
But remember he may not be intentionally trying to do this be careful and be honest with yourself.
With honesty comes understanding.
Try and be 100% neutral and positive about this situation yiou never know what the result could be ?
Above all, get the power over you own emotions (easier said than done) and choose how you want your results to be and how you want to feel.
2006-10-12 07:46:39 · answer #2 · answered by lifeontrack2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you, women, double cross them and they try to get revenge by making you wished you had stuck by them.
The reason they don't tell you is because women are born to argue against the truth.
Example?
My lupins looked nice by the front wall and along came a little boy who ran his hand up them to leave me with just a stalk.
Mother followed and I said. 'Look what he's done.'
'No he wouldn't do such a thing.'
'Look in his hand then.'
She turned his hand over brushed out the flowers and said.
'No here you are you can see for yourself. Leave him alone.'
She was not just a mother, she was a women.
Made me smile what about you?
2006-10-12 06:42:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all need to love and to be loved.
Most of our issues could be solved fairly easily, if we have our loved one supporting us.
If you are hurt by a former ex, well you just need to get yourself up and start searching for someone who deserves your love.
Don't ever be shy .. that won't ever help you .. and you'll have lots to lose. Do what your heart tells you it's right.
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2006-10-12 06:26:38 · answer #4 · answered by c g 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
some guys just plain assholes, some girls do that too. They need to grow up. It just some people have anger problems and get even with you. They can't control themselves and thier logic is lacking. get a new guy! and more matured. goodluck!
2006-10-12 06:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by sure_whatever_29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all men do, only the immature ones. I belive it suggests they are insecure and want to see a reaction to confirm that you still desire them.
2006-10-12 06:24:10 · answer #6 · answered by michelle a 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that's particular to just guys alone and I am sure its a human reaction.
2006-10-12 06:24:49 · answer #7 · answered by michael2003c2003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are not the only ones that acts this way, been there got the tee-shirt
2006-10-12 06:26:17 · answer #8 · answered by blue_eyed_southernman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cos it's an ego trip for them.
2006-10-12 06:23:48 · answer #9 · answered by Nettle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we are all bas+ards
2006-10-12 06:26:34 · answer #10 · answered by J B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋