Hi guys, i hope u all remember me, whom a guy cheated after proposing through a matrimonials. he really made me be serious about him and then backed out saying that he is married and is a father of 2 kids. i was shattered into pieces. Now i have got his work place address through which i can make this story public to his colleagues and authorities. But if i do this my love for him which i had has no meaning. What are all your opinions??????
2006-10-11 22:10:13 · 24 answers · asked by gowri 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As your love was based completely on lies your love for him has no meaning anyway. However going to his work and telling his colleagues will achieve nothing. He is obviously a compulsive liar and would probably just deny the whole thing. Don't lower yourself you have to just move on and put it down as a bad experience!
2006-10-11 22:16:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, i would say that by opting to take revenge, you will be stooping down too..(quite like him). If I were you, I'd have shed a coupla tears, taken this episode as a big lesson in life which made me a stronger person, and would have moved on.
If you go on and try to take a revenge.. it is not going to get you your peace of mind. But forgiving him with a smile will make u more evolved.
2006-10-11 22:16:21 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Rain 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, if he's married and the father of 2 kids, then you should just forget about him. Don't get revenge, because he can say that you seduced him, then it will be PUBLIC "he said, she said". While he deserves the headache, his wife and kids didn't do anything to deserve it. Why screw up three other lives trying to get a little of your own back? It's not worth it.
Hope that helps. Good luck.
2006-10-11 22:14:26 · answer #3 · answered by Lizzie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No never seek revenge because what goes around comes around. He will get his but not by your schemes. Vengence is mine says the Lord. You have more positive things to do in life than getting back at someone. Maybe,while you are trying to get back at this guy you miss the opportunity for the right guy
2006-10-11 22:15:20 · answer #4 · answered by MeToo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
forget it, no matter how unfair it is to you...if you confront him in his doorstep,yes you'll get the revenge you wanted coz it might take a blow on his marriage and to the kids..but will it do you good? you can never be sure of the consequences plus the fact that if you draw attention to yourself, it might drag your life to some nasty places...you've had enough misery why add more to it...no, you're not being stupid coz so didn't gave him a dose of his own medicine...you're just protecting yourself from scrutiny and more misery..
oftentimes when something bad come upon us we think irrationally...try to calm yourself and think things over...i know you're hurt and its really unfair, but what's done is done...apparently he wanted to keep his family so be it...try to be more careful next time, if you need a background check before seeing someone then do it if it makes you feel comfortable...
revenge is not the answer...time will come and what he did to you will never come unnoticed, but it is not for you to take the action...there is more power in owning your defeat...it makes you strong and wiser...
2006-10-11 22:30:08 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmm well revenge isn't all that sweet at the end of the day cause you usually end up making an **** of yourself... let karma take it's course then laugh your **** off at him..i would get on with your life and do what youve always wnated to do and be a huge sucess and be happy, thats the sweetest revenge and it doesn;t hurt anybody. Cheers!!!
2006-10-11 22:15:56 · answer #6 · answered by springo88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you need to forget about it...you are more hurt because you let this happen to you...and no clue as to who this guy really was...so you couldn't have loved him...you loved who he was pretending to be. Some people do things in life they have no answer for...what he was doing was wrong...but no reason to hurt his wife and children...you wont be getting even with him...you'll be distroying her and the children...she will know that everyone on earth knows he cheated...although no one like for anyone to know that....You just need to realize...you made a mistake...you need to pick'em a little better. You don't have to say anything to win...winning comes with honor....do the honorable thing...and move on....He's the dog....no reason to hurt everyone else for your gain.....
2006-10-11 22:18:49 · answer #7 · answered by Chocolate_Bunny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is a waste of your time and feelings you have wasted enough of both already he Will get his in the long run protect yourself guard your heart in future believe in what you know not always what is told to you ask questions meet your man friends family and colleges
2006-10-11 22:27:48 · answer #8 · answered by BOOGIE49er 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wasting time on such man. Move on. Revenge will not make u a happier person. If u think he has done enough damage then move away from him.
2006-10-11 22:28:22 · answer #9 · answered by Sob Sob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all need to love and to be loved.
Most of our issues could be solved fairly easily, if we have our loved one supporting us.
If you are hurt by a former ex, well you just need to get yourself up and start searching for someone who deserves your love.
Don't ever be shy .. that won't ever help you .. and you'll have lots to lose. Do what your heart tells you it's right.
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2006-10-11 22:14:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋