How do I react? My father,step mom and brother and sister were planning on moving to FL thursday. Well I went last week to help with there garage sale. I told them I was really sad they were leaving and I wanted to see them again for like a "real" goodbye. I called him Sunday and I said When can i come see you, and hes like well im headin out the door and he promised he would call me back later that night. Well I tried calling and they wouldnt answer. They Left today. Never called me, never nothing. I shouldnt have made him promise because I knew he would never keep a promise to me. My older brother saw him today, then I called him and told him the story so he called my dad and his reasoning was he was stressed. I left him a voice mail saying how much he hurt my feelings. OH and I found out they left because the house number was disconnected. What a father, I always give him chances to prove that he is a real father. BTW im 20.What should I say or do?
2006-10-11 22:20:56 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
everyone keeps saying "just get over it" basically, which shouldn't be the case at all. All you were even asking for was to see your father before he moved 7 states away... close to 26 hours away. There's no reason that a father should NOT see his daughter before he leaves and goes that far away... if anything, despite the stress and sadness, he should want to share at least a little bit of time with you. thats what a good father would do. its sad to see so many people entrust so much effort into relationships like this that end up being one-sided.
hopefully though, in a couple days when you may cool down... you will call him, and instead of talking to his voicemail, you will get to talk to him. make it clear that he hurt your feelings, that it was wrong for him to not so much as to call you to say goodbye, let alone see you before he left. for all he knows, it couldve been the last time...But anyway, see what he has to say... even though there is a lot of tension between you two (as i could imagine) - things could be fixed.
2006-10-12 09:36:44 · answer #1 · answered by llsoinlovell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, naturally your hurt and I don't blame you. You sound as if you love your father very much and want him to return that love. I would just wait till he calls and see what he has to say. His stress could be from the move and that he was just tired. Let him make the next move, you've tried.
2006-10-11 22:27:26 · answer #2 · answered by abra_got_personality 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive him and move on. Also, see a counselor or minister that will honestly guide and support you through these hard times.
Your father will come around in time. Don't allow yourself to get hurt again. Time will heal your wounds.
2006-10-11 22:24:25 · answer #3 · answered by ginger13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moves an be very bussy times (I know still unpacking). It seems unreal that you expect your famely to jump through all these hoops to help your seperation fears. Rather than being demanding of there time you could have tryed to be understaing. Might they have felt it was a bit unreal of you to expect them to hold everything to wait on your call or visit.
2006-10-11 22:36:44 · answer #4 · answered by Ben 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go with the flow of life .Wait at least 1 day for their call and if you pick up just say where have you guys beeen lately?just make conversation
2006-10-11 22:25:20 · answer #5 · answered by SOinLOVEwithHIM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you said, he is not a real dad to you. Keep him in your life if you wish, but I don't think you need to make any extra effort with him.
2006-10-11 22:25:36 · answer #6 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he really was stressed and sad so he didn't want to see anyone.Try to talk to him and hear what he has to tell you.Best wishes!Remember, every parent loves its children no matter if he shows love or not!
2006-10-11 22:24:59 · answer #7 · answered by ♥beautyfly♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋