2006-10-11 22:23:23 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well you've got responses from different people who're speaking from different perspectives - boys who are or were in similar situation as you & girls who are or were in the same situation as your gf. Well here's the opinion of a guy who was in the postion of your gf's bestfriend. I was in the same situation around 2 years ago. I was bestfriends with this girl who had a bf, who was working in another city. Well initially it was nothing but a really healthy friendly relationship between us...I'd like to say like some girls here did that there's so no danger of something wrong happening in such a relationship... but in my case we went a step a further and became lovers.... i knew she had a bf and I was not initially happy about cheating on this guy, since he was a guy I knew and liked.... but anyways to cut a long story short... it was the biggest mistake of my life.... i have lost the friendship of the girl today... in fact she hates my guts.... and of course the guy doesn't feel warm towards me, even though he doesn't know what exactly happened. So my advice to you.... it's perfectly normal to be jealous, but asking your gf to leave her best friend is not a respectable action....but at the same time don't be too cool about it. The best way for you would be to always be there for your girl, show your love for her in everyway you can without cramping her personal space. Become friends with this guy and if possible with her entire group. This way you can keep tabs on both of them, without looking like a jungle man, beating off all males around his mate.
2006-10-11 22:54:03 · answer #1 · answered by Mabopsa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone needs friends, wether they be of the same sex as them or not. Having a platonic friend of the opposite sex can work very well for everyone involved. It can give u an insight into the opposite sex's mind. U can ask for opinions without it hurting the relationship ur in , etc, etc,... If u trust ur girlfriend then there should not or ever be a problem with her having a (boy)friend. If u don't then u shouldn't be with her. Basically it is a matter of trust, honesty and love :-) good luck to u
2006-10-11 22:34:20 · answer #2 · answered by nicciinoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to tell you from my experience i was in love with this boy and still i am.He was behind me like a mad boy and i was ignoring him and now after seeing his behaviour fallen in love with him the,coming to the point he has a best friend who is a girl and i was not liking it so made him know about it he was upset and said i have only one friend who is close to me who i can trust and tell everything and can't leave her and went away from me that time i did not understand that they r just friends but i took it a wrong way and now i dont have him but they r and always will be true friends.if you really love this person set her free show her all your love and one day you will know that your insecurity was not real and you dont have your love forever,love her unconditionally if it still does not work then atleast you have loved this person for real
2006-10-12 01:39:39 · answer #3 · answered by eme7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See this often happens. The most important thing is whether she loves u or not . if she does then don't worry, she is yours. The boy is probably trying to impress her. Maybe he also likes her and is trying to bring her closer to him. Just don't worry. LOVE ur gf so much that she doesn't even think of anyone else. Give her all the luv in the world and go on with ur life ignoring the boy.
2006-10-11 22:33:08 · answer #4 · answered by Rashi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like Sting said, 'if you love somebody, you must set them free'. Just relax and trust. If she does have something more with him, then that is a sign that your relationship is not meant to be. That's okay, because better to find out now, than in five years from now. Then move on and look for somebody else. But don't get angry - plenty of fish in the sea.
2006-10-11 22:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by Bob M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend is a guy so I can tell you this from her point of view, if anything was going to happen there, it would have happened. Acting jealous and insecure isn't going to change their relationship, however it may make her really sick of your behavior, and you know what will happen then.
If you trust her, then trust her. If you really think there is something going on between them then move on.
2006-10-11 22:30:10 · answer #6 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know what your age is or whether you are a guy or gal, but even i used to feel the same thing about my best friend, but in school times. i could get over it only when i grew up. But the best thing would be to talk about this to her.
2006-10-12 01:14:22 · answer #7 · answered by christina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi!
never let a moment slip by in which u can tell how much u love her! that way she'll have a bend towards u!always be there in her times of need!she will love that!
and most important thing -try to be more trustworthy and trust your girlfriend ,b'coz trust and honesty is the base for any relation !ok!
GOOD LUCK!
BYE!
2006-10-12 00:29:58 · answer #8 · answered by filz_lmf786 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly, if u have this sort of friendship together with her, then you definately are very fortunate. I definitely have few guy friends like that & i treasure their friendship. the main mandatory element in one among those dating is that u come out with it & tell her that that's in basic terms a friendship you have in concepts. (a minimum of at cutting-edge). Then she would not waste time questioning what u r getting at or causioning herself from being open wit u thinking she can furnish u the incorrect theory. positioned across the Message to her that u r an open minded individual who could have & shield a dating as a friendship with the alternative intercourse. consistently submit to in concepts that when that distinctive somebody walks into her existence/ur existence, issues will replace with ur friendship. the two could desire to comprehend that they must make room for that individual; meaning, u could have lesser time for the different. yet whilst ur friendship is sound & solid, it's going to proceed no rely how lesser contacts u'll have. additionally if u or she is married/engaged/commited permit that different individual additionally comprehend that u 2 share in basic terms a deep friendship and introduce them on your friendship too. (this could shop you from a great sort of difficulty/misunderstandings) by using ways, my rule for a solid dating is; "provide 70% to the r'deliver & assume 30% from her/him". whilst the two preparation this; the two paintings lot in the direction of the r'deliver and expects much less. subsequently consistently satisfied!! playstation optimal ask urself no rely if u in basic terms prefer a friendship together with her `coz u sound as in case you have met ur soulmate!! :) stable success
2016-10-16 02:42:13 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is only natural! I would personal be climbing the walls! You have to deside if you can deal with it or not because she wont give up her friendship. Remember they are really close so if something was going to happen between them it probably would have happened already but she choose to be with you!
2006-10-11 22:29:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋