So my boyfriend wanted to go on a break with me. I know why. I'm very clingy and attatched to him, but he likes to go off on his own sometimes and it upsets me.
It used to be the other way around. I would go off and tell him I needed some space.
I can't deal with this break. It's tearing me up... I'm thinking about going to his work today and asking him to take me back, but the original date is sunday when he will take me to the movies and dinner, for the first time in a year and a half.
I need help. I can't cope. I don't know. What should I do? Am I crazy?
2006-10-11 22:37:18 · 18 answers · asked by travish 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think some people misunderstand... we've been together for over 2 years, and this break is recent. like it started a few days ago
2006-10-11 22:58:35 · update #1
You obviously feel very strongly for him and although he feels for you, he might not want to rush things or is afraid of commitment. Give him the time he needs and wait until Sunday. I know the pain hurts wanting to see him, talk to him and touch him, but they need their space just as much as we do. Besides, it'll be worth the wait !!! Also, you know what they say about absence.
If you've been together a long time then maybe he just wants some space to think about where his life is leading, a break can help (my partner and I have been together 2 years and a couple of weeks ago he went through a stage of wanting to end things but then realising it was a mistake. We are happy together more than ever before. So I know the hurt you're going through). When you meet up Sunday, ask him and let him know how this is affecting you.
2006-10-11 22:41:57 · answer #1 · answered by Dragon Empress 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is on a break - but you have movies and dinner for the first time in a year and a half??? That is the pits= get unclingy and do not go to his job- you will look like a total nut case and idiot- chill out and leave him alone- you need a time out and a chill pill- you can cope and you will- decide to. Don't sound like an irritatiiing annoying mosquito!!Don't beg and be needy- have some dignity- that behaviour would turn any guy OFF- chill out- if' I read correctly you have a date sunday- relax = take a deep breath through your nostrils and exhale slowly through your mouth- this will pass- take care=D
2006-10-11 22:50:29 · answer #2 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same way, and I hope you're not crazy cause then I'd be crazy too. The way I see it is that as long as we are occupied than it's OK, the moment we have nothing to do or there's no one around we panic because we're not used to being in that situation and if you're anything like me; you also like calling the shots. I say just kick and coast. I've learned to, of course it's w/ a different man, but no good can come from the way you're behaving. You can also seek counseling.
2006-10-11 22:43:38 · answer #3 · answered by abra_got_personality 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this happens all the time to most relationships. It happens to me. When two people are in love, one always cares more than the other. This leads to insecurity which can be very disappointing to the less-caring one.
There also times where this situation switches. I believe it's the necessery evil in a relationship.
My advice is, now that you feel neglected, start showing you are not that crazy. Make him think you can walk out any time. This will shake him if he loves you (worked fine for me).
If that wont work, well... The guy just aint worth being loved!!!
2006-10-11 22:47:14 · answer #4 · answered by manosfantasyart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a hold of yourself woman! Wait til sunday. If you turn up too early you're going to look way to desperate and clingy. It may be exactly that which is turning him off. You have to start to find something for yourself without him. Believe me, guys actually enjoy women who have their own interests and are confident without having to have them around all the time. You may be putting too much pressure on him. It's hard to be the soul reason for someone elses happiness. Find something other than him that makes you happy and he will respect you for it.
2006-10-11 22:43:47 · answer #5 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely understand, I am going thru the same situation. All I can tell you is that you and your closest friends and family can help you get thru your heartache. Try to involve yourself in different activities, better yourself, keep your mind off things. Seek help from friends, they really do help you get thru the toughest of times. The most important thing is patience, you need to keep your cool. If not than it's downhill for you. I know it hurts but we have to move forward, not backward. Best of Luck!
2006-10-11 23:32:18 · answer #6 · answered by cam1560 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A year and a half is not a break it's a break-up. Do yourself a favor and stop waiting around for him. Find someone who wants a relationship with you, not just wants to keep you around for back-up.
2006-10-11 22:46:19 · answer #7 · answered by nana_bad_ass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know what wrong with you - you just daid that your to clingy and attatched - everybody from time to time needs space! some more than others but more so if they feel as if your suffocating them! give the man his space! if you cant do that then maybe you need to deal with your own insecurity! and that's a whole new issue, ya think?
2006-10-11 22:43:50 · answer #8 · answered by Phaque tu" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to that C G person, it is an advertisement.
Everyone needs space, some more than others. respect his space and find something to occupy your time while he has his space....eventually he will come around and wonder what you have been up to. You are not crazy. Just leave him be as he wishes.
2006-10-11 22:44:40 · answer #9 · answered by ~MEEEOW~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get through this. I know your first reaction is to reach out to him, but, if you do, you will only turn him off and hurt your chances of reuniting. Unfortunately, the ball is in his court. In the meantime, take care of yourself. Stay busy...it keeps the desperation at bay. And remember, we have all been hurt...you are not alone.
2006-10-11 22:43:32 · answer #10 · answered by Lalalalalala 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋